Having it all - for working mothers everywhere | Julie Ellison | TEDxDerryLondonderryWomen

[AnnaSmith-bp]

Honestly, this book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ gave me the encouragement I needed to stay strong in raising my kids with Christian values, it’s comforting to know Im not alone on this journey

[annat]

As a working mother of a 5 year old, I found my life is so exhausting. I am mentally tired. Last year, he started school, he got sick, take a a week or two to recover, and sick again in 4-5 days. This cycle repeat for the whole year. He also share the disease with me. I was sick and also caring for a sick kid and also working. I got RSV during RSV wave last year, imagine I have trouble breathing at night while I care for a sick child too. I have 15 minutes sleep every night. I am a career and thought I am strong, but during this time, I got depressed and almost suicidal. This year, he get sick less but he get crazy tantrum. Few days ago, I go to bed early at 9pm, I stare at the ceiling for 3 hours, I am emotionally exhausted.

I realized, when I don’t work, I can handle motherhood. I realized, we cannot have it all. Our modern society expect too much from mother. We are a mother, worker, cook, home worker, nutritionists for our kid, financier, 24/7 nurse to our kid, etc… No wonder new generation do not wish to have kids. Society as a whole need to appreciate mothers.

[DorisHeyyy-vcrh]

This speaks to me. I’m a nine year lawyer with two kids. I own a law firm with nine employees. I find the baby years fine, but my four year old exhausts me. I feel like I’m failing in multiple areas and it’s hard. Just too much stress and never all in anywhere. It’s just really hard.

[eegretki]

You are incredible. I’m a new mom and a new nurse practitioner and am struggling with this internal conflict right now. Thanks for your advice !!!

[yushikuang]

I am career woman, a wife and a mother. My son didn’t talks yet when he get to the daycare at 18 months. His first language or what we should call « mother tongue » is english and we speak french at home. It hit me at first and my husband rationalize it: «  it’s good he learn another language as we will definitely speak french anyway. » yes, I had few moments of guilt but kids grow up fast and i am glad that i had not gives up my professional career coz now, I willl wonder what else I can do now that he is at school.

[Miki-rigs]

This made me decide to quit my job and start working from home. Let's see if I can go through with it.

[badmamadoc]

This was a phenomenal talk! Very inspiring as a mother of 3 (I am a twin mom too which I know makes it harder). I love the concept of the plastic plates! Very profound concept! We have to let those ones fall!

[beverlydavis]

Words cannot express how much I needed to hear this!

[alliesmith]

This has further conflicted me. I really don’t know that I want my career more than I want to be a full time mother. 😩

[Mightyhaggis]

Fantastic talk! Resonates so strongly and what a key message. “To Have it all, you don’t have to do it all” . Spinning those plastic plates. Brilliant

[ankitakirti]

Loved loved loved this. Speaks my heart ❤

[deepasinghal]

Its quite sad for working class mothers. If you want work and be a complete mother, make sure to get out of the 9-9 labour class, thats your best bet and with today's internet a huge possibility that others didnt have. goodluck!

[rarcher]

I am a small business owner at the stage of life where I need to decide wether I’m going be become a mother or not. I’m used to putting everything into what I do and doing it well. This talk was very poignant for me.

[MJ]

It's both what moms expect and what society expects

[zara]

This very true what she is saying. But how does this resonate for single mothers. They need to work, as their sole income is dependant upon them. Society looks down on single mothers, who rely upon government assistance.

[ThatKrisandTom-tcmk]

Two teachers. Parents working full time. We found high ticket, affiliate, marketing, too late in the career world. You should start 💲💲 in your pjs!