She's Sick Of Him Playing Video Games All Day... Is She Right?

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[sieeeeeeen]

As someone whose ex also spent his entire time playing video games as soon as he got home from work until he'd go to bed, completely ignoring all household chores, everyday. (He even went so far as to scream at me for two minutes for asking him to come pick me up from the train station last minute at night because I got scared after being harrassed by a drunk Guy) I now know it's not the gaming, that's the problem. It's his behaviour. Your boyfriend can be a gamer guy and still balance it rationally.

[marianavilches]

I think that, even if the poster went on a rant there at the end, the main issue was her boyfriend not spending time with her.
It wasnt about money, he had a stable job to begin with. And it wasnt really about her hating his dream (she kinda gets on a rant about his dream because she got resentful over it being the thing that he spent all his time on instead of sharing it with her), the post could be break down to: "My boyfriend rather spend all of his free time playing videogames instead of being with me. He considers having sex once a week and playing the same games I play (not playing together, mind you. Just him playing the games she likes by himself) as spending time together but I dont. And that obviously makes me sad and angry"
She could have articulate it better, of course. But I kinda didnt like how it got reduced to "why are you with this guy if you hate him?" I dont think thats the issue. I think she has the right to feel ignored and the guy shouldnt be in a serious relationship if he is not ready to spend time with his partner...but anyway. Sorry for the long comment. Love you guys and your podcast

[mafaldahopfkirch]

I don't think she "hates" him. For me she is obviously ranting online because she doesn't want to hurt him. She made efforts before and supported him but also realized that she is put back for his "dream"/hobby. The money thing is just a side argument. Maybe communication is the problem. We don't know whether she actually talked about this with him and that's why she's ranting on reddit or whether she tried and talked, but to no good end for her feelings. And I must say that, if the timeline she is picturing there is true to the daily life, then yeah, it's pretty frustrating having a partner that doesn't care as much for the other than you do. She also explicitly stated they are NOT playing TOGETHER, but they play in general the same games.

I had a "gaming bf" back then, too, and he lied to me about going to university and instead went to play LoL the whole day at home, while I was working, and he also didn't care to spend time with me when I got home. So I can kinda relate to this.

[WaddenSeaSiren]

If he spents that much time gaming, I doubt he does much work cooking, cleaning etc. Also it didnt say "we play together", it said "he plays a game I play". Thats not the same.

[oscarkamala]

she doesn’t hate him at all, he’s gaming himself to death