No. 1 Performance Psychologist: Here's What The Best in the World Know About Success That You Don't

What if reaching the next level of success wasn’t determined by another skill, degree, or course but by something that changed on the inside?

That’s what Dr. Jim Loehr believes, and in this episode, he reveals everything he knows about mental toughness and winning the mind game. Shane and Loehr discuss the radical importance of the stories you tell yourself—including how they can damage your kids—and how to change the negative stories you believe. Loehr also shares the best reflection questions to ask yourself to reveal personal blindspots, the importance of rituals for calming anxiety and performing under pressure, and how the best in the world use their recovery time effectively.

Dr. Jim Loehr is a world-renowned performance psychologist and author of 16 books. From his more than 30 years of experience and applied research, Dr. Loehr believes the single most important factor in successful achievement, personal fulfillment, and life satisfaction is the strength of one’s character. Dr. Loehr possesses a masters and doctorate in psychology and is a full member of the American Psychological Association.

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00:00 - Intro
01:14 - Parenting and storytelling
04:09 - How to determine whether or not the stories are limiting or enabling you
06:35 - What the stories world-class performers tell themselves
12:56 - How to change the stories you tell yourself
21:20 - Questions to journal about
24:10 - Private voices vs. public voices (and how they impact your kids)
29:26 - How to help your friends change their stories
35:24 - How to better come alongside your kids to prevent destructive behavior
43:00 - What Loehr knows about high performers that others miss
51:06 - On time and energy
01:04:20 - Conquering the "between point" ritual
01:09:44 - On rituals vs. habits
01:13:48 - How to increase your mental toughness
01:21:45 - On success
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[tkppodcast]

There is a reason 17 of his clients have become number one in the world.
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Also, could you do me a favor and hit the like button on the video? Thank you!

[dadadadadadadadadadadada]

Shane, you're doing God's work brother. I respect the mission you're on. Thanks for all you do. I liked, I'm subbed, I'm commenting. Keep it up big fella.

[veroniquemarie]

Many parents are horrible at raising their kids 😢
They are judgmental, limited and with no perspective for the future.
They only project on their own kids the poor limited, narrow and « comfortable » programs they had installed in themselves by social control.😱
These parents are no good at « Caregiving » and many kids need good teachers, coaches and mentors to let them consider and build a better Vision and Future for themselves.
Many activities can do that through Sports 🏀
Learning foreign languages 🇫🇷 and all kinds of hard and soft skills that they might love ❤️ and propel them towards a firstly better Self-image 🎉🤷‍♀️. Self-image is KEY 🔑

[amb]

great content, thanks

so true about a burning desire, or a true north start one cultivates for themselves...

"A young man went to Socrates and asked him the secret of success.

Socrates asked him to walk with him to the nearest river. By the time they got there, Socrates asked the young man to walk with him a little bit on the water. When Socrates noticed that they had come to some deep part of the water, he held the head of the young man and forcefully pulled it inside the water. The young man struggled to get his head out of the water, but Socrates exercised more force. When Socrates noticed that the strength of the young man was failing, he pulled off his head and asked him what he desired most when his head was under the water.

The man said, “oxygen.” Socrates answered and said, “If you desire to succeed as much as you desire oxygen when your head is under the water, you will surely succeed.”

[barbarafairbanks]

IMO - we can tell ourselves 'stories' that play out in our reality - but largely in a unconscious way...
i.e., we are, to a large extent, unaware of these (unconscious) stories/beliefs about ourselves.

Imo, it's not enough to simply become aware of our (negative) selftalk, then stop it in its tracks. This may help us, but to only a nominal degree.

BUT! This negative self talk comes from somewhere....
The unconscious.
...THAT's where these beliefs need to be uncovered, and addressed!

The surest way to know what our unconscious thoughts about ourselves, are, is to take a good hard look at the outpicturing of our lives.

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life, and you will call it fate."
Carl Jung

[veroniquemarie]

Thank you 😊 for this amazing interview and I am going to purchase the audio version of your book on CHARACTER 🌈🔥⚡️

[thankfulforlife]

Say ONLY the RIGHT things to yourself, your loved ones and the people you come in contact with. It’s the only way we ensure healthy minds in people. A healthy mind is a creative mind.

Let us be CONSCIOUS and SELFLESS.

[BruceBair]

For advice on what to do about video games, I would listen to interviews by Jane McGonigal.

[iyasalqasem]

Is the Human Performance Institute still going? It seems tough to find, and links not working? Interested to see what it's doing.

[machsij]

One of the best knowledge available online.

[dakine]

What about when you've experienced trauma? I feel stuck in a state of sadness and loneliness and fear. I've tried to change it but no luck.

[anhumblemessengerofthelawo]

The inner voice of the child in the sweatshop who made your shirt, and the stories they tell themselves are meaningless. But please, continue in your wisdom.

[bellakrinkle]

Typically, parents do not focus on what their children think since they mostly think about themselves. Children, too often, are objects of fulfilling the expectations of parents or of their childhood.
These days, most women are realizing that motherhood is not smart, if it fulfills someone else's expectations.

[veroniquemarie]

And whenever a person suffers 😢from poor Self-image and lack of love, ❤️ support and perspectives, this person is at risk of falling down into addiction and all kinds of self-sabotage « strategies » 😵‍💫

[userresuh]

Success is to care for others . Don't believe me? Just wait

[Leta]

Novak it’s a good tennis player but he doesn’t live true and love. The moment he denied the genocide and cleansing rape was committed by his country and goes on tv play victim of booming his country cuz they refuse to stop genocide shows he doesn’t live on true and love