Can ENFPs commit? Asked by an ISTP

Can ENFPs commit? Or not? As an ENFP, I'll explain my opinion based on Socionics. Check out my "personality types" playlist for more.

[RetroXRicardo]

Insightful information on this ENFP type! What a great question. I stumbled upon your channel through the YouTube algorithm today. My MBTI channel does the same. Thanks for sharing! 🌟🌟🌟

[alexlo]

Hi Julie, thank you very much for the video. It was interesting and I could relate to what you said about both istps and enfps because I've experienced it myself. Yes you're right, I am the Si subtype. I know you're busy and I appreciate receiving a personalized video for free. I have also sent a request for a session, although I'm not sure if I can afford it. I wish I had told you my entire story. Everything I said in my comment are things I experienced. Perhaps the enfp I know is mentally unhealthy, and maybe I am as well. Maybe the timing was bad. I will try to summarize the past 6 years (hopefully it won't be too long, but probably will) and by the end of it, you may think I'm crazy for the decisions I made. I have been feeling extremely bad lately because of something recent that happened. You will find out in the summary. I have never been good at writing (doesn't flow smoothly), so I apologize in advance. You will notice that my writing becomes very unorganized starting midway through the summary because I felt tired typing all of this and reminding myself of bad memories

I met an enfp on interpals in 2017. She lives in Korea I live in Canada. She was learning English at the time and I remember on the first day we called, I could not understand her very well. And so, I would be patient and help her with her English everyday through voice calls. I really liked her and she liked me back. Conversations between us would be kind of back and forth, with me mostly asking questions since I struggle to make interesting statements. Later I found out she is actually stuck at home everyday (she was 23 at the time) since she graduated from university because she had to take care of her little stepbrothers. She still is to this day but she is teaching korean online on preply to people around the world (this is important later on). Her mom (divorced) had children with a man, who now does not take any responsiblity for them and comes home at midnight drunk every single day. Her mom has to work so it's up to her to stay home and take care of the children. So you can see that she did not have a good social life. She was also very very naive about men. She loves to meet people and interpals was her way of doing so. She would tell me what these guys texted her and I would say that they are 100% flirting (because they are) and are saying they will come to Korea to meet you because they want to date you. She did not believe me and ALWAYS got annoyed when I told her this. So this made me worried because of how easily she trusts others. She always assumes the best of someone and in the back of my mind, I had a feeling eventually there is going to be a guy she meets online that she will like, and maybe she will leave me for him.
I travelled to korea to meet her on April 2018. I was still a student at the time so I didn't have much money. It was a really good time, I met her mom family and I could feel she liked me a lot even though I was quiet and was just being myself. After I came back, she agreed to start a long-distance relationship. We would continue talking, but since we know each other quite well, there wasn't much I could ask anymore. I would result to asking basic, repetitive, "normal" questions such as questions about things that are happening in her life in the present. Everything was fine, she knew I was a boring person but I knew she was getting a little (maybe 10%) bored. We kept talking and I think in late 2019 she told me she wanted to come visit me and since I was a student and couldn't afford anything and I had such a busy schedule, I had to say no and I told her those reasons. She took that badly, and I could understand why, as we haven't met for so long, so she decided to breakup, however we continued to talk as if nothing happened. We still acted like we were dating although we weren't "officially". She would continue to say she loves me but also wanted to be free, free to meet other guys and doesn't want to be controlled (by me). In 2020, she met an entp on interpals, and as you can guess they both bonded through their Ne and liked each other and he pretty much convinced her to travel to the US to meet him. Despite knowing her financial situation and that she has been stuck at home, he asked HER to go to him. She even told me to leave as she wants to start a new relationship, with the entp after knowing him for a few months .She said she likes him and she loves me as well, but she decided to start a relationship with him, probably because she wanted something new. (I know, it's crazy) I still love her very much and I didn't want to lose her. I am 100% sure she felt so comfortable and relaxed when she was with me and nobody else gave her this feeling. felt depressed but I continued to talk to her everyday. I noticed she was replying less often and I knew it was because she was talking to him instead. She said breakups will feel bad but time will heal, and that she will distance herself from me slowly and not immediately so that I have time to adjust. Hearing this did not make me feel any better. Eventually she had to block me because I continiued to message her. It was very hard for me, I would stay in my room all day doing nothing. After a few days, she unblocked me and told me she decided that I was more important than the entp and she didn't want to lose me. Everything was ok for a while, we still weren't in a relationship because she always wants to be "free" but we still talked and acted like we were. I was fine with that because 1. I don't want to force her to do something she doesn't like 2. It's just a label. I forgot to mention that we basically never had arguments, and the only times we did was when I mentioned that a guy she met online is flirting with her, but she wouldn't accept it. Her excuse would be she doesn't care because she only seems them as friends. (I know, this is bad). Some guys would even say "Let's travel together! We can stay in the same hotel room but we will sleep in different beds" . I would tell her that these guys don't see you as friends just because you see them as friends, but she never accepted it. She sees everyone as friends. She also said if she finds someone "better" she will be with that guy. She said I can leave whenever I want but I continued to stay and talk to her everyday. Of course I didn't like that but I had to accept it to because I didn't want to lose her (I know, I'm crazy). As she continued her online teaching, I was worried as I knew she would give almost anyone her contact because she sees them as friends. In early 2022, a guy from her university messaged her and they hung out for 2 months, .

[Heyokasirenieisxso]

IEE and SLI or ISTp you are going to confuse people thats already simple minded