MEN | How You See Me

What does it mean to be a man? Be strong. Don't cry or show your emotions. Watch sports. Drink beer. These seem to be the images of manhood taught to us. So, we talked with a group of men about how they think people see them as men. Is there more than one way to be a "man?"

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[leterneautunes]

The guy in the jean jacket and cool hair is right. He knows what's going on.

[Rollinprettyllc]

i love this. its actually a chance for men to let out their emotions. society makes men believe they have to be hard and emotionless to be a man

[skfupm]

THAT YOUNG BOY IS A GENIUS
NO ONE ELSE MADE AN OUTSTANDING POINT AS HE DID

[OdysseyWorks]

To all the people in the comment tread. This video won't trigger any feminists. And do you want to know why? Because feminists has been talking about this a long time. Part of feminism is about fighting against the machoculture that is highlighted in this video. These men in the video share their stories of how they've been told from very early age to hide their emotions etc. Fighting against the machoculture is fighting for men's emotions. Supporting feminism will not only make it more equal between people of different gender but also benefit men.

[heyitstj_]

There are so many people bashing women and feminist in this comment section. I'm a woman and a feminist and I love this video. Stop reaching people.

[karenzhen]

Why kill the spider? Trap it in a jar and release it outside. "Spiders are bros"

[SIenderplier]

I'd love to hear more from that black gentleman...he seems like such a good soul, a fatherly kind.

[AngorRandford]

There's no concrete definition of being a man. #myview

[ultimatlegend]

I really wasn't expecting the video to be like this! great job! buzz feed and much more people need to think like this and spread it out more

[leena]

I'm literally only attracted to men who cry, if a guy is like super macho, calls other guys "pussies" for showing emotion, it's an EXTREME turn off. Not just for me for a lot of girls. Men pressure to hyper masculine isn't imposed by women, ask any guy who's the one person they confide their emotions to and 90% will tell you it's a woman they know. THAT'S THE DIFFERENCE between pressure on men vs. pressure on women. Men have oppressed women in the past, giving them the "easier" roles in society and labeled them as weak, thus BY DEFAULT men will have to take on the big responsibilities and must be seen as powerful.

[markasb]

thank you so much. i no longer feel guilty being a man and am so happy to be the victim for once. it feels so good.

[cryoshakespeare]

To me, being a man means I'm expected to be assertive, I'm expected to be secure. If there are two ways - "the optimal way", and "the way that fits me" in sort of a deeper artistic/philosophical sense - I'm expected to go the optimal way.

And these expectations are a double edged sword. I'm already a very anxious person, struggling with depression and such, and so that feeling that I'm going to be socially rejected because I'm not the image of strength, assertiveness and security is pretty overwhelming. But at the same time, I am not expected to be passive or submissive about it, which has its advantages in terms of driving me, in the long run, towards an active approach in dealing with my mental health.

But I would have grown up in a culture within my group of relatives and family that being a man who expresses emotion and is emotionally considerate is alright, a good thing, so to that end I don't have that really nasty issue that some men have to face where they feel like they just shouldn't be thinking or talking about having something like depression.

In any case, I like this, the placing of ourselves under a microscope. If we all were more judicious and less arbitrary with the expectations we place on others based on things we assume but don't really understand about them, well, I think the world would be much more bearable for nearly every human on the planet.

[copyclubweb]

This is a man's world. And only the strongest will survive. We have to build that character from birth.

[memetion]

can we just talk about the fact that some people still say "youre a man dont cry!" like, so what? next time i see a man cry im gonna tell him to cry into my shoulder and release all the emotions because just bc men are men doesnt mean they cant let out their emotions??

[sophiaxu]

If you feel like it just cry don't keep everything to yourself just talk to people

[katelynlawson]

I'm so happy my boyfriend doesn't feel the need to keep in his emotions❤

[btdtpro]

0:26 "not that we have it tough"
MEN How You See me: Having the easiest most privilege life, despite being the most likely to be the victim of violent crime, on the job injury or death, killed in war, or to be homeless... "heh not that we have it tough"

[natwixterthan]

My brother is 15 but he's still my baby brother. Growing up I had to battle family and friends for him because they expected so much. "Don't play with dolls" "Stop crying you're a man" "You have need to do more work because you're a boy". It's disheartening to see boys have so much on their plate and always expected to never express how they're feeling. I'm glad that times are changing. Slowly but surely.

[berlinwall]

Women attempt suicide more than men, men succeed more at suicide. This has to do with the methods men and women use. Men are more likely to use firearms/jumping off cliffs/hanging to commit suicide. Most gun-owners tend to be male so they have access to a more lethal way of committing suicide. Having access to a firearm is a big game changer when it comes to suicide

[Tunago]

I say what I think and show emotion accordingly...I feel totally free.