The truth about sexual and romantic attraction | are they really linked?

We tend to put sexual and romantic attraction together but are they really linked? How do we define sexual vs. romantic attraction and what are the differences?

Do we have to be sexually and romantically attracted to the same gender or genders and does our sexual orientation play a part?

This video explains the science behind sexual and romantic attraction and the surprising reality of how they work and where they are linked (or not).

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[lindsaynova]

For me, experiencing romantic attraction towards someone means being able to have fun with them whilst also feeling completely safe with them. So, using this definition, of course someone can experience romantic attraction towards any gender.

[odonata]

I love this! It's absolutely true and beautifully stated. Every young person, especially, should hear this message. These concepts may not sound normal but they are as natural as oxygen.

[PokhrajRoy.]

7:14 So refreshing to hear someone say this.

[johngolden]

Many gay men have very close heterosexual female friends and share confidences, enjoy each other's company and do many activities together. Their relationship is not sexual, but rather romantic.

[PokhrajRoy.]

4:00 Marriage is tough as it is. In any case, it’s transactional and now the pressure of romance and having kids and making sure said kids turn out ok. So daunting

[panthersworld]

Both sexual and romantic attraction have always been two different things sexual orientations and romantic orientations sexual orientation being sexually attracted to someone romantic orientation being attracted to someone romantically

[Sundancer]

All healthy relationships are based on mutual attraction.
I have found that in the development of romantic affection for the person who triggers my attraction and interest, there is a stage where empathy and compassion grows into ta state in which I cherish the friendship which then produces the impulse to caress...regardless of gender.
With the growth of trust we may move on to working on mutual healing through the sharing of intimate thoughts and personal feelings/challenges...perhaps into body work of some kind.
Even within this love dynamic which the Greeks called Agape, there is not always a desire for passionate sexual intimacy with the individual. It may surface but it is more often not the focus.

[jenskruse]

For me romantik atraktion is about seeing a future together.

[kalimadasa]

You have stated this beautifully! Thank you❤

[Matty]

I think bromance is romantic attraction, it's close, it's affectionate, it's vulnerable. That should lead to sexual attraction

[JJ_TheGreat]

But if you are exclusively sexually attracted to one gender and not the other - even if you are either romantically attracted to both (biromantic) or to the opposite gender of which you are sexually attracted to - for example, if you are sexually attracted exclusively to the same gender - but romantically attracted exclusively to the opposite gender (or vice versa: sexually attracted exclusively to the opposite gender - and romantically attracted exclusively to the same gender), does that make you "bisexual" - or a "biromantic" homosexual/heterosexual - heteroromantic homosexual / homoromantic heterosexual?

Thanks.

[PokhrajRoy.]

6:46 ‘Bromance’. I have a thesis on this

[PyramidTom]

I dont think bromance is supposed to be romance. I think men in the west have a "cold" friendship, they can watch sports or play videogame together but they dont know much abouth each other inner thoughts.
But when they have this deeper conection, like women usually have, they share their fears and feel vulnerable next to other men, they realize their frienship can be much more than just hang out together. I think that what they call bromance.

[mario]

Im confuse about my sexuality an how i have to identify...

I'm obsses about labels, i have this obssesiong to figure out all now to put a label and feel "normal" or "not liying myself"

I have the fear that, "if this ocurs me how i have to identify" and to be in a wrong label.

Please i you se that it would be incredible if you can clarimy this.

I just want to be in reality..

[kaseyford]

Not gonna lie but I feel like a god as an Aroace right now haha! I knew it didn't exist in the first place 😂
Although I think the correct term for me now would be 'oriented Aroace'. I spend so much more time with the same gender compared to the opposite. 😊
Thanks Mark, you really do help us all 🌈

[johnayala]

I didn't understand then why I'm so happy to see my friend who's married with children and spend 8 hours with him at work everyday Monday to Friday. He's very kind, funny, loving, Godfearing, decent, good father & husband, generous, tough if necessary & thoughtful...just the coolest man to be around. Much cooler than my father & brothers. I really love him but never in a romantic or sexual way since we're both straight but I'm closer to him than to my own father & brothers. My father & some of my brothers have said to me that it's gay to have this kind of love for a male friend and they insisted that they don't love their male friends. I can't help but feel so sorry for them because loving a fellow man in a nonsexual way is one of best feelings a man can experience imho.

[_Moonphases_]

I would love to hear your thoughts on why almost all bi people end up in straight (opposite sex) relationships in the end. Is it because it's easier that way? Being able to have kids, being perceived as 'normal' by society, just being all around more convenient? My boyfriend is bi, I'm biologically male and I'm afraid one day he'll leave me for someone who is biologically female. I was trans for 10 years, but have slowly began not fully but partially detransitioning over time because I wasn't happy being trans anymore and I wanted to experiment with my gender and discover who I really am. I'm fluid at the moment and it feels like that's my boyfriend's (and probably many bi people's) dream, but I'm also scared that deep down I'm only temporary to him.

[SeeHere]

I need to talk to someone. You seem to be the right guy but I can't talk with you on twitter. I don't know my own identity. Don't have the smarts to become an ally that door is closed. I clean toilets for a living, men's toilets. Coming out isn't even on the plate. I need to know who I am. That is where I am. All I've had is someone say go to a psychologist and talked to someone on twitter. I'm a cleaner, nobody gets money from me. What money