My dad disowned me because I kept my mom's secret from him & now I can't forgive myself

My dad disowned me because I kept my mom's secret from him & now I can't forgive myself

#r/sil #r/entitledpeople #r/relationship

[eyeamawake]

I still can’t get past the whole “mom got the house, alimony, and child support even after having proof of infidelity. No American court will ever see a request for a marriage license from me. That is disgusting.

[jasonsanders]

This man had to remove all the cancer from his life which included the ex wife, her bastard, and the daughter. This story is awful!

[Bleg]

1. Story:
OP everything but admitted that the ONLY reason she was against the affair was when the AP was a downgrade to her father
OP also basically admitted she only regrets her actions because she sees how good the fathers life is in comparison to hers, she only regrets her action because the dad disowned her for being a pos

[jameymoore]

Maybe I'm a dick but I fully support the the dad op betrayed him in so many ways but the worst is she was going to let him raise another man's child which is the worst thing you could possibly do to a man

[timothybryan]

That mother needed a friend? HER FRIEND WAS BEDRIDDEN AND HEALING WHILE SHE WAS PLOTTING TO BETRAY HIM.

[prashanthkumar]

Another interesting thing I observed in the first story OPs dad wanted more kids but that evil mom didn't. But she was ok about having another child when another man impregnated her. Yieks the more I think about this the more disgusted I feel.

[STB-jhod]

Dad was bedridden for 5 months so he knew she cheated. I hate how BHs are expected to pay for AP'S kids, but APs aren't gone after for child support.

[Deathmonkey]

OP's dad in story one straight up went omni man "What's 17 more years can always start again make another kid" and then made a company dude is hardcore.

[christopherkrug]

I 100% align with the dad. If my daughter covered for my wife like that. I would do same thing

[bepolite]

Story 1. Her father did not abandon her, she abandoned her father. She was 16, I remember being 16 so she does not get a break for that. At 16 if my mother had come to me and told me that, I would have been heart broken that she could do that to my father, or visa versa, there is not a snow balls chance in hell I would have enabled or covered for it! Yet this girl not only does that, she also helps her mother commit paternity fraud on her own father! My god, there is no forgiving that.

[wendyh]

You need to move on. He wants nothing to do with you and you need to accept that. You can't force him. Really, the person the blame for all of this is your mother. Leave your father alone.

[coltonalbright]

As a fat, ugly guy myself I can't really imagine being so lonely that I'd settle for a phoney relationship that hinges entirely on my money. I'll just stay by myself thanks. At least I don't have to worry about leaving myself if I lose my money.

[fromfattofitinmyfifties]

Story 1: I can't even muster up a drop of sympathy for OP. She was 16. Yes, still a minor, but old enough to know what her mother is doing. Wouldn't it be a lovely piece of karma if her child was complicit in an affair that her husband was having?

She could say, "Gee. Now I know what I put my dad through. This really sucks."

And the nerve, approaching him in public like that, while he's with his new family.

Young lady, you SUCK!

[ChristalClearCarma]

I'm really proud of that man! That daughter at a young age showed major character flaws there no way I would allow a man to disrespect my father no less to my face.

[briansmaller]

That mother needed a friend.And not her daughter to be her secret keeper. Why parents treat their kids as BFFs baffles me. You have one job. To parent.

[holeymcsockpuppet]

Story 1: leave your dad alone and see if mom will help you cheat on your fiancé.
Story 2: Wife is lying. Wife, MIL, and SIL all think it's fine to use a man for money. Counseling might help, but he might want to have divorce paper's ready. The women know they f'd up...and are drafting a narrative to gaslight him.

[johnnygonzales]

Damn I absolutely love the first story. The father is awesome absolute condemnation for those who betrayed him. Nothing is more satisfying than these kind of stories. I hope the mother and the op suffer greatly for the rest of their days. And I wish nothing but the best for the father.

[MizzShortai]

Op says they never got involved but they did. They actively covered for their mother knowing she was having an affair. Then meets the guy knowingly and has the nerve to be disgusted they kissed in front of her.? Why on earth would OP say it's okay ill cover for you? It shows how little respect she had for her dad.

Edit: i hate when people use their bed ridden spouse as an excuse to cheat. If you truly loved your spouse you would never cheat. Its called in sickness and in health.

Edit: i hope OP thinks about this now that she has a kid what she would do if he did that to her.

[ricaivory]

First story reminds me of another reddit story where the daughter knew and helped cover up the moms cheating. Dad went no contact and held it to his grave, his literal grave. Sis literally had A mental breakdown when everyone saw what the dad had left for the kids. All the other Kids who didn't help cover up the cheating got heartfelt messages behind pictures in am album and all the sister who did help cover it up got was the pictures with dates. They may be your Parents but they do not owe you ultimate forgiveness for mistakes you actively engage in that you KNOW will hurt them to the core. Don't ever take the love that someone Has for you for granted.

[DevotedDisciple-x]

The father in this story is exactly why most men don't marry now. His story or some variant of it is all too commonplace now. Poor guy. He worked his life away for them and she couldn't handle him being out for some months? Wow..