Here's the hard truth about church hurt...

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[JoshuaNaranjoMusic]

My wife gently confronted a supposed friend about a situation…she didn’t like that. So she secretly goes around spreading a bit of hate towards her in the church community creating a false image of her. Most of the community believed her false stories. My wife felt completely betrayed by her friend than the community for not actually trying to pursue the truth. And all this happening after leaving hurt from a mega church to attend a smaller church. To only be hurt again…..unfortunately she got tired and disappointed with church. So we stopped attending. I have my own disappointments with church as well…so now we both struggle to go back to church. We love the faith and its truths, but just disappointed with the peoples immaturity and institutional focus on less important matters.
Not sure if anyone else has dealt with this…

[pastorwaleade]

Yea. The way we say things as leaders matters. The fruit of the Spirit includes gentleness and kindness Bro…

[bondslaveofJesusChrist]

What about leaders that have no accountability and when they are confronted about their belief they ignore it and tell you you're not welcome? Church hurt is a quick way out for leaders that don't want to do what they are PAID to do.

[ShilohLux.]

I understand that quite a few “church hurts” is because of people not wanting to confront their own sins, but what about holding actual church’s accountable for real Church Hurts? I hardly ever see people or influencers hold them accountable and just jump to the same old conversation about the people not confronting their sins. There is a lot of real church hurt. Me and my sister have dealt with it and many people I know have as well. There is a growing problem with people leaving the church for real reasons.. This needs to be talked about!

[ballroomdru]

Preach. This isn’t real church hurt. People need to confess their sins one to another and support each other trying to pursue God more diligently.

[themetrovibe]

I just wish there was more people out here preaching on church hurt when it comes to SA, SH and any other form of that type in church.
How to overcome it, how to deal with it and how to see that mankind is separate from God. What mankind does to someone is not what God intends for anyone… Commenting this for a friend.

[roseray]

This topic needs expanded on. It’s an epidemic!

[treeplantedbythewater]

I could be wrong about this, but calling people out from the pulpit instead of confronting them personally to me is cowardice and offensive..

[shockthetoast]

There's so many things called church hurt that aren't, and so much real church hurt. Categorizing things as church hurt that aren't only serves to downplay the real.

[sandyzalecki]

I've had so much church hurt that I don't even react to it anymore. I hope you don't feel that a church who had a sheriff's officer as a deacon that sends out 8 sheriff's officers to have us ran out of town because my husband was an ex-con is appropriate. I'm the poster child for church hurt. I mean real church hurt. Church leaders need accountability also.

[sunflowerroark]

Our last pastor impregnanted his wife and girlfriend during the same month. We left quickly. We felt shamed for being rooked. The church before that stated that if we didn't go to church regulary, God would take our little girl to heaven. The church before that had a ten week revival pastor, co-pastor, and music team all left including the new converts. Tell me, what's up? How do you get plugged in and get accepted. Now, why after this track record should we venture out again?

[PrisonPreacher]

The way I deal with church hurt is by not going to church. The problems within the church are the leaders- haughty, high-minded, and legalist. In my 40+ year walk with the Lord, i never would've dreamed that it would come to this. These aren't isolated incidents. These are in every church ive been to. My Lord Jesus didn't die for the chaos and confusion. Enough is enough.

[Judekabongo]

Needed this seriously! Thank you for this video

[awaitingonchrist]

For me it's the opposite. I hold my leaders accountable and they hurt me.
Rarely even aloud to serve at church. No community that is welcoming me or loving me. I show up to serve at gateway and their like " why are YOU here?"
Signed up for years and never heard back ever.
Wasn't aloud to host a group because they saw my mental illness as unholiness. My friends have even seen how people treat me there.
And to me it's confusing because everyone there is always so positive and happy and people tell me I'm the most honest and sweet loving person but I go to YA and im invisible to those same people and can't connect. I'd like to not have autism and be able to belong but being treated like I'm an outcast and useless and a troublemaker because I call people out for their sins doesn't help.
I'll never have community and friend groups.
I'll never fit In the way I am and maybe never have a family. Didn't have a childhood and don't have one now
But I'd like to have a place to go to with people that actually care to hear from me rather than just showing up to groups and never connecting because eveyone.already has "their " people.
All I have is Jesus. I Kay it all out for everyone I love but it is not returned

[montanalaurahall]

I see both sides. Church hurt can come unintentionally, via legalistic processes, and basing things off cultural norms. The intent was trying to disciple and help grow people in Christ, but words said with a perspective without asking questions to seek understanding left me emotionally scarred. Another church wound is when a hope was pushed so hard and it didn't come to pass, people wondered if they didn't pray enough for it to happen (i.e. someone passing after a long bout of illness). That being said, I had to recognize the intent, the fallacy in what was said by certain people, weigh it against the Bible and God's character...and ultimately forgive the people that had brought hurt. I haven't been directly apologized to for the things I carry, but I had to determine how I was going to carry myself from now on. I think that is the kicker about church hurt. The forgiveness aspect and not succumbing to living in a victim mindset. However, I DO understand the point of this "campaign" (for lack of a better word). There are people who get ticked when things are called on them, and that shows a hardening of hearts. I do believe that in confrontation, knowing the personality/love languages, and being filled with grace and love is key. But yeah, sometimes the loving and gracious thing is to give it to the person straight. I have found mincing words usually can cover up issues.

[xxTheSkilletFreakxx]

OUCH he got me on the tone part. Do I think being called out is church hurt? No. But man I hate being called out in general😭

[sparaxisblanc]

I seriously hope this isn't encouraging people to mock all kinds of abuse. Especially abuse by religious people and psychological abuse.

Legalists and offended activists are both making a mockery of this problem.

[antoniomere]

Its RUSLAN with the sound effects for me 😂

[zackslife]

I love your stuff but you sound like someone who has never been hurt by the church literally 3 pastors betraying me and several people one of those pastors being my father in law it’s a miracle I still have faith but will never step foot in a church again. Bless god

[RebekahAPinto]

What do you call a person who is attending the church's youth gathering but when they are there, they don't get acknowledge at all by the others? How would you refer to that? Is that categorize as church hurt?