When you grew up with an explosive parent & the door opens

Transcript: When you grew up with an explosive parent & the door opens

[MickeyDs-mpyr]

It's very therapeutic just knowing other people went through the same thing. A life of hypervigilence.

[Rocanala]

My dad would hit the driveway, everyone BROKE out to different rooms to avoid him and his anger

[cyancyborg]

"How did you get so good at recognizing individual people's footsteps?"

[renataguzman]

That is still my response when I hear the door opening. I rush to look like I am being productive.

[urflow]

I asked my husband, "as a child, didnt you know all the different sounds your parents made?" He said no. Now i have cone to terms with the fact that my parents abused me. They both had issues and took it out on me most and still have in my adult years. I've finally put me first and i am healing .

[yobafoxjason]

Yep you had to drop out of normal mode into “I cannot even appear to be relaxed or happy. I must look busy and stressed because otherwise I will get the wrath. But I cannot verbally express that frustration I must be silent lest I get the wrath.”

[re-birthevolution]

When my very volatile, loud and often aggressive mother came into a room, even our two dogs and cat would run away from that room...😂 I find it hilarious now, but we were living in unbearable permanent fear that I do not wish on anyone

[yobafoxjason]

My parents were especially explosive in the morning before school. I would get screamed at, threatened with beatings, and made late to school and have to immediately drop into “responsible student with her shhhh together.”

At 36 I still have panic every morning if I have to be somewhere it’s 10x worse. 🎉

[mickerzmouse]

Look busy what they wanted you to be doing or look ready to do whatever it is they want. ...what a life that was. It gets better

[tracylemley]

Hearing the car pull into the driveway. All the toys had to be picked up. Nothing on the floor at all. Me in my room waiting and listening.

[smatias]

Yep! This was me growing up with my dad. If I was in my room, I would listen at the door to see what kind of mood he was in before I went out to see him.

[andreapeters]

So sad how many of us can relate. But we are getting better.

[DivinelyFeminine]

Stop making shorts about me 😢
jk your shorts are making me very self aware thank you so much ❤

[ikhinarafatu]

This was definitely my childhood 😢 even got know how his car clicked differently from our neighbors' dads

[estherelesho]

That's my whole childhood right there, then she'd get suspicious that I was jumpy and start stalking me, if she can't find anything, she gets mad and fuzz over something meaningless.. if she find something, I'm dead.

[SemperUbi_SubUbi]

Yes. Perpetual anxiety that STILL exists in me even after many years on my own, and several NC.
Much love to the people who understand this. We are tribe!

[theroaminggnomad]

Yup, witching hour was about 5:55pm every night. Time to walk on eggshells.

[aaronjohn]

My father would throw rage filled temper tantrums. Any wonder why I walked around on egg shells and developed insomnia.

[cup_o_TMarie]

Why my sense of hearing is nuts….and I pick up on all kinds of even silent energy changes.

Even on the phone I can tell if people are doing something else silently. Just the energy change alone🙄

Sadly it did help me develop an awareness that once I started healing trauma, I turned into superpowers.

[Lipnl]

This made me realize I will tell myself every time the door smashes cause of the wind (summertime they’re open) and I’m shocked so much. I will tell myself I’m safe. Safe. Safe. Forever. Lovemyself.