Finding Love After 50 | The Mel Robbins Show

Mel sits down with Gloria, who divorced her husband ten years ago and has been single for the last decade. She says it's all because of her "strong personality" - Mel gives her advice on how to find love after 50.

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[anononnl]

I too was married to a narcissist and over the years, it totally changed me and my personality. No more pushover, me. I was blessed to find a WHOLE man who accepted me as the new me was and we are more than happy 15 years later.

[mariavelasquez]

I’m 51 and it’s very difficult for me to trust someone. Every time I feel I find the one, I soon realize that they’re in it for their own convenience. It’s draining to keep dating so I stopped for now and I’ve been alone for quite some time now. It does get exhausting being alone though.

[respecthewoman]

The thing is, we have to be tough in a world that will push you around, and in doing so we tend to lose our feminine/ vurnerable side (as we put up walls). I've been single for over a decade and what makes me happy about being single is listening to people who are in toxic relationships. I've learned to love being by myself (I know it sounds depressing), but I realize that being alone is NOT the same as being lonely. Lonliness is a state of mind. And I'd rather spend my time alone vs being with a jerk. Cheers Everybody! Stay safe!

[kimkoch]

I have a lot in common with this woman. I do everything alone. Being single for many years, i am ready, willing and able, to have a partner and companion to share my life and love with

[libragirl]

She is a lovely woman....please don't change who u are. A strong confident woman .💟🍀

She deserves a lovely man to treat her well
And share experiences together💕

[radianceface]

The greatest love is....loving yourself. You can’t give love or receive love without loving yourself first. When you are full with self love that it will flows to others. ❤️ ♥️

[gargoylz]

I’m 54 years old. Single. Have loads of friends. I have loads of hobbies . I’m financially independent. I don’t miss a having a man man at this age. He will definitely come with his own baggage. She probably wants something that doesn’t exist. Not for long anyway. Love yourself and embrace your lovely life. She must remember, it’s not someone else’s job to make you happy.

[ms.thomas]

I love that she Knows what she wants.I understand how she feels. Being with a narsass is the worst.

[silviacapetillo]

I've been single for nine years and I am happy and tranquil. I don't think I could live with a husband or partner again.

[mochaCF]

People need to stop pushing the "there's someone for everyone" idea because, in reality, there isn't. Most women need to learn how to be content being alone. The constant pushing to create "happily ever after" could be better spent pursuing one's own interests, building up to something for oneself, etc., instead of wasting time in bars, dance halls, dating apps, etc. Sure, there are decent men looking for solid relationships out here, too, but they are hard to find. Sitting around pining and crying about not having Mr. Right is not a good use of time.

[oc]

It makes sense that she is protective having been in a relationship with a narcissist. They will suck the life out of you with gaslighting and manipulation. She seems like a terrific woman who is smart, authentic and has a lot to offer. She should think about why she attracts people who may be narcissistic. Often it is because your are an empathic person who is a caretaker. Going forward she should try to be more open to people but also be very mindful of red flags. I find that as you get older it's more difficult to meet potential partners because not everyone continues to grow and improve as a person so the pool seems to get smaller and smaller.

[toriarose]

That being "too strong" can be a shield, and letting that down a bit would be good (vulnerable). But there's also this "desperate" thing that ppl can sense a mile away. She does come across as desperate to make this happen ("determined to make it happen this year"), and that's rooted in fear (which can also bring arrogance and control-y-ness), and it's not attractive. Thing is, ya' gotta be okay/fine (still way good) with it not happening. There's no foundation for true confidence without that. A peaceful heart (requires true acceptance of whatever might happen) is a powerful heart. And will attract the same. Same with a fearful heart, which will block the good things we're wanting in our life. Again, you have to first accept the idea of not having "the thing."(=peace, which is Job One toward manifesting our heart's desire.)

[localone]

"Men are intimidated by me". Has to be the most over used phrase by women ever. Note to women, men are not intimidated by you. Or should I say the majority are not. Men don't want a woman that comes across as being a headache. We want peace, not someone who is a piece of work. What man wants some woman who thinks shes tough or some "boss attitude". Be a nice person. That's what a man wants. The "I intimidate men" is just a way of not working on your own flaws.

[julienickerson]

Narcissists feed off of vulnerability, why open herself up to attract a narcissistic partner?

[vapeking]

I've been single over 10 year's and I absolutely hate it as I had previously been in long term relationships so was quite a change. I'm wealthy, retired, and alone. It wasn't too bad while I had family but now that everyone died except a half brother and my son who is almost 18 and only visits every other weekend. (Court order). I find women my age 49 or even close to my age are usually so set in ways that they won't really allow a man to truly love them. As for the younger ones the delusions are unreal. Most believe they are Gods gift to men and expect an above average man even if they are average. Don't even get me started on the hookup culture! At this point I have pretty much lost hope. I know good women exist but finding them and connecting with them is getting tougher every year. All I really wanted was a family and I had one when my son's mother left me and still today has never explained why. As for being happy alone it can still get lonely after a while. One thing most don't consider nowadays is being alone can actually shorten your life and bring many health issues as we are not meant to always be alone.

[geniewang]

What I need most to be vulnerable is reassurance

[aiwangerjennifer]

The sad truth is that finding love after 50's isn't that easy because women become invisible for men in the same age or older. Men in their 50's and 60's are attracted to younger women (30' and 40's). Women in their 50's should be in stable relationship, if not enjoy life being alone and make the most of it. Don't look for love, but take care of yourself, be healthy, look good and stay in shape physically and be financially stable. Love finds you when you love yourself first and be the person you want to be with - and that is no other than yourself.

[blaketran]

She needs more help than just a show appearance. Narcissistic abuse is long lasting and she needs help from someone that can essentially hold her hand to guide her

[loveandhappiness]

I have a friend just like this. she is beautiful, successful, and refers to herself as a "boss babe", "bad bitch" etc. She says men are just afraid of her and intimidated by her. She tells us she is "over qualified" to be in a relationship and that's why she cannot hold a man's attention, but this whole "boss bitch" persona is just a coping mechanism for her loneliness.

[Jay-efii]

May life help her find love. She deserves it. She should do community service, she may find some one there.