The Truth about 'Use it or Lose it' | What to do When She Never Wants Sex | AMA

In today’s special June AMA episode, Dr. Malik dives into some of the most frequently asked questions she receives from her dedicated audience. We discuss the complexities of mismatched sexual desire in long-term relationships and how scheduling intimate time, alleviating stress, and understanding responsive desire can help improve connection. For those facing post-void dribbling, Dr. Malik explores its common causes and effective solutions. We also touch on the sensitive topic of vaginal odor, debunking the myths about special soaps and emphasizing the natural self-cleaning ability of the vagina. Plus, we address urinary frequency concerns, the effects of not having sex on erectile function, and even dive into a fetish-related question.

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▶️Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:04 Sexless Marriage Issue
06:08 Post Voiding Dribble
09:22 Vaginal Odor and Cleaning
11:41 Urinary Frequency
17:26 Erectile Dysfunction Misconception
19:44 Anal Play Fetish

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Rena Malik, MD is a urologist and pelvic surgeon on youtube to educate people about all things urology including erectile dysfunction, how to increase testosterone, problems with sex, premature ejaculation, urinary leakage, or incontinence, overactive bladder, urinary tract infections, prostate issues and more.

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[sumdude]

My issue, and I see this with myself and all my married friends. Our wives don't want to have sex, clearly they don't want us to have girlfriends and go out cheating on them BUT they also don't want us to masturbate. That. That is the killer. If we masturbate it's "gross", it's "disrespectful." "Porn is sexual exploitation!" On and on an on. I'll be honest. If you won't cook for me and you refuse to let me cook for myself eventually I'm going out for pizza. Lastly, I find it irritating that I have to do things in a marriage I'm not in the "mood for" ALL THE TIME, I'm asking for 5-10 mins of your time to be present and give me quality time. Women demand quality time from us ALL THE TIME and when we sit down on the couch to watch a movie with you, you spend all that time on your phone. No, there is a deeper issue here and we are glossing over, nay excusing it, with "women have to be in the mood". Women have to learn to be present and get off their flipping phones.

[Blgtn]

A sexless marriage is nothing more than having a roommate.

[donhathaway]

Coming up on 47 years of marriage and three years ago my wife informed me that she didn’t want sex anymore. After talking with her gal friends (mostly widows) she says all women reach that stage. We have children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. I’m not interested in losing my family over this so I accept it. I still love and want her but, her denials are like a dagger through the heart. She won’t talk to her doctor about anything that she can do to help. It just sucks!

[JoeBieser-ib]

I gave up a long time ago, I’m not begging for it anymore. I’ve climbed up on it before and it’s not worth the effort to please someone who says to me “do what you have to do and get off me” just terrible

[Wolfpak]

The men doing house work to get the wife into the mood is utter BS. Never works.

[jaychapman]

The answer is far more simple than people like this will ever admit. Women in long term relationships desire sex and pleasing their husband for a different reason than excitement as it was in the beginning. The new reason is appreciation. When a woman respects and appreciates her husband she will want to secure the bond and keep a sexual connection. The problem in modern life is that women often do not respect or appreciate the men in their life

[integralsun]

My ex had ‘headaches’ so often during our two decades of marriage that I was concerned she had brain cancer. Twenty five years since divorce and she’s still around and apparently not suffering from headaches at all.

[robdegrilla]

My wife didn’t want sex, I didn’t want to waste my time engaging in her toxic, narcissistic, entitled, controlling spitefulness aka conversation. We stopped doing both. One of us is doing better than ever

[nathanhale]

After wasting an entire life married to someone like this, my advice would be, if you are still young enough to start over, leave her NOW! Do not negotiate. Do not waste one more minute on her. Dump her and run as far and as fast as you can away from her. A woman like this will never change. Her next move will be to sucker you into wasting more time waiting for her to change.

[jamielancaster]

I’ve been married 31 yrs & she still always wants it. I still lift & run to just keep up with her so she doesn’t wanna trade me in for a newer model.

[Ffocus]

If you don’t want to have sex ever again, get married

[ryanhouse]

I was married 24 years with 2 kids. We had sex 4-6 times a year.

She cheated on me and divorced me. She got remarried within 6 months. I took a year to process what happened. No sex no dating. Got my own closure.
For the past 6 months I’ve been dating a lady I went to high school with and my life is so much better.

Now I actually feel loved back. This is just a very broad overview of what happened but I will say that I now see that I wasn’t asking for too much in my marriage. I was just asking the wrong person. Friends told me I would get through the divorce and it would get better. It was a rough year but they were so right.

I now wish she would have divorced me sooner. Hope this helps someone.

[kevingallen]

I wish young men would read these comments before they get married

[Farbar]

My wife and I are an older couple. She has gone through menopause and one of the results is that she no longer can lubricate herself and sex became extremely uncomfortable for her. Using artificial lubricants hasn't helped as well as checking with doctors on the situation. I'm sad about this in that I'm still interested in sex at my age but there's not much I can do. I love her and she does love me and we do fool around with her helping me out but it doesn't happen often. My point is that sometimes the decreased desire for sex is not always emotional or something to do with arousal but is sometimes the stuff of life and how our bodies change. I wish there could be more but I'm happy for us to be together and really happy that she puts up with me at all!! LOL

[JamesHickman-gc]

In some states before no fault divorce, withholding sex used be a valid cause for divorce. Look it up: Alienation of Affection. It was a real thing back when.

[stephantower]

I have always had a straight forward understanding with my wife that we only have sex on the days we sleep or eat. 20 years later and we both really happy and healthy having followed that policy!

[NURREDIN]

If the woman in your life won't change, you've got to change the woman in your life.

[jeanr]

My new husband was married for ten years…. His first marriage had its difficulties and he married because of an unintended pregnancy…. But I do believe a nearly sexless marriage was the final straw…. He would say sex three time for two kids…. The last year of marriage no sex…. He was done. Warned her a year before asking for divorce that things needed to change…. And she was shocked when he divorced her. There was little connection other than kids…. He ended up with kids 80% of the time as was much happier.

[artyfhartie]

I lost mine once but a group of women found it and gave it back to me.

[fezzypepper]

There's a quick fix for when a woman chronically refuses to be intimate with her husband. It's called divorce. It worked for me!