Reintegrative Therapy Heals Same-Sex Trauma | Dr. Joseph Nicolosi on The Dr J Show ep. 144

Joseph Nicolosi Jr., Ph.D. (Chicago School of Professional Psychology) is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, researcher and clinical director at The Breakthrough Clinic in Southern California. He is the founder of the Reintegrative Therapy Association, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization and the largest counseling organization serving men with unwanted same-sex attractions.

Dr. Nicolosi has provided expert testimony in multiple legislative hearings across the United States on psychotherapy bans related to LGBT-related therapy, has appeared on network television news programs and podcasts and has written for The Federalist and the Washington Examiner.

Reintegrative Therapy:

Dr Nicolosi banned by YouTube:
YouTube bans counseling channel for 'hate speech' after 'conversion therapy' report | Fox Business

Dr Nicolosi article about being banned:

Intro video:

Slightly more technical video with a more robust scientific background to this topic: 

Dr. Joseph Nicolosi op-ed which refutes Big Tech's ban of his scientifically-proven therapy methods: 
Trauma Treatment Can Alter Sexual Attractions. Big Tech Won't Let Us Talk About It. | RealClearPolicy

Dr. Paul Sullins’ research on clergy sexual abuse:
Dr. Paul Sullins on Sexual Orientation Change Efforts on The Dr J Show:
and

Dr Paul Sullins’ studies referred to by Dr Joseph Nicolosi:
"Efficacy and risk of sexual orientation change efforts: a retrospective analysis of 125 exposed men":
and
"Absence of Behavioral Harm Following Non-efficacious Sexual Orientation Change Efforts: A Retrospective Study of United States Sexual Minority Adults, 2016–2018", at

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[BGFitnessNY]

I’m going to listen to this in full. Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Sr. was one of my favorite people. He was a great man! I highly recommend his book Preventing Male Homosexuality.

[flamingrobin]

THE BEST WAY TO COMBAT suppression of same sex therapy is to train more therapists and recruit more people to talk about it out in the public forum. multiply the impact and exposure

[flamingrobin]

nicolosi's videos on youtube have deeply impacted my life in understanding. i also read the bible for 45 years which helps. it grieves me to think that people are threatened by truth that helps other people.

[flamingrobin]

EVEN IF PEOPLE COULD NEVER HEAL OR CHANGE THEIR SEXUAL still have the right to control their behavior and not act against their values.

[cheese]

So excited. I hope Reintegrative Therapy gets the traction (positive of course) it deserves.

[flamingrobin]

i love what nicolosi says about "double bind" messages and "the double loop" process to recover from shame moments.... i think this is an under emphasized dynamic

[CSJS]

I can’t believe I will never be able to meet Joseph Nicolosi

[heathercommonsense]

What he says makes a lot of sense. I think this could help lots of people. What doesn't make sense is for a client to be encouraged by a clinician to explore his/her homosexuality but not his/her heterosexuality.

[marinetenete]

Coloca o video com legendas disponível

[dovieblue]

Gosh I wish my best friend would have been able to do reintegrative therapy. He died of AIDS.

[PsychoBible]

Anyone interested in this topic should also check out the interview I did with Dr. Nicolosi and Dr. Pela in my channel.

[matthewm.]

Thank-you for interviewing Dr. Nicolosi Jr.! I wish his and his fathers work was more discussed in the Catholic world! Personally, I would like to see his father’s appearances on old talk shows in the early 1990’s uploaded on YouTube, just to see how people responded to him back then. I would also love to see someone write a biography of Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Sr. one day!

[whitewings]

I went through therapy and was able to process some of the narcissistic adaptations which seemed to rule my life and sexuality. It works. Admittedly, i am in a committed relationship with a man, because i love my husband and family. However, i was able to make a choice of being in a homosexual relationship, instead of with a woman. But, by working through these issues, i have been have able to choose a healthy partner. If we ever part ways, i would probably explore more about heterosexual relationships. Also, im an atheist, so i dont have any innate reasons to think that one orientation is moral and the other isnt, however, most homosexual relationships are compensatory.

[flamingrobin]

origins of same sex attraction. dissassociation, shame, passivity, powerlessness, gendered strivings for father, and peers are blocked by shame, hostility, criticism, rejection either by self or father/peers. rejection can be "perceived" or "actual" or a combination of both. "the classic triadic relationship" must not be underestimated. overbearing, controlling, domineering, engulfing mother and a detached hostile, passive, critical or unavailable father. often the boy is caught in between the mother and fathers realtionship in emotional incest where mother uses the boy as a replacement for a problem with intimacy with her husband. the boy can be used as a triangulation between the father and mother. parents who put there children in the middle of their conflict with the other parent are "shaming". the child is forced to take a side. to pull away from mother and attempt to set boundaries feels like a complete loss of family if Dad is an enemy. this push pull internal conflict fuels a desire to FANTASY BOND in sexual acting out with another man. if you can't get away from your mother enough to establish a male identity you will end up craving men in fantasy because you have no bridge to the masculine world after father(image) and brother(image) and peers have become and enemy/object of desire. you betray mother when you grow up. mothers who keep their sons dependant and helpless are so damaging. Fathers who reject their sons and have no power and influence over the wife teach the son that he cannot be trusted to bond.

[belzeri]

Y’all better save this video abs back it up cause you know how YouTube is 🤣🤣

[sueannevangalen]

Very interesting. I am interested in the so-called link between being autistic and identifying as LGBT. The thing about it is, autistic people are more easily traumatized than the general population. "There's no such thing as an un-traumatized autistic person" is a saying in our community. I wish someone would do a study on that (i.e. whether or not autistic people are more likely to identify as LGBT and if so, whether or not that's related to trauma).

[PsychoBible]

Of course, YouTube wasted no time with their Trevor Project label garbage.

[flamingrobin]

the origins of same sex attraction in males. an emotionally unattuned mother in childhood overstimulates the child for her own needs or is underattentive or inconsistent to the baby boys needs for stimulation or rest. because of this the child learns to dissasociate . in the gender identity phase 2-3 years old he wants to engage with dad but dad is hostile, detached, uninterested, critical. the father cannot pull the boy out of his dissassociating pattern because he is not engaging, confident, interested or persistent enough. fear of men and boys who are loud, assertive, dangerous, and hunger/aversion develops. fear and mystery develops into sexual and feelings of excitement and danger which are overwhelming but exhilirating. shame moments lock the boy away from masculine strivings. peer rejection becomes a common part of a boys attempt to acheive masculine strivings. at the same time the boy/teen retreats to women/girls and feels more like being friendly safe, nutured emotional with them. this reinforces his sense of "other than" and being notices by father/brother/peers as "Sissy" "gay" or other than. the gay label becomes a shame and bullying which becomes another peer trauma. family systems reinforce the gay pattern in a male by shaming him into assuming a powerless/passive/unassertive role. if narcissistic siblings/parents get all the attention and the boy is the scapegoat he retreats from moments where he would be shamed by stealing attention away from narcissists so he learns to dissasociate, hide, devalue himself, learn to be a lone wold. fantasize. much of the gay fantasy revolves around key events in the boys live that were exciting/traumatizing. this is the realm of paraphilias that are quite common in homosexual fantasy. fantasies of being punished, spaked, degraded, or dominating someone else. dominance/submission is a common theme in homosexual acts and fantasies. sometimes there is a "daddy/son" fantasy that is sexualized. these are clues to the trauma of the individual that comes out in fantasy and even in sexual dreams. the human psyche attempt to repair its lost childhood by giving you clues as to the wounding. when something becomes sexualized it becomes burned into your psyche by masturbation or orgasm reinforcing its power over the individual. some with same sex attraction never act on them in relationship only in fantasy. some pursue a gay lifestyle. many were sexually abused by an older teen or adult which becomes part of the origins of their same sex attraction trauma

[jasonthewatchmansson]

You forgot to ask if even one of his patients has changed from homosexual to heterosexual. It must have slipped your mind! Also, I would have thought that even a minimally engaged interviewer would have inquired as to the status of his late father's Thmas Aquinas clinic and why he apparently has chosen not to continue "reparative therapy" as practiced at that clinic.

[justjamie]

No one is born gay or straight. Sexual attraction is developed. People are usually attracted to people who resemble their parents. Adopted children are attracted to people who resemble their adoptive parents. Conversation therapy never existed it was aversion therapy and it was used on smokers and overeaters as well. It was a horrible thing to do and to experience but the idea was sound. Parents smack their child's hand every time they touch something they weren't supposed to, eventually the child would stop reaching for it. Electroshock was the adult version of a hand smack.