Paris Paloma - labour & Women In Asia #shorts #parispaloma

[elizabethannieSleeba]

So true!! Im an Indian woman and this song is representation of so much rage I have against the patriarchal society that I was bought up in. Growing up, my roots of and ideas and sense of right and wrong that were formed the minute I had to "serve" and keep silent and not fight back.

Today, I am proud of who I am but the shackles haven't been broken yet. The feminist in me felt my body having goosebumps and my eyes welling up and the intergenerational trauma healing when I heard this song. Thank you, my dear Paris.

You are truly, truly a Queen❤

[starrstuff]

there is a malayalam (south indian) film called The Great Indian Kitchen. this song pretty much explains the plot of that film. it is about the domestic abuse and the overall treatment of women in kerala. that film filled me with so much raagee dude. it really puts things into perspective. it is so sick how a lot of horrible things (like not letting the wife work after marriage, forced s3x, making her do all the domestic work, etc) have been normalised in our culture.

[theundone]

I have met women from India who live in the US, and most of them say that they would never ever date a man from India. They're so happy to have their freedom, most of them don't date anyone ( they are generally age 40 and up)

[shamsterthehamster]

As a Bangladeshi woman, I can confirm. This song gives me goosebumps because it really is the story of women EVERYWHERE!

[denizkaragullu]

I am Turkish and the amount labour women do that goes unappreciated is insane. Especially during Ramadan. He has the right to complain about hunger but she doesn't. She has to be the one to wake up earlier and prepare sahur. The young girls in the family have to help with everything while the boys can sit and wait even though they are both extremely hungry and dehydrated. If the girls are on their periods, they have to eat in secret and still pretend to fast because we possibly can't tell the men in our family that we are on our periods, that is shameful!

[PetaPan]

"silent household asset" is a perfect, powerful description.

[unijade]

Pakistani here. Same sis, same.

My husband, god bless him, has been lectured and ridiculed because he helps me in the kitchen. And I, of course, am the failure wife because I couldn't be his servant.

[achinipahalawatte]

Happy to finally see a south asian take on this because it’s incomprehensible how women in South Asia still go through everything described in the song, in this day and age. The society has a come to an economic state where women have to work and households require dual income to sustain a comfortable lifestyle. Women are taking the burden of men being the sole breadwinners in this economy and yet, men don’t seem to comprehend that burden of household work should be shared too. In South Asia, marriage is basically men moving from one woman (mother) responding to their beck and call to another woman (wife) doing that for them. Basically marriage is just getting a servant that you can sleep with and reproduce your offsprings.
Women are sharing the financial burden; why can’t you share the burden of household labour too? (And they say women shouldn’t work, but don’t realize it’s women’s contribution that’s making their “role of providing” so much easier in this economy. What if we all suddenly stopped working? The society will collapse)

[carolinpurayidom]

As an Indian I can confirm this is true my mother and mother's mother and aunts struggle with this

[thandondlovu]

Exact same thing in African households to this day I'm told I have to be good at cooking and cleaning because I'm a woman and it's my responsibility and if I can't do these things then I'll never find and keep a husband. These sexists messages are shoved down our throats from such a young age and if you are not aware of how inherently sexist and untrue theses messages are it's so easy to believe simply because of how often your are told them.

[LVESTY]

There is an Indian short film called JUICE, on youtube, that literally describes what she is saying. Asian women truly do suffer within a heavily stigmatised community with strict gender roles that forces them to act in certain ways.

[BlueAlder_]

I’m not Asian, but I find this also applied to my family as well. My brother was the first born boy he was raised with a completely different set of rules from me. He was allowed to call me bad names because “he’s a teenage boy” etc. he’s allowed to yell and scream and skip out on chores because “he’s just a boy that’s what they do”. But I wasn’t allowed to do any of those things, I couldn’t dress differently, I wasn’t allowed to ask for anything big, while he could ask for anything and would never get punished for asking. I had to do my chores, and when I messed up it was like I had failed everyone but when he did it was “haha so funny, it’s okay buddy you’ll get it next time” or “it’s okay you didn’t need it anyway”. It was never funny when I called someone else a bad name, when I did it I was being a bully or a bad person no matter the context. I love my bother very much but he will never be the oldest and most mature out of our siblings, it will always be me upholding the responsibility.

[Breathefreemylove]

It’s not just the Asian community, patriarchy is global, that’s why every woman relates to it.

[iamwell]

Trust me. Same in America. Same 👏🏻 in👏🏻America 👏🏻👏🏻

Our shelters for abused women are everywhere and they’re overflowing

[randomgirlnamedfefe]

The song reminds me of my mom she tells us not to go through the same things she went through, she got married at 14 to my dad who was 19. She had her first child at 15, never went to school did everything she thought she was Escaping her family that made her do everything but she ended up back in square one

[yourlordship]

One of my neighbors blew up his own house and lit 2 other houses on fire while trying to honor kill his daughter. Thankfully he didn't succeed but couldn't imagine how terrified that young girl must have been, having her own father turn on her like that.

[oogaboogass]

Omg i thought of my mother when I listened to this i immediately sent this to her!!

[dr.purrscent]

You will find variations of the same thing throughout melanated communities. It's the same scene played out in different adaptations played by different actors and actresses. As a member of the Black Community, the scene is manipulated slightly differently but the outcome produces the same results. Either way, the Woman and Women end up doing ALL the work while the boys do the minimum if anything at all.

[retroreceptionist]

This is also true in my household (dad’s family is from Puerto Rico ) women had to do everything for dinners holidays day to day while our brothers are little princes. Needless to say my husband cooks now but I clean up

[gabbym]

My Mexican family is like this too. Oppressive family systems have ruined my grandmothers and my mother. I do not want to continue that tradition.