They Said We Are Not Compatible

They said we are not compatible. One reason someone ends relationship is because they feel like you are not a compatible partner for them (or something of that nature). It can feel very confusing to have someone that you felt you had great chemistry with to tell you they don't feel compatible with you. In this video, Coach Craig Kenneth and Coach Victoria discuss many areas of compatibility.

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[kpl]

👍 Be assured, no one is 100% compatibie; it's all about finding mutually acceptable compromise.

[threewiishes]

I had an ex tell me a bunch of times that we weren’t compatible. 5 years later, we’re engaged now 🙄

[ElvisBangalter]

yes, i heard "we are not compatible" after 5 years, little that i know at that time, that she was compatibiliting with her co-worker behind my back.

[FaydsterTV]

My ex gave me this same excuse, coupled with “I think you deserve better”. I know *WHY* she broke us up, and I’m not mad over that, but it literally was something so minor I felt blindsided by it. She has some past trauma and possible Daddy Issues/Attachment Issues, but I never brought them up, nor did I make it a focal point. I wanted to grow with her at her own pace. Hoping I can come back to this later on this year with an update.

[seanmurray]

The problem is that in modern dating individuals are so scared of having difficult conversations or get answers to their assumptions. They assume they might bring on abuse, psycho behaviours or hurt feelings or get their feelings hurt. There’s a lot of cowardice in modern dating and a lot of uncommunicated expectations

[frugihoyi]

Yeah, I heard the "incompatible" excuse recently. And ten other excuses that really don't add up. I just ignored them all, said what else I needed to say, let her have her say and then went back into no contact. Did I do the right thing by just ignoring ridiculous excuses?

[Soleilsorrel]

It was only 5.5 months. I told him that. There were a lot of things. It felt like i was doing everything including carrying his emotional load, but when I needed to talk, he's cut me off, say it's all too much or I'd hear him talking to himself about things he needed to do. He didn't drive. I was always the one to visit him, i was the only.one spending money. It was so one sided. He would get frustrated over the smallest things. He made condescending remarks... I brought up my concerns in the first month, 3rd month and nothing... Side note: I met him 8yrs ago, but we never dated. Back then i felt he wasn't over his ex and i was correct. Back to present ... I felt like his momma. I was doing things to support him and I got nothing. He was obviously disinterested in addressing my concerns so yep, we're incompatible. After the breakup I learned both of our attachment styles. I'm secure and he's avoidant. Yeah, that's a no for me. Like one of you said i would pour my heart out about what i needed and this dude would have the dumbest expression on his face like nothing was going through his head. He even said, you're not going to cry are you? 😒 I'd rather not. There was no reciprocity. The last conversation he didn't even notice that i wasn't talking. I visit him multiple times per week, but it's too early in the relationship for him to visit me. Im the one buying things because I'm the one with the "good paying job". I'm like ok i puy $400+ tickets to a concert... you could at least pay the $35 parking. There was a jazz event at a museum $130 (together), he could have at least paid for the $16 for 3 chicken tenders 😂 dang. I just felt used. So no I'm not compatible with a selfish, inconsiderate dude who isnt willing to contribute and shuts me down when i have something to say but he can talk about his stuff for hrs on end. Miss me with that. Oh, he knew i didnt want kids and somehow he thought I wanted foster kids or adoption 👀. What did i ever say to make you assume that? Crickets 😒. I work with kids for a living and i love them, but i have no desire to have my own. That has never changed.

[annikajoo]

My husband wrote me: we are too different (after eight years of a wonderful relationship, even if we were too different he could have noticed that earlier)

[SED]

And when I bring up our problems he ignores me
Never want to talk about it.

[KimJilene]

I was in a situationship for 3 years. I am wanted us to “level up” to a closer more loving relationship. He did not. He wanted to keep it casual. We were not compatible and wanted different things. So we went our separate ways, and I am focusing on building myself up.

[paulmackenzie]

It's been since April 22nd and I've heard absolutely nothing from her and honestly I've lost all hope and could not be more depressed

[chrisnorthyrs]

My ex said the same thing, we have been split three months, only 3 weeks into no contact and my ex has text twice indirect direscts but it hasn’t gone further and there was a late night call where she called for nothing but sounded teary, any advice on where to go from here please I’m still in no contact on my side

[Kdiruso]

This was perfect. Cleared up a lot of my questions. Thanks!

[sindymaricic]

Less than a minute in & im cracking up at Coach Craig "we are not compatible" 😂

[Ckyt]

He said that and I said... Ok... (I made all the efforts to save our relationship before) And I walked away. 4 months in No contact. I love him but he's a DA and wanted to explore the dating scene.

[kokokita]

What if it’s someone I have a crush on and he said this to me but he seems interested? I keep catching him look at me and he looks away smiling ? He makes me feel bold when I’m around him which is not usually how I am & he’s all nervous & shy but smiling and blushing ? I’m really confused about him, and still like him & now my feelings for him have to be secret 😞

[Tamara-mrhe]

This is the excuse my ex gave 5 weeks ago. We have a son together, we had broken up for 7 months and got back together for a year and a half for him to end it again. We had planned the future, everything was fine 3 days before he ended it. None of it makes sense. He is now ignoring me when I sent him a message about our son. I’m so hurt.

[amiejackson]

This is so right on. This is 100% accurate.

[Palaciosdave]

This is exactly what my ex of two years told me. She wasn’t sure about getting married and wanting kids and I said it was a no deal breaker for me. And yet she broke up with me over the phone lol 😂