The Economic Explanation of Why Modern Dating is Failing

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00:00 Market Failure
01:52 Inequality
05:30 Asymmetric Information
12:08 Tragedy of the Commons

[WheatWaffles]

I’d highly recommend watching this video in full, I think this is possibly the best video I’ve put out to date.

But if you’re only going to watch part of it I’d strongly advise to watch between 9:37 and 12:00.

In my opinion this is the most important point I’ve made on this channel with regard to why most men struggle to get a relationship.

Thanks for watching guys 👍

[georgeedward]

Dating was designed for people to find suitable marriage partners. Now that marriage is an utter joke that often ends in a bitter divorce, it's logical that dating will collapse with it into the same pile of rubble.

[LeeEverett]

As a guy who's considered "average" (5'10, 60-70K, blue collar work) it's absolutely brutal. Even average women are chasing the Chads and tall top earning guys. Women don't waste time, they straight ask you up front how much you earn, job title, height etc and will disqualify you immediately if it doesn't meet their standards. They have no interest in seeing if you have any actual chemistry anymore, that's been my experience anyway.

[JKRuc]

I'm 32yrs old, average looking black guy, 5'9, 180lbs, in good shape and its brutally hard for me in the dating world. I've never had the opportunity to take advantage of "hookup culture ", I've witnessed it, but never participated in it, plus I don't think I want to because me personally I need the emotional connection apart from physical sexual attraction. But dating, I've tried dating apps, absolutely no luck. I don't think I was made for the whole dating thing, plus I'm an introvert infj so its a very difficult lonely life for me unfortunately 😓.

[youriwatson]

As an economics student, it’s fun to see these concepts being applied to the dating market. Very eye-opening!

[CybrZone]

A society with alot of lonely, bitter and angry men is a recipe for disaster.

[Endymion]

as a "below average" guy, my experience with online dating was meaningless. I never got a response from the hundreds of messages I sent out. I gave up on dating.

[Gregoronomium]

I think online dating's 2 biggest problems are:
1. Low commitment: On a computer screen you are just a number, people do not really care about numbers.
2. Time consuming: Nobody trusts a person online, so you have to spend 3 times as much time to build trust compared with offline
I recommend you my solution if you live in a dorm. Bake chocolate cookies, sit down in the living room and just talk with people.
Even if you do not find anyone, you will have friends/chocolate cookies or both :D

[LostSoulsmusic]

Yeah I have no plan to date anyone again.

I'm 30 Y/O, college education, doing very well financially, military veteran, work out often, and take care of my body and mind. I am not unattractive by any stretch. Yet I get no romantic options.

Men like myself are not willing to become a pick up artist and message 400 women to get 7 responses, and 1 date. For us that aren't sex addicts or desperate weirdos there is no realistic benefit to playing that game anymore. Best of luck to everyone else though!

[copemaxxing]

Imagine creating a system so efficient that it makes 90% of male population uninteresting.

[yolenda_loves_to_sing]

About your second point, I have a story to tell:

My ex-roommate was seeing a Chad. He was our landlord's son. The Chad straight up told her he was not serious, and was not looking to start a relationship with her. He actually also told her that he already has a long-term girlfriend, and wasn't planning to break up with her.

But she still slept with him once or twice a week. They were sex partners for years at least. Until I moved out, and didn't catch up with her anymore.

I was so shocked that he was that upfront, and I was even more shocked that she was STILL okay with it! I know I wouldn't. I guess Chads don't even have to lie, and would still get what they want.

[zabylurt]

I remember when internet dating was seen as weird and creepy, boy have times changed..

[keonhobgood]

Being one of the good looking guys is a gift and a curse. If you’re a bad person it’s a gift if you have any morals it’s a curse. The amount of women in relationships that throw themselves at me is crazy some even have husbands! They will literally tell me anything ask me to sleep with them etc it’s nuts. Makes me have a hard time trusting any woman or settling down and taking them serious. The last women I was talking too told me she wasn’t faithful and with the way I looked she assumed I was the same as her it’s a madhouse in the dating world right now.

[CtrlOptDel]

“All men are jerks.”
“Does that mean I’m a jerk?”
“No, you’re one of the good ones.”

Translation: “You don’t count as a man.”

[handbanana]

simple idea: a dating app but when you swipe no on someone click a quick prompt to explain why. certain prompts keeps profiles in rotation more than others would. it would benefit people who put in effort and want to try and push undesirable people to the back of the stack. prompts such as "this person doesnt have similar interests not compatatible for me" or "distance or something is too far" and "profile is missing details/effort" or "person doesnt look safe to be around/not attracted"

[justmythought]

This is not a new problem. As a far below average man, I had these problems decades ago. Eventually I realized that my chances were zero and I was just embarrassing myself by trying to chase women, and I gave it up.
It's a very lonely life, but on the other hand, not getting married is the surest way to avoid divorce, and I don't have to pay for women or children, and so have been able to build a modest life, with no debt, even something on the side, and now don't have to slave all day to earn money for others.
When talking to colleagues, of course, it is sad when they tell about the development of their children and fun with the family, and on certain holidays the loneliness hurts a lot. On the other hand, married men can not explain where I get all the time to watch movies, read books, play video games and other hobbies.

[impudentdomain]

As someone trained in economics I appreciate what you are doing here. I am not sure if I buy all of your assumptions but you present it in an easy to understand format.

[intellectualquasar]

The “one big problem” you mentioned has a name in philosophy. It’s called the prisoners dilemma. Prisoners dilemma: the solution is for everyone to work together long term. However, the caveat is that the perceived short term benefit of “cheating” or backstabbing is greater until long term effects happen as a result.

[yoshimeier]

Man Im lucky I didnt dabble in this dating pool and instead found my partners in actual social situations. Slowly getting to know each other and then deciding to be a couple.
Thats no guarantee for working out long-term but its way more honest, direct and rewarding I feel.

[robertlunderwood]

Another point to add to the market failure is that dating used to be localized; you only had access to what's in your area. However, men are no longer competing against other local men for local women; they are competing against men globally.