What Makes A Good Dom

Hey guys! Sorry this video is late but hey, it's on time for THIS Monday. ;) And sorry for the posting the wrong video... I'm still working on this.
Someone asked me to talk about what I think makes a great Dom. It was really fun to think about this and make a little list of what I like. The thing that I really want to make clear here is that you can still be a good Dom if you do some, all or none of these things. My list is not a definitive list or a perfect list, just a fun thing for me to think of and talk about.

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[stepfitz]

I like how you brought up the whole 'scene killer question' scenario. I like when someones able to ask me a question and I can sorta giggle and say yes or no. It can be really sexy or really cute either way, even if it's a no, vs flat out having to say, 'no, I'm sorry I cant'. Because nothing hurts a sub more than disappointing or not satisfying their dom. If I find myself in that situation it will not only make me feel awful but I will think about it randomly in the future from there on out. Also, it makes me self conscious vs. the confidence you want and need obviously. And of course reassurance always is the absolute best. You'll get a much better experience out of a sub who is propped up and encouraged for doing well. You'd think that's obvious but I feel like its overlooked a lot because of how obvious it is, if that makes sense.

[ravenmoon]

I prefer to lay out the toys I intend to use and then let my sub take away anything she isn’t comfortable with before I enter the room for the session. Communication is critical and the real point of the session from my point of view is to please her by allowing her to please me. So to achieve this I won’t tell her what I have in mind. I’ll also purposely include various toys that don’t specifically have a use in the scene I’ve planned.
This period of time allows her to subtly request certain things by adding the particular toy to the bench.
For instances she might place a candle and a match if she is craving hot wax. It won’t mean she gets it; but it can be a reward if she is doing well that night.

[peterjaro]

This is a very interresting question. I have always felt that it is the Sub that shape the Dom. That is ofcourse an odd thing to say, especially since the urge of the Sub is to 'loose control' to the Dom. However, even in play I find (or usually after) that my Sub has had so much imput, although during the play itself, I felt I was in 110% control...
Also, in my case as a Dom, it is so so important for me that my Sub have real tears, and I have found that there are Subs who use that to 'stear' the scene. However, I have also met Subs where her tears are a total downer for her and that really don't work for me. Sad but true!

[christipping]

Thank you so much for this, I'm new to the scene . I discovered my passion for being a sub around three years ago . This vid has been a great help.

[SkillZZilla]

It was very nice listening to you.
My princess likes you.

My thoughts, it's so simple, you just find someone that obsesses over you as much as you obsesses over them and the love is automatic. The care is essential.
A lot of talking is needed before any DDLG relationship and the courage to walk away from the wrong person.
Love is all that's needed. The rest is so fun to uncover. Anyways, great video.
You seem like a really nice person.

[meagain]

Yes the whole seen hinges around a hidden love for each other.The pain parts help to amplify the loving part.When a dom puts his or her hands around your neck and begins to squeeze the thought enters the mind that this could be the end of my life.But then there is the release and a gentle kiss replaces fear and joy flows into that space.

[ketakid]

Good girl, you just made my subs day, as I will appreciate her more than normal, IF she behaves tonight....

[elohesteewon]

So love your energy. Very quirky, intelligent and straightforward. #goodgirl

[jamess.]

Excellent point, placing the "toys" in view for a preview of the punishment ahead .

[RalphDratman]

Very interesting about the punishment/reward situation. I never thought about that before, either as a dom or a submissive. I think it's a great idea to include both in a scene. And I really enjoyed the video.

[jjhamm]

Thank you for sharing . It was inciteful you did a great job.

[emptyfish]

Good job! I am defiantly going to watch the rest of your videos.

[andrewsemel-defeo]

@Eva Scurfield this I take more as a Dom from a sub's perspectives. She is only saying what makes a Dom from what she sees not all that goes into making what she sees happen. There is a privilege and serious responsibility going into making a good Dom. Not to use an oversimplified example to make my point but like a parent or good manager you need to give the rewards and punishment as the sub needs them if your going to take on the sub. You feel like she is whining cause she is starting every thought with I or me, and your obviously used to tougher subs. Instead Dom's should be able, as water, to flow where it needs and wear a groove through time and persistence. In this way you will train a direction of your relationship to something unstoppable like a river.

[josephellis]

All good points.Communication is great on both sides. Good video.

[JK-jlbf]

I like your thorough approach. Do you ever pick out the toys you want to use in a scene?

[zandercruise]

I highly value people like Ms.Stein over people who are far too glitzie and try way to hard to push their advice (almost like their so desperate to be believed) and sell their stupid @$#% "crapendice".
You have a new follow, Ma'am.

[mrmartin]

Good job. I believe in rewards after punishment also

[malcolmyip]

I like what you did at the end. this is the first time I watch your video. not sure the thing that you do in the end is a regular thing or not. actually I don't know what you are doing. (I am talking about your moving your head in an enjoyable manner near the end of the video with wind blowing into your hair) I got no idea why suddenly there is this segment. but I enjoy this irregularity and your facial expression of utter joy. thanks for making this video anyway! have a nice day! (I am from Hong Kong!!)

[richardful]

I am a male sub bottom and agree with your perceptions I have had good sessions with both Mistresses and Masters Like you I have very few limits but some are a hard NO and will end the sessions if that space is not given

[sergeypetrov]

Evidently, Terra is a strong person, and, therefore, can be a difficult but perfect sub. She, probably, will not lose control but can give it to her Dom. Play the game, gain trust, then take the reins and the game became love....