She says not ready for a relationship? Do this NOW!

Everything was going well until she hit you with the words 'I'm not ready' and now you're feeling betrayed. What should you do in such a situation? When she says she's not ready for a relationship, Do this now.

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00:00 - Introduction
02:18 - Reason why she won't commit
02:40 - #2
02:56 - #3
03:12 - #4
03:36 - #5
04:54 - Signs she will not commit
05:26 - #2
06:03 - #3
06:33 - #4
06:58 - #5
07:29 - #6
08:07 - #7
08:57 - #8
09:35 - What to do
10:02 - #2
10:31 - # 3
10:57 - #4
11:15 - Conclusion

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[raymondcalitri]

I swear to God this woman spies on me!!! Every single upload addresses my current status. I LOVE U JESSICA

[champsammy]

My brother is in his early 20s. I am in my early 30s.
He was interested in a lady who told him that she wasn't ready for a relationship.
Two weeks later she was in a relationship with someone and shortly afterwards the got a house together.

I told him that

1. She wanted to let him down easily and didn't want to lose the friendship.
2. She was full of it for saying she wasn't ready for a relationship because you don't suddenly just decide to be in a relationship with someone and get a home afterwards.

He dodged a bullet.

[kirkgardner]

Leave her alone. It hurts but that’s the answer.

[ernestmalonkane]

Thank you Jess once again. My love chases and heartbreaks have let me to this juncture that is now the mantra of my life; Every matured man should be able to define what they want in life. The biggest lesson I have learned is never to be afraid to let someone go if that's what it comes to. Never try to switch a woman into a WILL gear ⚙ if they are not ready to switch into that gear. Matter of fact, they should automatically switch into the gear if they truly love you. She should love you the same way as you love them. Love is not some precious rare gem 💎 to be chased in other people. If you can have a will power to love her and sacrifice for her, she must have that will power too. If she can't chip in, she must definitely chip out. We must be in it together or else each one must go their separate way! To those men who have been broken 💔 by women, take your time to just be out of relationships with women, enjoy your God's given life without a woman, reflect on yourself, check back on what you went through; you will realise how 90% of the time women use a man's feeling of love to achieve their manipulative selfish objectives. You will then come to the realization that you have power over your feelings for someone. You will come to the realization that love shouldn't start with some specific woman and should definitely not end with that specific woman. You will come to the realization that in as much they broke your heart, you heal, you move on with your life to fall in love all over again with another woman; different one ofcourse. The one who broke you will be in the past and you will not even have an inch of a feeling over them anymore. Take control of yourself, do what is best for you, pull off the plugs and leave her if that's what it comes to.

[fegursonokwori]

Am I the only person who watched this twice? Jessica you are a rare gem

[anthonynwinate]

every single point in this video is a clear highlight of my past relationship

not taking or returning calls

not replying messages

always in a mode swing

always hiding me as her man

always avoiding some certain calls when she's with me but very friendly when she needs financial support

I thank God she ended the relationship all by herself, now I can sleep well

goodbye to anything relationship for now

[Happy_Speaks]

This woman is really a blessing to us men, I have actually come to realize that am in a wrong relationship because of her.may God bless u abundantly Jessica 🙏

[roccityshottest]

I met this woman a couple months ago and we had been somehow communicating daily and also going in dates. Then like out of the blue she essentially says she just wants to be friends. The week of this messaging she made a few moves that seemed to really show she was thinking of me and caring for me. And I responded in appreciation. Then later that week…boom “I gotta sort things out in my life and I want to be friends if that’s ok with you” so I fell back and everything was way different than before.

I decided that I’m falling all the way back and not “being her friend” i told her if she’s gonna want to engage me and all that’s on her and I won’t be reaching out anymore.

I think it’s another guy (probably her most recent ex) must’ve surprised her with some grand gesture that week. Nonetheless as much as I was feeling her I have to keep moving and not play myself

[regisjohnathan]

This will be novel’ish

As someone who is currently in the midst of such a situation. I often find myself researching and trying to learn about a mindset and certain emotions a special girl might posses that I am not used to. Even though I came across this as a search to find answers. I see certain comments and I feel like I can actually share a little to maybe help.

First of all…… Don’t give up.

Second……. Don’t listen to respond, listen to reinforce your understanding and your stance.

After my 10 year marriage ended, I was in a very dark place too. I was afraid of sharing my heart because it wasn’t whole. It was shattered. Suddenly I was a single dad. Something I had never asked for. Tough place to be.

But I met someone very special about 9 months ago and after hearing just pieces of her story I began to realize that my heartbreak couldn’t compare to the tragic and painful past she was sharing with me. As I stood there listening to her, I knew completely and without question. If I wanted to pursue this woman (and I was certainly feeling that way) I would have to face things that I had no idea how to face. There was so much pain, so much doubt, so much fear, loss, devalued self worth, guilt, etc….. But here’s the thing. Although I saw all of that on the surface. What I saw inside was what grabbed my heart. She was strong. Stronger than she knew, stronger than I had ever seen. I am a man of faith. I try to focus on God and seek his plan. So I cried out and asked for direction. The answer was tenderness not romance. Compassion not lust. Respect not impatience. No way, would I ever crack this shell by thinking for myself. I had to think with her emotions. Learn triggers. See the pain and take some of it upon myself to truly understand. Sure I could do and say many things to teach her how special she is. Remind her of her beauty, her worth, value, and rarity. All of those things are great but without respect for her boundaries and what she needs to process. All would be wasted. Not long after we met. Circumstances changed and the friendship was forced into a long distance connection. To maintain the “vibe” I became attached to talking daily. But she needed help and a time came that I could no longer provide that. When she began therapy to overcome the trauma she had endured. She slowly started pulling away. I saw it coming and knew what was happening. But I still tried my best because I was desperate to see my continued impact. Then she got new advice. The Therapist advised her to distance herself from any emotional pull from others. I was clearly in that category and I completely understood it.

So recently (the better part of two months) we haven’t had much communication. Her mother reached out to me and explained what was happening very softly and respectfully asked for space. Not just from me. From all outside connections. She had to take time to focus on herself and fall in love with herself again. So as confusing and hard as it’s been. That is what I am doing. She didn’t pull away out of anger towards any pressure I created. She just needed to focus and allow the therapy to take its place in her healing.

I tell you all of that so I can give the advice that I intended. The idea of running away from her is mind boggling to me. That’s terrible advice and it should be ignored. Ask yourself how many people have already done that to her. I can give you the answer. If she has pain in her past, trust issues, or fear of a relationship. The answer is EVERYONE. Everyone has run from her at some point. That’s why shes here. If she knows your feelings. She knows your desires. Let it be and don’t go away completely until you are asked to do so.

People ask me everyday how long I will wait for this girl. That question has two answers.

As long as it takes.

or

Or until I am told that I shouldn't.

Try to remember these things.

RESPECT (no elaboration needed)
Don’t give up when she expects you to. Remember its probably her past that makes her feel like you will.
You are not the cause of her wounds.
If you love her, love her without apologizing for it.
If space is needed. Only you can provide it. Shes not going to beg for it. She will ask once, maybe twice. Failing to understand its importance will morph your fears into reality.
She will never ask you to wait. But you will do it if you think shes worth it.
She feels guilty that you’re putting your life on hold for her. Ignore that. She feels guilty about things you will never understand. Guilt is probably her most painful emotion to overcome.
You are not a band aid, so don’t act like one. Hookups are band aids. Affairs are band aids. True friends are not.
Encouragement is still valuable while giving space. Send periodic messages that she doesn’t need to respond to. Do not burden her with the guilt of “ignoring” you. Remind her that you’re proud. Do what you can to leave love out of it. Just tell her she is strong and you are thinking about her. praying for her etc. Remind her that you are always there “IF” she needs you not “WHEN”. Don’t come across as assuming. (space these messages out. Don’t think daily right now, think weekly)
Remember that she is probably less in love with herself than you are with her. She has to get there in order to give you or anyone the best version of her. She cannot give the broken version away. The fear of sabotage is too much. If you are good, she fears ruining you.
She wants to be heard but she will never beg for your ear. You just always have to be listening.
Take the time to work on yourself. If you have fear and doubt about her. Take the time away to rid yourself of those emotions. Uproot your own darkness that is causing them.
She likely wasn’t looking for you when you arrived. You showed up out of nowhere. There are probably feelings that confuse her from the very first conversations you had. No matter how much time has passed since. Those confusing emotions still run through her mind. That’s ok. That’s likely good or she would have cut you off completely before letting you into her circle to begin with.
Remember that the confusion you feel right now does not compare to hers. The time that goes by will suck. You will miss her. But there is nothing else you can do. Tell yourself everyday that you deserve her. Tell yourself that she deserves your patience. Focus on what makes you special to begin with.
She is worth it. Or you wouldn’t be here asking this question.
That’s most important thing I can say. When you tell a girl that she is worth it or she’s worth the wait. I promise you shes heard that song before. So far no one has made that true to her. No one has actually finished the song, recorded it, and gave it to her to keep. Be the guy that that completes her playlist. She has a wall that you will never completely tear down. You will remove a few bricks from time to time. But if you really like whats on the other side of that wall. You will try again and again to climb over it. When that person decides to love you she will love you so completely and faithfully that you will be glad you waited. She will not give her love away casually.

Stay focused. Keep climbing.

The man on top of the mountain didn’t just fall and land there. (Not my quote)

God Bless You

[mayoromotayo]

Reading through the comments, Just when I was about to personalize the video because of how it directly addresses the situation am currently in, I see a lot of guys share similar experiences and have almost the same situation going on in their lives at same time. That means we men often blindly get ourselves to be emotionally entangled with ladies that don't want us. So I recommend to Jessica to help with a video that directly address this area. So we know at what point should a man starts to take a woman serious in a relationship. And at what point should we allow the emotions to be involved? But this video has now given me a sense of direction and clarity as to what to do. Last night I found myself kneeling down to beg for love when she clearly told she doesn't want anything serious with me. My ego was badly wounded. My confidence was gone. And I struggled to breath as tears ran down my cheek like a little boy. So I came to the office today wondering what to do and what kind of treatment she should be getting from me going forward. Then I stumbled unto this video which has now brought clarity and direction. From today, I am completely turning away from her. From now she seizes to exist in my world. Even if she turn around to look for me tomorrow, it is too late. Thank you @JessicaOS, you are a tremendous blessing to me.

[joeharmony]

Ouchh!....those last words hurt for some weird reason....➡➡ ..."these same people who seemed so relationship averse just moments ago will suddenly be ready to walk the aisle if their own perception or ideal partner came their way". Oh Jessica, the truth is really bitter indeed😪😪

[stevedeleon]

Your videos gave me the warning signs I needed to break up with my ex who wasn’t really serious but she wanted the experience of a long distance relationship. Fellas if you got a gut feeling don’t shake it off don’t waste your time and energy !

[WilleneBusinessLifestyle]

I believe that all ladies are always ready to get into a relationship. Especially if they’re single. That’s where your other tips come in Jess. The guy needs to build himself and not look desperate right? 🤠

[isaiahnkansah]

Thank you Aunty @Jessica.

I admired how smart and calm you talk. Please can you make a video on how you get to develop this great conversation skill?

Thank you in advance 😊

[impalaO]

I would've saved myself so much frustration had I watched this first! Thank you Jess!

[daveondiekaaron]

I THANK GOD FOR THIS MESSAGE. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT SHE IS DOING TO ME, NOW I KNOW WHAT TO DO RIGHT AWAY 🤔

[christopherhennessey]

When they feel that way, I walk away.

[benjaminoseikuffourjnr.]

Wisdom is justified by her children. Never disgrace wisdom (Matthew 11:16-19)

[gilbertmumelo]

Start telling us more about etiquette classes these young generations are not ready for serious relationship.