The Truth About Detransitioners & Trans Regret

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[jeanie]

I love how we're supposed to care for the 1% of people that are trans, but trans people can ignore the 1% that detransition...

[sorina]

Treating human bodies like cars is insanity I will still not understand how another human can treat someone like that

[xPilowagx]

When I was 11 years old I begged my parents if I can get trans surgery(female to male) they always said no but that they would support me if that was my decision for when I was older. At the time I hated them for not letting me, but now when I look back I’m so thankful to them because I’m so happy now, I just turned 18 and I love being a women😭

[Kianye_]

One of my friends in high school transitioned during freshmen year. Reconnected with her 5 years later after bumping into her, and she detransitioned. Told me that the internet made her believe she was trans, and she used to talk to grown adults online and they would praise and support her for transitioning, just to hate on her when she opened up about wanting to detransition.

[Shea]

I’m a therapist and I feel more and more called to work with detransitionsers and help people with gender dysphoria. We are under so much pressure to offer “ gender affirming care” but it’s harming so many people.

[jamisonfawkes]

my medical transition is the biggest regret of my life, i should have never been allowed to go through with it. so much love to blaire for sticking up for people like me ❤

[virtualmall]

The fact that detransitioners exist at all is more proof that something like this should not be done recklessly and certainly not within *30 minutes*. These safeguards must be in place otherwise we risk ruining a person's life because of reckless behavior.

[lilitheswiftie]

I'm an autistic cisgender woman & I have PCOS. I often feel "not feminine enough" to be a woman because of my higher testosterone levels, my facial hair & my different way of being a woman.

I mask a lot & tend to adopt & reflect the behavior & personality of who I'm friends with to be accepted.

In 2021, I befriended a group of self-proclaimed "influencers" who were all non-binary or trans. This led me to believe I was non-binary for a while because as I said I didn't feel like a woman & kind of became my friends. It went as far as getting to the point where I wanted to change my name and they all encouraged me to do so. I also tried to drop hints at my family to "test the waters".
NOTE: I was the youngest in the group, being 18-19 at the time while they were all in their late 20's.

The friend group ended up being very toxic. They canceled me over some stupid shit I said in a comment & cut all contact with me on the day I was hospitalized (still wondering why they chose to do it on that specific day). I thought I was the problem until I saw the group fall apart over the pettiest shit. Luckily for me, nothing was done & I was diagnosed with PCOS soon after that (which led to me understanding why I didn't feel feminine enough).

A few months ago, one of the people in the group made a video saying that women with PCOS automatically fall into the non-binary umbrella & I quite frankly found that a bit offensive. Though some people who were born female & have PCOS might identify as non-binary, it isn't the case for like 90% of us.

[littleblizzard]

On Reddit a sweet young woman shared her transition then detransition story. She was struggling mental health wise and began transitioning around 10 or 11 and the psychologists and doctors were supportive but didn’t explore why she was struggling. Turns out she had been terribly abused by her grandfather. She took hormones and spent her teenage years as a trans boy and in her early 20’s realized she needed to get to the root of this trauma and work on healing. While in therapy she realized transitioning had been a trauma response and wasnt the right choice for her in the long run. I was moved by her courage and maturity at such a young age. I wish her and everyone going through difficult things much love.

[Livlaughlove_]

I'm a detransitionee, I applaud you for speaking out on our behalf ❤

[panjamysy]

It FRUSTRATES me to no end how easy it is for people to get pushed through and approved for transitioning, but I wanted to have a hysterectomy when I was 24 because of my horrific period cramps and heavy, heavy periods and "No, we can't do that, you might regret it."

[jhc]

“a lot of autistic children.” As an adhd/asperger’s kid, I appreciate that she pointed out neurodivergent kids (I’m about Blaire’s age now) do get written off and given the quickest pill or option more so than others. Maybe she knows from personal reasons or just her own research. I’m emotional & impulsive & lucky I have friends and doctors that understand me. Not everyone does. I’m very happy in my birth assigned sex, but I can’t imagine being neurodivergent AND struggling with my gender.
Thanks Blaire for supporting the shit some people are uncomfortable talking about. I don’t always have to agree with you, but I respect your values and commentary a lot (:

[Square-nose]

I am SO glad that my mother never fed into this kind of stuff. When I was a preteen I saw a bunch of stuff on social media and was brain washed by the people around me (including my guidance counselors at school) by them telling me that I’m trans. SIMPLY BECAUSE I didn’t like to wear dresses and I wasn’t attracted to men.. I WAS 10-12 ofc I wasn’t attracted to men because I didn’t have the hormones to even BE attracted to anyone!! But I was totally convinced I was trans because of that. My mom never fed into any of that bs and now 6 years later I am so glad because that would’ve been permanent changes to my body.

[elsh]

What is wild to me is that I as a perimenopausal woman cannot seem to get a doctor to listen to me about my symptoms and my need for oestrogen but a man or even boy has little to no resistance to get the same hormone he doesn't need to be healthy but I do.

[ktazdragon]

So true. I remember seeing a show when I was a teenager and it used to be a MANDATORY two years with a therapist BEFORE anything was even started to transition

[speednomad]

I de-transitioned and I regret what I went through but I don't regret being a guy now..I was gjven a prescription for estrogen and spironolactone a few weeks after beginning therapy..I really wish I could go back in time and not do it at all..The therapist should have gotten to the root of my issues which was I was molested by a priest when I was 7..It lasted only 7mths, but it damaged me for life.. I've never had a solid relationship with a woman..I don't have many friends and I've had more jobs than anyone.. I've been homeless before and I'm currently sleeping in my Jeep with my service dog and working jobs here and there.. My family is all deceased and I'm completely alone.. I have PTSD, depression and anxiety.. Everyday is a struggle to stay alive.. But my dog really helps me to keep my sanity..I'm still trying to do better, but its really hard..I don't know how much longer I'll be alive..

[Duskullite]

As a detransitioner, she's right. Although I don't regret my time identifying as a male because everything that happened during that time and due to how I felt at that time helped shape who I am today.

[nytashaandersen]

Thank you for saying the last bit. A lot of autistic children, I remember the first time I ever heard of a child transitioning, Jazz.. I am not sure what she goes by now. But then to see this sweet little boy named Evan, who had autism, living his life fine, then one day comments are turned off and little 6 year old Evan is now a girl, and I believe they changed his name as well..
This is devastating.. not only to go after children but disabled children too..

[KuraKekoa]

The people who were coerced into transition by social pressure are not the same as those who were vetted and made informed decisions about their futures.
She is spot on.

[onnieoyz]

I feel bad for all the people who didn't have gender dysphoria or the desire to transition who thought they were transgender.