My Friend Betrayed Me and Everyone Took Her Side So I Canceled Her Perfect Day.

My Friend Betrayed Me and Everyone Took Her Side So I Canceled Her Perfect Day.

[marythompson]

A good friend doesn't make your problems a joke to amuse her other friends. You have a right to be mad at her. Just don't trust her with anymore personal information.

[karinefonte]

I'd get even: next meeting I'd casually tell one of her embarassing secrets she confided in me.

[joiionni]

Ruining HER plans? Nothing is stopping the "friend" from keeping her spa appointment. It is OP's birthday and if she doesn't want to be treated to a day of pampering by someone who betrayed her confidences and shamed her openly that is her right to exercise.
No, I would say a bad friend ruined OP's plans but saved the birthday because now OP can spend the day with friends who
are trustworthy and respect her
feelings even if it is only her cat.
We don't get to decide what is a "big deal" for someone else's self esteem.

[Catperson]

The "friend" broke your trust. Huge 🚩!!!!

[DLFH]

Unfortunately, it sounds like this is a one-sided "friendship" where this person thinks what OP does to cope is ridiculous and wouldn't hesitate to share anything else as an anecdote to entertain people they actually value.

[evavocative]

How is Journaling supposed to be something that's embarrassing? It's ridiculous that Sarah even thinks that's supposed to be something to mock. What an AH. And leaving a room? Well, that's a lot better than mocking others to make themselves feel better because apparently that's all Sarah can do for her "selfcare." She puts others down to feel good about her own shit.

[solidmoon]

Nope, she threw out knowledge that was given in trust and showed no remorse for it, even insulting you in the process. That's a hard no, and canceling plans with her because you don't trust her in a situation that was supposed to be your time to decompress is valid.

[woodsandcreek]

Not too harsh. Sarah broke your trust and is dismissive of what is important to you.

[Itsmysecret]

I have a friend like that. For these type kf people, its a big deal if they are the one who get affected. But to get a few gigglee, they would make you the scapegoat

[kymdagnall]

So what is she. If you’re harsh. She didn’t respect your boundaries your confidences your mental health. So no you protect yourself.

[sharumapping]

The spa day is not what’s the relaxing escape, it’s you escaping from her.

[Juliet-zqsn]

I deal with anxiety and depression. Sarah was wrong for basically making fun of you. She wouldn't like it if you put her business out there. I'm sorry that happened to you

[LaughingVenus]

This was a frenemy lying in wait, NOT a friend.

[taleaferguson]

She’s not a best friend. She’s not even a friend if she has to run on mouth like that put her in the acquaintance group and call it a day.

[ramonaproctor]

I'm sure your "best friend" would not brush it off if the roles were reversed and it was you telling them secrets that she had confided in you

[DinoBotGirl]

I always leave a room to calm down so it really makes me sad to find out that people use that as an insult further makes me feel bad on the inside. I don’t know why.😢😢😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[jackso]

How tf you harsh if she spilled personal details

[wolfgirlpup]

I would’ve done worse with friends who did that.

[ile]

Not at all! She broke another persons privacy

[curtdottiesundell]

No you weren’t to harsh she was by her big mouth