Cognitive Distortions: Personalization

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*Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional, and this not therapy nor does it replace it. This is supplemental information.

Cognitive Distortions are defined as errors in thinking that continue even when there is obvious contradictory evidence or there is an obvious lack of evidence.

They are important to know because they can cause a lot of grief in our life, especially when it comes to communicating with others. Distorted thinking can be exacerbated by anxiety, but it can also cause anxiety by itself. Today we look at Personalization!

[murtazaarif]

I personalize situations but I am slowly learning to overcome that by taking a look what is going on inside my mind. I have social anxiety and I am on the Autism Spectrum Disorder ASD. So this tendency rises quite easily. A situation I am learning to overcome is the anxiety that forms when people sometimes cross the road to avoid me. I used to feel very hurt and still do but not so much anymore. I tell myself they do not know me. So that means they are not targeting the person I truly am inside. I think of times when I truly got to know strangers by spending a lot of time with them. This stranger on the street is no different. I am sure they are a nice person. I realize their behaviour says something about them rather than me. They probably have insecurities. It would be nice to hear your tips on overcoming my situation.

[dragonofdeath]

The last example you gave also reminds me of another cognitive distortion I've heard of called jumping to conclusions. I've noticed that this happens a lot, especially when feeling strong emotions. For instance: someone is sounding annoyed or is in a bad mood for some reason and you assume that there annoyance or bad mood is caused by you for some reason. "What did I do?" "I didn't do anything to you I am in another room, please stop yelling or sighing, or huffing, or whatever the person is doing that makes me think the person is in a bad mood or whatever. I don't know if you know about, or covered this particular distortion; I just found this video when searching for something like this and subscribed. Thank you.

[Gladysaur]

Really good video with great tips!
For me, it used to stem more from not trusting people and thinking they all had hidden intentions. I slowly began to just realize that in the end, whatever happened I'd be ok, and that I didn't need to assume bad or good intent, I just didn't need to assume at all and take things as they go. Its helped and the few times I have "missed" on other peoples passive aggressiveness or have been told that I don't pay attention to their feelings I just respond that "I didn't know" and that I'd like for them to be honest and tell me about it. Usually its worked out. For those that continued to feel I needed to mind-read them, I just slowly started drifting away. Its too much work otherwise and doesn't help with my anxiety lol.

[jsmney]

I feel like this is really closely related to road rage too haha

[daniellathorn]

Really good video please do more like this

[dan-]

Oh man this is so silly. My parents often tell me to eat some bakery they just bought or go drink tea with them and I translate it as : you don't know, we know better, I must do what they say cause they think I'm not independent and can't think for myself. I start feeling worthless and incapable of making my own decisions. From what I've heard in this video that's personalization? I guess.. I know my thoughts are silly. I'm new to cbt, but I feel like I need to work on readjusting my automatic thoughts. Thanks for the video! Amazing! PS. Along with mind reading

[lua_satik]

"maybe he's just been concentrating on not poop himself" I died HAHAHAHHA

[Dorian-ltjb]

Omg, I'm so glad I found this video, like wow the whole "buying organic" thing is me lol.

[MormonMustang_]

My mother has this distortion so bad!! I mean so bad that she should seek therapy. An example of my mother is:

Me: " The roast beef I ate the the restaurant last night was horrible."

Mother: "my roast beef is good, right?"

Situation: a cockroach runs across the floor at her house during a family gathering..
Mom: " y'all I Promise I have cleaned thoroughly and the pest control came last week."

[ahmadalsagoff]

I would like to ask if fear of being rejected on asking a girl out after a trauma of breakup reflects to cognitive disorder? Please advise