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3 Simple Ways to Create A Life You Love
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What if the key to create a life you love was just a few simple changes away?
In this video, we'll explore how to create a life you love with 3 simple changes to design a life you love.
Follow A Slow Simple Life
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:19 Creating structure and space
02:41 Practicing magokoro
05:04 Letting go of comparison
07:10 A life you love
Creating Structure and Space
We all get 24 hours each day but it was never enough for me. I was so busy simply going through the motions, and my life has become all about work and ambition and checking off one task after another.
When we don't intentionally devote time and space to pause and take it all in, we may come to a point one day, where we ask ourselves, “where did the time go? And is this all there is to it?”
The time we have in this world is essentially the life we have. It's not unlimited. If we're lucky enough to live up to 90, that would be 4,696 weeks.
I came across a beautiful quote recently from Edith Hall that really struck me: "The certainty of finitude and impermanence can be a reminder and an instruction: a reminder to live while you still can, and an instruction on how to live while you still can."
I'm not proposing that we quit our jobs and ambitions and just sit all day pondering on our lives. But having some white space in spite of our busy schedules provides balance and clarity on what's truly important to us, which can be difficult to achieve in a cramped life.
By structuring my day with intentionality, I create space for a fulfilling life, starting with a thoughtful morning routine and making time for reflection, hobbies, and connection, amidst my busy schedule. It’s prioritizing what matters instead of simply being a lean, mean production machine.
Moments such as this helps me to not simply dream about my best life in the uncertain future, but to actively pursue it now. Because “no one gets out of this world alive, so the time to live, learn, care, share, celebrate, and love is now.” - Leo Buscaglia
Practicing Magokoro
I recently learned a beautiful Japanese word, Magokoro まここ, which is the philosophy based on the idea that true happiness come from living an authentic life. It emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and living in alignment with one’s values.
As a child and well throughout my early adulthood, I suffered from fear of rejection. Growing up in a household where being second-best was not an option, I always strove for perfection.
And so I had a strong compulsion to please others, to do the “right” things, and to be someone whom my parents would be proud of and whom strangers would admire.
But in spite of the recognitions and titles I received, I did not experience inner fulfillment from these. I felt that all those times, I was living someone else's dreams instead of mine.
Magokoro is a gentle reminder to do things with sincerity, and to be true to ourselves in every activity we take part in.
We live in a world that often encourages conformity. Yet when we stop living someone else’s dreams, needs, wants, and life, we start living our own. Because “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
When we gauge our own adequacy with another person's achievements, this only produces a false sense of superiority or inferiority. As with the line from the poem Desiderata, “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
Perhaps it's true that it's human nature to compare. And that unless we live alone on a deserted island, we'll never stop comparing ourselves with others.
It's important to remember that even though others might seem perfect or flawless, we only see a small part of their lives. Those who appear to have it all still face their own struggles. And ironically, these challenges are often related to the very things we envy them for, like their wealth, career, or looks.
So perhaps instead of holding misguided notions about ourselves through constant comparison, we should instead focus on our unique journey and live our best life that's in alignment with what we truly value.
Just like the beautiful old saying that goes, “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.”
And as we let go of habits, ideas, and perceptions that no longer serve us, we pave the way toward living our best lives. As Lao Tzu wisely said, “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
In this video, we'll explore how to create a life you love with 3 simple changes to design a life you love.
Follow A Slow Simple Life
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:19 Creating structure and space
02:41 Practicing magokoro
05:04 Letting go of comparison
07:10 A life you love
Creating Structure and Space
We all get 24 hours each day but it was never enough for me. I was so busy simply going through the motions, and my life has become all about work and ambition and checking off one task after another.
When we don't intentionally devote time and space to pause and take it all in, we may come to a point one day, where we ask ourselves, “where did the time go? And is this all there is to it?”
The time we have in this world is essentially the life we have. It's not unlimited. If we're lucky enough to live up to 90, that would be 4,696 weeks.
I came across a beautiful quote recently from Edith Hall that really struck me: "The certainty of finitude and impermanence can be a reminder and an instruction: a reminder to live while you still can, and an instruction on how to live while you still can."
I'm not proposing that we quit our jobs and ambitions and just sit all day pondering on our lives. But having some white space in spite of our busy schedules provides balance and clarity on what's truly important to us, which can be difficult to achieve in a cramped life.
By structuring my day with intentionality, I create space for a fulfilling life, starting with a thoughtful morning routine and making time for reflection, hobbies, and connection, amidst my busy schedule. It’s prioritizing what matters instead of simply being a lean, mean production machine.
Moments such as this helps me to not simply dream about my best life in the uncertain future, but to actively pursue it now. Because “no one gets out of this world alive, so the time to live, learn, care, share, celebrate, and love is now.” - Leo Buscaglia
Practicing Magokoro
I recently learned a beautiful Japanese word, Magokoro まここ, which is the philosophy based on the idea that true happiness come from living an authentic life. It emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and living in alignment with one’s values.
As a child and well throughout my early adulthood, I suffered from fear of rejection. Growing up in a household where being second-best was not an option, I always strove for perfection.
And so I had a strong compulsion to please others, to do the “right” things, and to be someone whom my parents would be proud of and whom strangers would admire.
But in spite of the recognitions and titles I received, I did not experience inner fulfillment from these. I felt that all those times, I was living someone else's dreams instead of mine.
Magokoro is a gentle reminder to do things with sincerity, and to be true to ourselves in every activity we take part in.
We live in a world that often encourages conformity. Yet when we stop living someone else’s dreams, needs, wants, and life, we start living our own. Because “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
When we gauge our own adequacy with another person's achievements, this only produces a false sense of superiority or inferiority. As with the line from the poem Desiderata, “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
Perhaps it's true that it's human nature to compare. And that unless we live alone on a deserted island, we'll never stop comparing ourselves with others.
It's important to remember that even though others might seem perfect or flawless, we only see a small part of their lives. Those who appear to have it all still face their own struggles. And ironically, these challenges are often related to the very things we envy them for, like their wealth, career, or looks.
So perhaps instead of holding misguided notions about ourselves through constant comparison, we should instead focus on our unique journey and live our best life that's in alignment with what we truly value.
Just like the beautiful old saying that goes, “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.”
And as we let go of habits, ideas, and perceptions that no longer serve us, we pave the way toward living our best lives. As Lao Tzu wisely said, “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
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