This High-Value, Feminine Response When A Guy Pulls Away Sets You Apart

In Today's video, I share an uncommon viewpoint on the ONLY thing you need to do if a man you like pulls away or stops pursuing you.

00:00 The truth about your pain.
01:15 My invitation to you.
01:30 Reframing the problem with the truth.
02:05 The 1st thing you need to stop doing.
02:25 The 2nd thing you need to stop doing.
03:18 A healthier way of looking at this problem.
04:00 This principle can make the biggest difference with men.
04:33 The 3rd thing you have to stop.
05:30 The 4th thing you have to stop.
06:07 What to do - Part 1
06:20 What to do - Part 2
06:36 How to step into an abundance mindset?
07:33 How to take this deeper.

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[Songs-lspr]

If he grows cold:
Two approaches to take-
1. Stand still. Do absolutely nothing. (If he wants you he will pursue)
2. Step fully into an abundance mindset. (Radiate. Work on you. Be surrounded by love with love)
WONDERFUL tips/advice ❤️🥰

[cheryldekoevend]

Really helpful video. My biggest takeaway was:
"Stop taking this personally. Stop making this about you. It's his own problem and his own reality. Understand that if a guy is not interested in you or can't pursue you, the value that he brings to your life is Zero! Stop thinking you did something to push him away, when in reality, he didn't have what it took from the beginning."

[dragonfish]

1. Stop acting like you lost the winning lottery ticket.
2. Stop taking this personally. Maybe he’s gay, maybe he’s in another relationship, maybe he wants FWB. He might have his own reality. Understand that if a guy has all of the qualities you want, but he doesn’t want to pursue you, take all of those qualities and multiply them by ZERO = 0.
3. Stop trying to get his attention. If he’s capable of pursuing you, he will. You don’t need to do anything.
4. Stop focusing on him and stop following him on social media.
5. Stand still. Do nothing.
6. Step fully into an abundance mindset.
A. When you fall off the horse, get back on as soon as possible.
B. Focus on anything and everything that makes you feel alive and increases your sense of radiance.
C. Express more of you when you meet someone new - stop projecting the future until you get to know him more deeply.

[wyleecoyotee]

When a guy pulls away...just move on and don't give him a second thought.

[tamaragreen]

LADIES! We must acknowledge and own our WORTH!! If a man is being disrespectful, inconsiderate, dishonest, and selfish, then walk away in order to protect yourself. It's not easy because we somehow found ourselves liking that man for whatever reasons. Stay positive, optimistic and identify what you learned about yourself from the relationship/situationship. It's all about Self-Growth and realizing that God is getting us ready and preparing us for the man that HE is getting ready for us. Love is easy, not hard or complicated.

[howtosober]

I've stopped chasing after people entirely. If I've clearly expressed my interest in them and they pull away, I don't even bother understanding why anymore. It might be their insecure attachment style, their past traumas, their unhealed wounds. It might be that they're just busy and overwhelmed and don't know how to make space for a relationship. Or they might be playing games. But ultimately, it's everyone's individual responsibility to communicate those things, and if they can't, it's not my job to intuit for them. I spent way too much time doing all the emotional labor in relationships only to get taken for granted. What Matthew said once was right on: "I understand you have your reasons but I have my reality- and what I'm interested in is my reality." If a man pulls away from me, I assume the connection is done with and stop investing. If they come back, I usually only entertain them as an acquaintance. Trust built takes work to bring back online- and for me, doing that work with someone that already disappeared once isn't worth it.

[sundusali]

YEAHHHH STOP PROJECTING THE FUTURE, BEFORE YOU KNOW HIM MORE., BEST POINT!!

[larisimon]

I finally cut myself off from a toxic one sided relationship. Thank you so much for the reinforcement.

[dorothyalford]

What I took away is reminding myself there is nothing wrong with me. And it's not always about me.

[kristines]

I don’t understand why anyone would want someone who lost or was losing interest. People constantly go from relationship to relationship and they never take the time to heal and fall in love with themselves. They just continue to attract the same person, different look. What people don’t seem to understand is that by healing and learning about yourself you become stronger, better and happier! That’s the only time you will attract a person into your life that not only loves you but someone who adores you…If not you get the same unfulfilling relationship over and over…

[Songs-lspr]

Stop projecting the future until you get to know him deeper. Yep!

[naram]

Great content Bern!😊
I stopped taking disinterest personally, when I was honest with myself, that there were many men that I wasn’t interested, so, why I was being a hypocrite, when it came to me. Work on yourself, become the best version of yourself and recognize that, it takes mutual interest for a relationship to work . And even if it doesn’t work out from either party, recognize that you CAN’T force LOVE.❤️
If someone is genuinely interested, they won’t disappear.

[karenbernard]

Thank you sir. Please ladies, listen to this message. You are your own greatness. If you don't connect with someone, it might just be because you're not supposed to be.

[WhiteWolfBlackStar]

Great content! I keep trying to explain this same thing to a friend of mine I work with. He apparently assumes MY entire life revolves around HIM, and he does whatever he can to ensure some type of co-dependent relationship with me when I made it completely clear, I just got OUT of a 30 year situation where I started with everything. A home, my own business, money, car.... and wound up having to WALK AWAY with the clothes on my back from the same dysfunction.
I THINK I LEARNED SOMETHING THERE.
I can SPOT BROKEN a mile away, why do it all over again?

[camuyana]

I am the one ending this mess and he wants to keep going and I said no and I took action and filed for divorce 3 days ago. I forgot for a moment how I should be treated and my worth but I am back!

[JaneDoe-rpfn]

Thank you só much for the very sensible advice Bern. It is really appreciated. Just gone through a terrible experience with a man who pursued me full on for five weeks and then started withdrawing only to pop up now and then with a lame:"Hi how are you?" Or:"Hello there are you still thinking about me?" Or :"Hello my best friend!". Listen to Bern ladies, he has really good advice. Keep it up plse Bern!

[lisaruvalcaba]

🌟SHOW UP IN YOUR RADIANCE 🌟Love that idea. Thank you for a high value video🙏🏽

[clairemason]

Extremely helpful video. Simplifies and encourages.

[Abba_Jesus]

I would like to find a guy who will prioritize his loyalty to me. If i dont find the right guy who will help me grow with him then id rather be single. I will make sure to get pregnant though. I want to have kids. Money is not going to be a problem to me, im a person who always strives to success. I know my worth very well and i dont understand why would i need to hand myself over to a dude who doesnt respect me. I work so hard to to be the best version of myself only to see a man step all over me. If you dont fit the bill then dont expect that I'll stay. I'll go before you do.

[urvishah]

I absolutely love the way you connect what you say with day to day examples and visuals. It makes things o much more clear. Taco bar, black Friday email adverts etc, ..awesome.