Teen Boys | Dating/Courtship and Working | Thoughts in the Garden

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[LittleHouseOnTheMountain]

Your boys are beyond blessed to be protected by the wisdom of you and your husband. The heartbreak of the world is real.

[KENNYGAROOtheGOODGUYGURU]

I stayed safe in my cave until I turned 20. Then I went out to find my mate and drag her back home. My parents never told me that the sun would be so bright! 🌞

[SaintPatrick]

Agreed! I have 3 girls. Oldest is 13. Good advice and so nice to know that there are other like-minded parents out there!

[marylekhmus]

I was just talking to my husband about this and so happy to hear your thoughts bc this is how we feel

[stefani_leigh]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. A lot of good points from a wise, godly perspective I appreciate that. My son is only 10 but these things are already on my mind.

[helenscho]

You are so wise. I remember working at a “darling” little grocery store. I was 16. A co-worker would tell me about how his wife was withholding from him, and asked me to meet him in a private room. Multiple times. I never went. I also never told a soul. You never know what your children will be exposed to.

[ashlieleavelle]

Completely agree. I believe dating is for marriage....And I also think teens dating is asking for fornication.

[ChristinaLaRose]

This was such a blessing to hear, thank you!

[sweethometreasures]

Very well said Alana. We are completely with you. Our girls are 16 and 14, and we've been saying since the beginning that they won't be dating until they're ready to be wives and mothers. It's pretty simple 😊

[bornagainbeliever]

I wish I had had this kind of wisdom growing up as a teenager and young adult (even after I got saved at 22 I still lacked wisdom!) Your sons are so fortunate to have a wise mother and father 🩵

[noemithompson]

I love what you said here. I have a 17 yr old son, son to be 18 and he is desperate for a relationship and i see that's it's not for sound reasons. It's for filling his loneliness, having somebody to talk to and text. He has been rejected by every girl he has seeked after and while I hate to see him down, I thank God for the rejection. I have talked to him and explained to him that the rejection is actually God's blessing. I tell him that he's not ready for a relationship and all the responsibilities it brings, he's also not ready for the broken hearts he will encounter. I have told him that God is preparing him still and now is the time to focus on growing in the Lord, seeking Him more and becoming the man God intended him to be for his wife one day. By God's grace he is giving ear to what I've shared and he is reading and seeking 🙏. Parents are not supposed to affirm every whim our children have, but to guide and teach them through the gospel what God says 🙏🫶

[AmaniiRoy]

Well said! My husband and I went through the mud bc we had 0 guidance. Met at 12 & 14, I got pregnant at 15 he was 18 & had nothing. So many break ups and damaging situations happened in our relationship. I praise God we are making it still, we are 28 & 31 now & have 4 boys!

I like how you chatted about even providing guidance for their careers too. We talk about that with our kiddos as well. We hope to stay together, Hispanics and Asians are some of the most successful people in America bc they work hard and stick together.

Do more chats like this❤

[fanita]

I'm so grateful for videos like these 🙏 I remember a video you posted about "the talk" and took notes 😂 as my boys are still 6 and 9. I pray everyday for the Lord's help, but these videos are very encouraging. Thanks Alana ❤

[philipatoz]

As a father of two boys, I constantly drilled into them that once they began dating, it should be about the process of finding a life-long spouse, but also will also be a one of finding how out about how they might fit with different personality types and values - especially spiritual ones - and of what they ultimately like and need in a mate. And so, I always told them to NEVER, EVER date a woman that is not a mature Christian - that it would only lead to heartbreak. My oldest only had two girlfriends - our pastor's daughter and the next was his wife. And by the time he met his wife, he knew much of what he was looking for - and so did she.

[mjsblessings]

Still raising and homeschooling 3 of our 5 kids and have landed on many of these convictions as well. Good and godly friends have differing convictions. That's ok. We will follow God's lead for us. Made some mistakes with allowing phones/tablets too early (age 15) with some kids and had to back pedal. Other cases, it was ok for that child. We learned about avoiding being "fair" and instead looking for maturity and readiness. Decided before children that dating etc. should wait until they are ready to care for a family. Older 2 are now young adults out of college and praying for spouses; but they also want parental input. They saw alot of "ring by spring" on their Christian campus and they saw a lot they want to avoid. We are thought of as too rigid as parents. It's ok. We will give an account to God. We trust the Lord to lead them as we pray a lot for our kids and their choices.

[savedbyjesus]

I was raised that way and I'm so thankful for it! I'm sure it saved me from so much heartbreak.
Unless you're at a place where you are ready to get married, there's really no point in dating.

I'm an adult and still looking for a husband, but the same principle applies: if he's not the kind of man I want to marry, there's no point in dating him!

[hannacastaneda]

My son is only 3 but I'm remember this video. Thank you

[robertlaabs]

I wish I had grown up with a mother who had your world view. Not easy!

[alisonrodriguez]

advice!!! Parents WAKE UP! Love this video 🙌🏼

[crazyleaf]

Not allowing the teens to talk about who likes who is an amazing rule! I wish we had that rule when I was a kid. Didn't have a whole lot of guidance in that area. I wish my mentors and parents were the ones asking me if I liked anyone and talking it out seriously not just with knowing smiles to just go oh you're so cute and so funny but to actually go okay why do you like them give me the guidance like you said it's a good idea to not think about it much until you're old enough. I know my mom tried to help me when I had a crush she said I could hang out with him but I didn't know how to even talk to him it was super super awkward