Why Men Obsess Over Women

Why is it that men, across time, cultures, and throughout history, seem to obsess over women? Is it biology, culture, or something deeper? Today, we delve into the science behind why men can't seem to get women off their minds. Obsession is as old as humanity itself, tied to ancient instincts.

[00:00:23] Survival of the Species
Let’s rewind to our caveman ancestors. Back then, survival depended on securing a mate and passing on genes. But it’s not just about reproduction. Modern neuroscience shows that men’s brains light up when they think about women. Dopamine, the brain’s feel-good chemical, is released, creating a reward loop similar to the effects of cocaine.

[00:01:04] The Power of Uncertainty
Interestingly, research from Fisher et al. (2016) shows that men’s brains release more dopamine when faced with uncertainty in romantic pursuits. The unknown—whether she’ll text back or show interest—keeps men hooked. Uncertainty fuels obsession, making men fixate long after a single interaction.

[00:01:27] Technology Amplifies the Instinct
Today, technology hasn’t changed this instinct—it has amplified it. Each time a man sees an attractive woman or gets a match on a dating app, that same dopamine rush hits. The brain becomes obsessed with seeking more of those feel-good hits, driving the obsession even further.

[00:01:50] Testosterone and Competitiveness
Testosterone plays a huge role in this obsession. Men have much higher levels of testosterone than women, which drives not only desire but also competitiveness. It’s why men are willing to go the extra mile, take risks, or act ridiculous to impress a woman. Whether it’s medieval knights or modern men, testosterone pushes men to compete and seek a woman’s attention.

[00:02:32] Biological and Hardwired
In the end, men’s obsession with women isn’t just cultural—it’s biological. For thousands of years, this behavior has been hardwired into men’s brains and bodies. It’s about survival, connection, love, and the thrill of the chase. Men’s obsession with women may be part of nature’s grand design to bring them closer together.

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Trust yourself and trust the process,

Chris Canwell
(Psychologist)

[fritzphliplicup]

Congrats with the 200k subscriber Chris!

[michaelstock]

I fell asleep for a couple of hours yesterday and woke up to 4 missed calls and 6 texts from a girl I've recently met. It's mad how being slightly unavailable makes such a difference. I love your videos Chris they are really helpful to watch

[boyothapresident]

Be obsessed with your grind and on your family, that’s it

[mystykalmn]

It's not just Men It's both ways, there are some women who are very obsessed with men attentions and affections too, but as a MAN you can quench that thirsty by self-control.

[OGTrollTroll]

As a man, you will win big if you learn how to control and manage this emotion.

[larryrubin]

Yep. Desire is more an intense and emotion than aquiring

[BiiskapsLV]

so higher the testosterone, bigger the simp?

[abhishekkhati]

Really love your videos Chris.
Thank you, I appreciate you

[sammysam]

When will you upload your podcast on polarity you made? Masculine vs feminine

[paulthomas]

Women will obsess and simp over Chad. I've observed it and a Chad friend has shown me his messages from women.

[Katarzyna-hz]

And it makes sens: one man and one women otherwise it is exhausting, pointless addiction.

[gokulsekar]

isn't there a way to overcome obsession?

[adarshmeshram]

Hi Chris, I want you to make a detailed video on how to maintain attraction in marriage life. Because I've seen women rejecting for sex even after marriage and making very silly excuses like I am not feeling it right now and keep ignoring talking about sex. And I also want you to speak about a situation where a girl is telling me that I don't feel aroused anymore when you touch me. Thank you.

[NokiDelfin]

cris. everything you taught was wrong done by a man you taught. I saw it from a friend of mine.