I became everything I wanted to be - and I felt empty inside

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Video Information: “I became everything I wanted to be - and I felt empty inside”
In this video I wanted to chat about my journey achieving "success", by all external standards, in several different paths I chose in life. I found myself, more than once, in a place where I had achieved my dreams and yet felt empty and dissatisfied with life, lacking meaning, peace, and fulfillment. I wanted to share a little bit of my story, to offer encouragement and support to all of you on your own unique path.

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To the person reading this: Even though I don’t know you, I wish you the best of what life has to offer ❤

chulangaaverilhettiarachch
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One of my absolute favorite quotes of mine that I live by is this, "Realize you can be happy this moment for no reason. Otherwise, you eternally depend on conditions for happiness. Unconscious of this moment, you remain a victim of circumstances." - Arthur D. Saftlass
So I do my best to pick happiness and peace, for no other reason than that I can. To hum and skip and smile and laugh solely for the sheer pleasure of it.

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Back in the 90s, I opened and ran my own Nursery School, for 7 years, on the side of my house in Devon, England, and that is the best thing I feel that I ever did in my life. It filled my heart with joy, working and playing with the pre school children, and hoping to give them the happiest start in life. I am now 66 years young, and live on my own with my rescue greyhound Madge, and it can be lonely at times, but I enjoy being on my own with Madge most of the time. I am lucky to live in a place where there is no traffic, and I can walk out of my front door into the countryside, and get to see nature, and enjoy it. Love and Blessings from Jilly & Madge the rescue greyhound, from West Devon, England. xxx

jillychandler
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Your story about your masters' degree is so relatable. My college pushed everyone to go on to get advanced degrees. I applied for a masters program and when faced with a $70k bill for just the first year, one professor wisely encouraged me to reconsider if I really wanted to do that, and be in so much debt. Now, I'm pursuing a dream (building my own house!) I never thought was possible and it has nothing to do with society or academia's versions of "success". Thank you for sharing your story with us ♥

LineUpTheStars
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you can hear my cat aggressively playing with her toy at about 3:50 😂 I forgot to edit that out, haha! Sending much love and well wishes to all of you. Hope you enjoyed the wildflowers, more to come.

TheCottageFairy
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I live on top of a mountain, off grid. Different life from most. I am 71 and still seek what I call the Littles in life. I also watercolor and create many things. My goal is to help my granddaughters find the Littles in life. You are an amazing woman who is showing others a slice of life that can be a way to live. Thank you for sharing.

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5:00..."I decided that my new dream was to heal..."

I cling to these words! Thank you, thank you, Paola! ❤😇☺️

easydoesit
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The dress, hair and flowers gave me medieval princess vibes.

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Dear ma'am, I'm a 36 year old man from Botswana. I'm so glad that i stumbled on one of your videos, i really appreciate the practical lessons they convey.I also love how tranquil everything looks, the house and the beautiful flowers outside and your narration.Can't wait to watch them with my wife, there are valuable lessons we can learn!Thank you.

mothobiandrew
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Your voice is a therapy for thousands of tired hearts❤ There's an incredible healing power behind those calm, peaceful words.

mperera
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"Simply trying to be kinder, sitting with myself. Growing a feeling that is somewhere between fleeting joy and sadness. A sort of quiet peace and contentment with who I am." Those are profound words.
Literally an hour before I watched this I was thinking, "I need to be less critical of myself." Thank you, Paola, for the reminder.

mollykenney
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Oh, this title hits so hard. I became everything I wanted to be, bought everything I wanted to buy (house, sport car, rolex etc.) and in the end, I feel so exhausted and tired. I feel like I was trying way too hard to achieve all these things that I forgot to enjoy them. I have $100, 000 car outside my $500, 000 house, but I don't seem that happy as I imagined I would be. Now, I keep asking myself "what's next?". I have 2 businesses that I am currently successfully running, however, I miss the days where I had time to simply be relaxed. Even when I'm on a vacation, I am still struggling to feel at peace and calm. Always have the pressure following me with either what I have to do, or with what I will have to do in the future. I am 28 and already exhausted, I can't work 16-18 hours a day without a vacation anymore like I used to do when I was 23-24. Perhaps everything that I wanted to achieve, in the end was the wrong thing for me.

I really appreciate you sharing these thing, it makes me feel as if I am not alone thinking like that.

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When I have a panic attack in the middle of the night, sometimes I watch you’re video and it helps me a lot!
Thank you for that.

happyrose
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It's a blessing to have you on this platform. You've shown us that it is better to live more simply.

sophiaisabelle
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Hi, Paola. I am a scholar, and I know how difficult it is to remain a sensitive, childish and authentic soul in a tough and snobbish academic world. I manage to remain myself, but it is very difficult. You are such a beautiful soul! You have such a wonderful house. The dresses are adorable, this style is just for you, so feminine and graceful. My cat also starts to play at 4 am every single morning😊😊😊🥰Lots of love to you!!!!

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I felt this disconnect with my academic achievements a lot before I quit everything and started my videography business. I guess when we're younger we don't fully understand the concept of meaningfulness. I vividly remember how I always thought the most successful people must be the happiest, so that's what I wanted to be. It didn't occurr to me until my late twenties that being good at something doesn't mean you're leading a fulfilled life. I'm definitely making very different decisions now.

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I am an introvert who grew up a mentally ill narcissist father. I spent my childhood and early adult years in survival mode with low self esteem and feeling rejected.

It is too complicated to talk about briefly, however my experience with struggling immaturely to find pride and a sense of self worth has taught me a lot I believe. There idea of if I only had.... is a flawed one. As is the idea that I could reach where I wanted without assistance. I don't mind being eccentric one bit, but I was coming from a place with no real idea of what the normal base really is.

It is a process of non linear development that doesn't always benefit by extremes. Being defined by the eccentricities doesn't fill in the sense of emptiness. In some ways it only reinforces it where life feels like acting in a play or a facade. The truth is that the beauty of a damaged person is muddled with their flaws and deficits. Over time with growth hopefully eccentricity and passions in life become more of an extension of the core and less of an attempt at distraction, trying to create a world we want to live in, and attempts at self soothing which was true in my case perhaps even still more than I would prefer.

My apologies for the unsolicited commentary, but this is a bit of my personal perspective and experience.

You are a beautiful person of worth and I have ever bit of confidence that you will believe that more and more over time.

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You are a light in the social media world 🧝‍♀️🦋

maddyG
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❤❤❤ I connected immediately with the title of this video. I'm 58, in good health, financially secure, content, and have never felt so alone in my life. Much of the family and friends I grew to love, have either passed on or moved away, and those that are still around, I find myself more distant with every day. I'm not sure if I've changed or if they changed but something has changed. There must be more to life after you have met all your goals and look to find a new path to bring joy and fulfillment. The next challenge or adventure is out there. Its just coming slower than I've ever experienced.

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Even the most kindest, empathic, compassionate, creative person needs an occasional lazy day in order to recharge. Often merely spending a day doing nothing at all is really truly something.

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