'Men Do Not Cry' Written by Beverly Martin

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This poem by Beverley Martin is a beautiful and emotive reminder that it's ok for men to cry. Sharing this video will help to break the stigma around crying and show that emotions are natural, no matter what gender you are.

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Narrated by Tom Wright.

Men do not cry
This is what boys were told
By heroes and teachers
And men who’d grown old
Men do not cry
It will make you look weak
Said mothers and fathers
Not a tear must you leak

Boys play with footballs
With guns and toy cars
Go camping and fishing
Sleep under the stars
Boys must be warriors
Must be tough and be strong
Like their fathers before them
Must never do wrong

For many a boy
These rules were so tough
Not every young boy
Wants to play rough
Some want to dance
Some want to sing
Back then being different
Was not a good thing

Boys must join clubs
Become a good scout
For some boys this was hell
Quite a few I don’t doubt
Boys must be sporty
Be fast when they run
Be fierce when they box
Make it look like great fun

For some boys it’s easy
To be all these things
For the boys that struggle
The pain of it stings

When boys get older
When they grow into men
The pressure of life
Gets much bigger again
Get a job
Pay the bills
Put the food on the table
Get married
Have kids
Be strong and be stable

Men do not cry
They remember this well
From parents and leaders
This untruth they did sell
But for men who were boys
Boys told men do not cry
To unlearn these words
Is like learning a lie

Men do not cry
Carved deep in the soul
Of a man once a boy
Just playing a role
Men do not cry
Says the voice in his head
As a tear hits his pillow
While laying in bed

Men do not cry
The story so old
When he was young
It was all he was told
Time, it has passed
In the blink of an eye
Men do not cry
He now knows is a lie

For the man once a boy
Boy told men do not cry
Met a girl with a heart
Who made his soul fly
She broke all the rules
With her free-roaming spirit
They laughed and they cried
They took life and they lived it

Years have gone by
He’s a father now too
That man once a boy
He now knows what is true
Men do not cry
He never will say
He can’t say the words he heard
Day after day

As he watches his wife
While she comforts their son
The longing he feels
Like the wound of a gun
As his son sobs his heart out
And tears fall like rain,
Men do not cry
No, not ever again

When the child falls over
Or cuts his knee
He cries and he cries
His soul, it is free
He plays on his bike
He plays in the sand
He’s often been seen
With a doll in his hand

What does it matter
Why must men not cry
Asks the man once a boy
boy told Men do not cry
To this, there’s no answer
No truth to be told
Men should cry proudly
With pride, break that mould

As his son gets older
So much he has learned
About life and emotions
How respect must be earned
To lead with authority
Lead with love and not fear
To hold loved ones close
To know what is dear

As he looks back on life
At his wife and his son
His heart filled with joy
He feels like he has won
Now the man once a boy
Boy told men do not cry
With them both by his side
On the day he would die

The words he will leave
That he wants to be heard
Is men can cry freely
To not cry is absurd
Set your soul free
Let your heart overflow
Let your sons play with dolls
Just allow them to grow
This lifetime is short
Like a beautiful dream
Make love, laugh and cry
Nothing is what it seems.

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[andykane]

I have watched this multiple times, it’s absolutely stunning. Thank you for all the effort gone into this and thank you Beverly for your magical words .

[imcryinginmyroom]

I'm 18 y.o. and i guess the last time I cried was like a year ago, yeah in front of everyone, but i cry at night sometimes thinking about the future, about my family, about the surprises i have planned for my father, my grandfather, mom and grandmother. I cry because what if anyone will die before me, how I'll live, who will hug me when I'll cry again. My father is a gentlemen, he's the one who changed the way we used to live.
For all men, we all know the lessons that our father gave us, i want to show him that I'm above his expectations, not now but one day I will be, and i hope every person reading this will make his dad proud.

[SalmonFeet]

Genuinely one of the most soul touching things I think i've heard yet

[rishusingh]

It's absolutely a good articulation of the feelings of the men.

[tvthecat]

Men don't cry. They don't cry in front of others to make sure others don't feel unsafe. Men cry silently. If a man crys loudly in front of people it means he is broken and it takes a lot to break a man.

[marknoonaniv]

This is one of the MOST POWERFUL POEMS I HAVE EVER HEARD.

[dude]

I pray that anyone that struggles that God may strengthen you in your battle
I genuinely feel sad to see anyone that is going through pain
May you feel loved and cared for by God and the people in your life .

[ajsorrells]

I remember at my grandfathers funeral going to the bathroom and hitting myself in the head trying not to cry and “ embarrass” myself.

[julzee]

Don’t get it twisted men. Tears do not equal effeminate - it shows strength and compassion. It shows you are so secure in your manhood that you see mo risk in being vulnerable to pain and joy. It makes you human

[musicbtch]

I cried a few years ago after many years of my eyes being dry and that was when I was told I was loved that I didn’t need to hide my real feeling that I’m a human that I am cherished. I felt guilty for showing my emotions it felt embarrassing but most importantly it felt right. It’s ok to cry.

[yssunjoko]

I agree. Men are the stronghold of society. We have to be strong because we serve others. Whatever suffering that comes, we may look sad but no tears may flow. We cry only at funerals.

[rajupaswan]

Men always makes sure to not let anyone to see him crying. Not in front of his mother, father, friend, best friend, wife, girl friend, kids etc. They don't want to be judged. They don't want to take any pity from anybody. They dont want to explain why they are crying because he knows no body will understand him. Thats the reason they cry silently in the dark and then he console himself, talk to himself that everything will be fine and lives his life.

[totroco]

Once i cried out in a gf house, she didnt supported me and she stopped liking me. I have lost a lot, im not afraid of crying. That day i knew she wasnt for me. Mens do cry, cus humans cry.

[jerryhall]

It's a new idea that men don't cry. Perhaps from around 1800. Before that they cried. Often loudly. Some situations required them to show deep emotions.

[bongomurphy]

I wish I could think of the words to describe how powerful this is. Congratulations and I hope this is shared far and wide.

[chicagogalaxy]

i try my best to hold back the tears because whenever i'm in a emotional state, people looked at me as if I was a little cry-baby

[justicebuster]

Thank you for this, I still don't have the ability to cry, its built up inside me and I can't let it out

[hello.]

More ppl need to see this. Seriously. Every single person in the world needs to hear these words.

[tanyac-b]

Amazing video I have always told my son's men & boys can cry it does not make them weak. To bottle things up makes things a lot worse .

[mzain]

I still can't cry . like my hand will slap my face literally without control .