Ladies You Should Be Embarrassed... From Matthew Hussey & Get The Guy

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From The Video

It's not an understatement to say I used to spend an enormous amount of energy trying to avoid embarrassing situations.

I would not approach a woman I was interested in because I was worried it might go wrong. I would avoid getting on stage and speaking in front of audiences for fear of looking foolish...

And the problem with avoiding embarrassment is that it prevents you from doing the things you want to do.

We wonder why the people we're attracted to aren't attracted to us - while everyone we're not attracted to swarms us like flies.

The reason is, when we're in front of the person we're attracted to, we're deathly afraid of embarrassment and this causes us to close down our channels, sensor ourselves, and prevents us from getting across our personalities.

There's a case for embarrassment I want to make to you:

1) People Will Like You More

People like to see the human side of others, and we see the most human side of people when they mess up. The Pratfall Effect is the idea that if you're perceived to be competent at something and you mess up, people will like you more.

2) It Helps You Learn

If you can allow yourself to screw up, it helps you gain the reference points to do something better next time. Failure can help lead to success, and part of failure is going through a little embarrassment here and there.

3) It Liberates You

Allowing yourself to be embarrassed is allowing yourself to get the best out of life. It's freeing yourself up to use your creative channels and experience the greater things life has to offer. The moment you're willing to embarrass yourself is the moment you're completely free.

Question Of The Day:

What positive effects could it have on your life if you gave yourself permission to be whoever you wanted to be?

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[Bethy]

I agree embarrassing yourself, or making mistakes helps you to learn, helps you to grow and also makes for funny memories and conversations!!

[imjusthannah]

You give the most helpful precise advice on human interaction I have ever heard in my life. I seriously cannot get enough of your videos. All the videos I watched before are suddenly not as enjoyable or helpful because of the content you put out. I can relate to the things you say and I can put into practice your advice! Thank you!!!

[JasmineDepp]

I suffer from social anxiety and I really needed to hear this! Thank you for posting this.

[jasminebonner]

I'm a single 31 year old woman, trying to date with a lot of personal issues. I am a few videos in and these are great, good advice, sometimes therapeutic and comforting, funny too. They have given me a lot to think about! Thanks very much Matthew.

[curt]

Am I the only bloke who's subscribed to this channel? lol. Ah well, great all round advice Matt, for women and men alike :-)

[rebeccabest]

Oh my goodness I need to hear this so badly. I can’t stop thinking about my embarrassing moments.

[jajnsc]

Honestly, Matthew is such a smart guy, he's so right, he makes so much sense
I'm going to ask a guy I like on a date now, I don't care if he says no, at least I'll know I had the guts to do it.

[betsyt]

It's a shame that when I embarrass myself I turn into a tomato

[Emmannie]

The first part reminds me of the Law of Attraction: If you put your best foot forward and channel positive energy out there, you're bound to get great things in return--regardless of who we might meet that day. Great video, Matthew!!

[Ellanl]

Wow, love Matthew's mind and how he explains things. Society likes to put mathematicians on a pedestal because they are good in Math and are accepted as "genious" but look at his mind, this is gold. Minds like these are also geniuses!! Keep going Matthew, what a gift from above, this mind!!

[merthur]

you are so natively a Scientologist!  you're positive, sane and analytical! damn Matthew you're amazing!

[hoyuhui]

I love him so much. Motivation and encouragement in every way.

[farzanaafrosefaria]

Your words are very magical...the way we feel uncomfortable to represent ourself and feel shy.. u explained in a easy way to get over of it..thnx Matthew Hussey for ur words:)

[SmartCookie]

I've learned that many times in life you have to go against human tendencies. Something that might feel strange often times become the most worthwhile things.

[DeBoraMRicks]

Self-consciousness indeed has gotten my way. But when I forget about me, about trying to do it "right" I find myself in the flow. I love the flow. Thanks for the reminder to just get in the frickin' game! 

[kamileishon]

Life happens when you embarrass yourself! :D Learn to love and appreciate the unexpected, Learn to dance in the midst of chaos. See unstability as a place of growth! Dont plan too much. Control is an illusion anyway! 

[WhiteSky-twrc]

I love it when you talk about human behavior. There's always a brighter side of everything I think. :) Great talk.. I learned again Master Matt xx

[Re.x]

Wow I've never looked at that side of things!! Well said!

[proyc]

wow i love listening to Matthew, he is such a valuable mentor and I love how he communicates with his audience! :)

[trishaarnold]

Completely agree! Don't you just feel more comfortable with people who seem flawed than you do with "perfect" people? Just be you. :) Great video!