Experiences with School Bullying: USA 🇺🇸 v. Germany 🇩🇪 #livingingermany #germanyvsusa #bullying

[usa.mom.in.germany]

These are just our experiences
and I'm certain experiences vary tremendously. Please feel free to share your experiences in the comments. 💚

[Hoelzchen]

German here. I was bullied by the classmate who sat right next to me. When I couldn't stand it anymore, I told my teacher about it and asked her to seat me next to someone else (who won't bully me). (I did not even demand a punishment of the bully.) My teacher did not believe me. She thought that I just want to sit next to my best friend. I was extremely disappointed. At home, I told my mother about it. She called the teacher. Next day, my teacher seated me next to a different classmate. I was very relieved that the bullying finally came to an end. However, I will never forgive this teacher for not believing me and for refusing to help me without the pressure from my mother.

[lightbringer]

I never received any help with bullies in USA schools. But i was big and athletic enough to make them back off. I spent many days in school visibly angry and it repelled everyone, not just the bullies. It affected my life deeply because of the blatant unresolved injustice of it all. School is mostly just a warehouse for children and few adults really care about safety.

[UnicornsPoopRainbows]

My niece was being bullied. There was CCTV all over the school, witnessed by teachers, principal refused to do anything when my sister complained. Then they decided to send my niece home for wearing leggings under pants with ripped knees. "Well we don't know that's not her underwear." My sister went off on them, enrolled my niece in an online school and never looked back. It was ridiculous

[opewfmWPO]

My experience with german schools and bullying: one day in school me and a couple of classmates were standing in front of a classroom waiting and some of my bullies spat on me and two other girls. I knew who it was, but kept my mouth shut, because I already get bothered by them on a regular and fighting back usually just makes it worse. My classmates complained about it to our teacher and the rest of the day I kept getting mocked by people saying I should go home and look at my page(similar website to facebook) what my bully wrote there. When I finally got home I saw that the girl who spat at us had posted deaththreads to me, because she thought I snitched on them. I showed it to my parents and they went to the principal with it, in the end they didn't even expel her, because she'd have to go to the lowest form of school, so she was allowed to just "leave" school and go to different one. It's so nice they didn't fuck up her school life, because all the bullying sure fucked mine🙃

[Easasera]

I am glad that your experiences have been positive. When I was bullied (at a German school) nobody cared. Still dealing with the consequences it had on my mental health, even more than 12 years later.

[that_pan_chick]

My daughter had been getting bullied and at first it was small things like excluding her from games or making snide comments. Then it escalated to hair pulling and insults. My daughter and I both complained to the school and got nowhere. My daughter calls me from the nurse crying because this girl punched her in the eye. I raged hell at the principal and the teacher and told them to fix it. Got told “well we didn’t see her punch your daughter so there’s nothing we can do.” I told my daughter to wait until this girl went to the bathroom and fuck her up when she came out of the stall. I was done playing nice and by the rules. 3 days later I get a call from the school saying that my daughter would be suspended for beating the bully up. I asked if an adult had seen the fight and they said no. I told them that by their rules, if there was no witnesses then they couldn’t and WOULDNT do anything to my daughter. They told me “well we think she’s retaliating against the bully.” I told them that if the bully didn’t hit my daughter last week then my daughter had nothing to retaliate for. The bully girl got suspended for a week for starting the whole thing and my daughter and I went out of state for her week of suspension and had a blast at the lake camping and fishing. Both girls got punished for their actions and it’s been 2 years and that bully hasn’t spoken to my daughter since. These girls were 13 when this happened. She should have known better and my daughter shouldn’t have had to resort to violence because the adults in charge of the situation refused to take action. The girls mother was wonderful as well, her dad was a piece of work and I could see immediately where she got it from. Teach your children to be kind, because my children will be taught how to defend themselves.

[Rin-oopf]

I from Germany and made some experiences with bullying and it's not that easy. Like if and what happens after bullying depends very strongly on the teacher. Some are amazing and interven even before it becomes an issue and other pretend its not happening. I saw teacher stand by while a boy got hunter though the playground and hit. He was so stressed that he would bite into his own hand. He bit so hard that he was bleeding. Unfortunately his parents never spoke up for hin at school . There might not be a divide between donating and non donating parents but there's most certainly one between parents that care and provide for their kids and the neglect ones. Unfortunately especially the neglected ones are often the ones bullied (like if they smell because thier parents can't be bothered, kids will be mean to them, and thats just sad)

[alanwhiplington]

In the UK the police will not deal with any inconvenience school grounds. They will follow up on assault charges if an incident occurs outside the school. A child would only be expelled following numerous incidents over a long period of time. In my personal experience - I'm 70 - schools took no meaningful action against bullying in the UK.

[jasminedavis]

Even worse in the US, if the bullied fights back against the bullies, they wind up in more trouble. Generally suspension or expulsion. I’ve seen and heard stories of this happening so often it’s ridiculous.

But when a student dies because of those bullies, suddenly schools can take action and have the bullies dealt with. All of a sudden they lend out their “thoughts and prayers”, their “condolences” and “deepest sympathies” for the affected family.

“Thoughts and prayers” aren’t gonna bring that child back, “condolences” didn’t keep that child safe from bullies, and “deepest sympathies” didn’t stop bullies from victimizing again.

[lelamartin]

And everyone wonders why the victim doesn't approach the teachers when they're getting bullied... This was a major peoblem for me growing up. I was bullied from a young age because I was living with undiagnosed ADHD and autism, and, because of this, there was no special accomodations for me, even though everyone knew 2 of my younger sisters were the same way. Thankfully, until my family moved away in 7th grade, I had a supportive group of friends who protected me and helped any time I got bullied, and my older sister was typically around at the same school, and she was always there to look after me, too. But, when we moved halfway across the country, everything changed. I was in school completely separated from my sisters, and the only prson I knew right away was my best friend since birth whose mother was practically family to my sisters and I. I remember that he did what he could to help me, but, being a year ahead of me, he left for high school by the time I started my 8th grade year, and I was once more alone until I made friends with a small group of people who did what thy could to protect me from THE ENTIRE SCHOOL all because of a fake Facebook profile. The only other help I got was the school counselor, who actually suspected that I had autism at the time and put me in a special group every week in order to help improve my social skills until she had to go on maternity leave and cancelled the group because her replacement didn't want to continue it.

By the time I reached high school, I had learned a few things...
1.) Don't bother with the teachers or administration because they don't do anything, even when it happens on school grounds right in front of them.
2.) Don't tell my parents because the bullying gets worse when everyone hears that my mom likes to threaten lawsuits just to get the issue "resolved" only for nothing to come from it.
3.) People are going to talk sh!t and verbally harass you no matter what you do, so, in order to get back at them without getting in trouble, just ignore them. Eventually, it'll escalate to violence, and you can get away with self-defense, or they'll get bored and leave you alone.
4.) Never, and I mean NEVER, underestimate the power of self-defense. Once you show you're not afraid of the person, even when they attempt bodily harm in some way, shape, or form, they'll back down like the coward they always were.
5.) The only time you can truly trust a teacher is when they actively try to keep you separate from your tormentors after seeing first hand what happens if you get pushed into self-defense. They are also the ones who will defend you from the school administration if they try to suspend or expel you for using self-defense.

Of course, this was just my experience. I don't speak for everyone on this issue, but this is how I survived my childhood.

[JustTuppi]

I am german and was Bullied at school and I think they do more then the US but not enough.

In my school a boy was beaten by mutiple other students at school and the police were called so there was reciprocation from the police but the bullys who beat them up were still in school just 2 weeks later.

Theachers had an eye on them but they did beat up other kids too, some were too scared to even tell on them after that incident and there wasn't really anything done.

I just had the "luck" to not be beat uo by them otheres were not so lucky

[chrisgermany]

Yes, absolutely we should teach our kids to defend themselves. What really needs to happen is to start removing bullies from school. Send them back to the parents with a letter telling them that the bully is no longer allowed on school grounds and good luck at the next school. We need to stop protecting bullies. Parents who raise bullies are complete failures as parents. Let's make sure they know it.

[nri]

When i told my teachers in germany that i got bullied they told me that i have to fit in and thats all.

[simple_beys]

I recall some bullies in Germany that made it hard for some students to concentrate. They put them in special camps solely dedicated to concentration.

[mrst]

Picking on a person with a disability they can't change is the worst. Instead of helping my parents felt ashamed & blamed me when I came home with physical injuries.

[alicerosetrevormusic]

I was drowned at a school swimming lesson when I was 10, 5 adults and the rest of the class witnessed, when it was reported I was made to apologise to the girl that grabbed me by the throat and held me under the water.

[jaciem]

I was bullied horribly throughout elementary school in the US. It was in the 70s, so absolutely no one cared except my mother. I have trauma to this day. It's depressing to see that very little has changed.

[justinwilkins]

😂 man I'm loving these videos. Germany sounding alot better then here at times. Lol

[stephgreen]

My son was being bullied here in the US. The teacher noticed it, told the administration and they were all over it before they even got a chance to contact me. They were able to contact me and say “there was a problem but we are already working to correct it.” I love our public school district and appreciate how carefully they watch out for the kids.