PMDD Partner Impact Story

[goldiph]

Sending every brave woman getting her body and mind hijacked monthly so much support and love!

[fleuressence]

Brought me to tears. It's so beautiful knowing there are partners who are strong enough and can see the good in you vividly enough to stand by you when the storm comes. What a man
<3

[TheRandomINFJ]

*Woman's perspective*

I have PMDD very badly. For one week every month for most of my life, i have uncontrollable outbursts and mood swings. My body doesn't metabolize drugs properly so nothing works. The one thing i needed and wanted was for a partner to try to understand this condition instead of walk away from it and prove to me that although society preaches to be kind to the broken or downtrodden, it isnt true. I needed somebody to prove that three weeks of love and goodness really does matter more than one week of my mind being hijacked and me hating myself than he ever could.

[ashleybarrettknits]

IAPMD - as a therapist in your community I'm begging - can you please moderate some of the comments on this thread? They are harsh and critical of a person who suffers a severe physical and mental disorder that they did not ask to have.

If you are a sufferer of PMDD reading some of these comments, know that it is hard for your partner AND you also don't deserve to be seen with the contempt and disgust reflected in some of these comments. You deserve to be healthy, happy, and held by your community. There are therapists who help/support couples dealing with PMDD just like there are therapists for couples where one person has cancer. If you're a partner, your story is important, too, and you matter. You deserve support and care. Therapy can help you process what you're experiencing and a couple's therapist can help you both come up with effective strategies to create a strong and safe relationship.

[sunflowerguy]

I have been dealing with my wife's PMDD for 15 years and it's not getting better as she hits mid 40's. It use to be 2 weeks a month now it is almost 3. YES, I have a wife for 1 week per month. I wish it was only depression like this speaker says, but unfortunately it's rage and violence. She refuses to seek help and I am starting to lose my patience. This disorder is no joke

[IdratherbeinHobbiton]

puts it more into perspective for me as to what my husband has to deal with every month when I go through my "hulk" mode. I could not have asked for a more understanding man to walk with me through life. When he said his friends told him to end it because he didn't deserve it, I started bawling. Why? Because I was dumped twice in the past because of my PMDD, and my boyfriends at the time had friends telling them they didn't deserve to put up with me anymore. At the time I didn't know what was 'wrong' with me. One of my ex's even was completely convinced that I was bi-polar and tried to make me start taking medication for it. I hated him for that.
But now I know, and am lucky to have my husband. We are on the road to better managing my PMDD. Together.

[courtellis]

i think i struggle with this every damn month, crying spells, camps, suicidal feelings. i feel nobody in my family understands it they just either tell me to buck up or "straighten up and act like a lady". it's very upsetting and frustrating i feel like no one cares this is real. sending hugs and love to every woman out there. i feel your pain. it's good to have a partner who understands and is willing to stick through it with you.

[randywood-vqwl]

My wife has pmdd and going through a episode right now let me tell you this man is amazing cause it like my wife is my worst enemy the way she treats me it's hard to catch it's not her it's her illness

[kylady]

This is a real man. Unselfishly, he struggled, he persevered, he loved in spite of, gathered information, built a support system...and his family WON! God bless them for sharing this message of hope!

[udmgraduate]

My wife and I have been married 5 years. 2 kids. She has PMDD. I’m losing hope. I will never divorce her, ever. I don’t know what to do though. She sees a counselor, doesn’t like them because of what they say, then moves on without them and gets another one. Rinse and repeat. She’s a wonderful woman when she’s not in the throes of PMDD, but it’s like being married to schizophrenic narcissist when she is. Please help me. Nobody understands PMDD in my life and I need help. She needs help. We need help. How can I best love my wife out of this mess?

[Lucafarrugi]

At first my husband like you couldn’t understand what I was becoming, its like an evil person entered in me....from a kind and loving person to hatred, anger and husband use to think I was doing things to divorce. After I started therapy, he came with me and understood what happens to me two weeks every month.

[roselin]

I love my husband he has been so patient with my PMDD❤️

[fineartlifestyling]

The mental illness is a side effect of the actual condition. Dr. Lolas' theory hits the nail on the head! Why is this information not getting out there? The answer is in the inflammatory response due to bacterial and pre-cancerous infection like HPV and candida in the euterus and cervix that causes this crazy condition! I have been suffering from this since age 14 and I am now 33 years old. I had discovered this information 2 years ago. I have been formally diagnosed in May 2018 and I am undergoing treatment in January 2018. If the protocol that I have come up with works I will be sharing this information with the world. Hold on ladies! There is hope. And above all, thank you so much to men like Mark and my husband Pavel for their grace and patience. We are so appreciative!

[snuball]

I'm actually in tears. This is exactly my story too.

[natethebesttt]

I’m in a relationship with a woman with this disorder. It is the worst thing I have ever dealt with and I have seen some bad stuff before. I don’t know what to do because I care about her but it’s gone from being aggressive and yelling to demanding money in an entitled way and calling me names when I don’t give it to her. I don’t know what medication she takes aside from her birth control but apparently it’s not enough. I don’t want to leave her but it’s been so difficult to put up with her constant abuse.

[taylordowning]

Not easy to watch, but very insightful. Amanda has been blessed to have a wonderful husband.

[jasonblaha]

My partner suffers from this and every two weeks I have to go through the mental and physical abuse. She puts me down and shouts and screams at me and has physically attacked me over eight times now. She has cheated on me and tells me she doesn’t love me. I have tried to leave numerous times but then she tells me she wants me back. I love her dearly but I don’t think I can hang in much longer. I have supported her in every way I can from saying she should go to counseling, seeing a specialist, making her eat better nutrition and getting into fitness. I do everything for her, cleaning, cooking and treating her like a princess. I am at my wits end. It’s affected my mental health, my physical health, friendships and family
I just don’t know what to do anymore

[sierralewis]

It can truly be debilitating. I get violent and break things when i get it. Its very scary and it really makes you feel psychotic.

[jovt]

I don't know if there is hope, sometimes, because I'm luteal right now, but listening to this... I hope my husband listens to it, so he can feel release from the "prison, " that is not knowing how to deal with someone you love who is a freaking mess 2 weeks a month, and being able to say that loudly and clearly: "I don't know how to do this! I can't do this alone!" Alcohol... drinking can become a way of coping for partners. I do think he should put me in a hospital, and divorce me, marry someone "normal" and healthy, and visit me, still love me, but not let me damage him anymore. What is the hope? Is there really any? Will you ever have your wife back fully? I just don't think that... I don't know if that's possible.

[nicolarenshaw]

Bless you. I know that I put my poor husband through so much. I'm really lucky to be so loved and supported and your wife is really lucky to have you too. Best of luck to you and your family ❤🙏❤