Gentle parenting- real time example #gentleparenting

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[bookishinparis]

her holding back tears is so real for me when I'm determined not to yell It is as if my body is like, "this emotion is manifesting one way or another, deal with it"

[aubreetanner]

I love this because you're not pretending you're not mad, you're clearly communicating this to her, but not shaming her or lashing out at her. So she's not going to think of someone being mad at her as the worst things in the world. I wish I had this upbringing.

[airfryerrotisseriechicken]

I wish my parents were like this. Now I just feel like crying everytime someone even slightly raises their voice at me

[jjhorseman]

i call this the "mommy needs a timeout" lol. i love when parents do this instead of just yelling at their kids right away

[bruh.]

you can tell you're doing a good job because her response wasn't one of fear, but rather understanding and acknowledgement. you're doing great !!

[Allyslovelylibrary]

I think asking them to walk away because you don’t want to take your anger out on them is a really healthy habit. As well as your ability to recognize that you’re in that type of situation while you are experiencing intense emotions.💕 thank you for this, it’s something I myself need to work on.

[brir]

My mom used to ask me to leave her area in a very similar way growing up when she needed it. I didn’t think about it until now but I’m realizing it taught me to vocalize when I need space or when I need to come back to a conversation after calming down. Such an awesome parenting technique and it’ll teach your daughter so much!

[Gingermnster]

I can see in your eyes how much you wanted to cry and yell but you maintained an amazing level of calm. Great job momma!

[Jessica]

"I need you to walk away" said this to my 5 year old son the other day after I told him 3x not to play with the paint and he ended up dropping it all over the carpet. I wanted to throw him through the wall at that point 😅 after I took a few deep breaths, I feel little arms wrap around my legs and hear "sorry mommy, i should have listened, I'll help you clean it".
Couldn't even be mad anymore 😂
Kids man, they drive you just to the edge of insanity, then pull you back with loveable cuteness.

[shelly]

I don't possess this level of calm... Kudos to you.

[WishGender]

This is why I’m terrified of being a parent. I’m not great at controlling my emotions, especially anger, frustration, and sadness

Edit: my family also has a history of mental health issues as well as heart disease and other medical conditions, so I wouldn’t want to pass those down

[trenchrock]

This made me cry. I'm such a sensitive person and was yelled at excessively as a child for mistakes I didn't mean to make😭😭 Thank you so much for this. My heart needed it

[kmak]

I so feel your frustration, it's not about the powder but about EVERYTHING, the not listening, the doing what they like without thinking....all normal behaviour for little ones but incredibly frustrating to us! Well done for being so calm and collected, so much respect!

[Jay-chfp]

I feel like your kid’s expectations also help. Like she knows she’s safe and it’s gonna be okay, even if you’re mad, you’ll never hurt her, whereas me (even as an adult) almost can’t watch this because it’s so very clear you are very angry and it makes me want to hide. The fact that she knows “she just needs some space, then we’ll talk about it, I messed up and she’s mad, but it’s okay.” Makes all the difference

[Tara-._.-]

What an exemplary example of how to manage your own emotions when they feel overwhelming. “Accidents happen” is a mantra I have learned to say to myself throughout the day as well as to sing-song sweetly to my children when they make mistakes and feel badly about it. I feel good being able to help them let go of the guilt from something they couldn’t help or didn’t mean to happen. Your quick self-reflection and management of emotions is really amazing!

[mimato]

“Can you please walk away?”
I wish my mom said this. She would have walked around the table and whooped my butt. Lmao.

[rebeccadadork]

I remember when I slept over at my friend Jackies house it was just her and her mom and jackie broke or spiled something on her carpet and her mom said, Im gunna go sit in my room for a few mins before we talk about this ok? Please clean it up if you can. And I was like shaking scared because of how my parents are but she was calm and cleaning up and her mom came out and asked her what the best punishment would be and she said no more juice and the mom said ok no more juice for a week and then well try again ok? And they hugged. They still do everything together 20 years later, not me and my mom.

[ladycalderon]

God bless you. I could feel how hard that was. Especially after finally Sitting down and doing something for yourself after days and days of doing things for other people. Thank you for visually showing me this moment. I will remember this next time I have these moments as well. you’re doing a good job mom 💛

[BlueJax]

If only my parents were like this, I wouldn’t have a melt down every time something goes wrong

[GOOSEFOREST]

Man, you're amazing. I'm just sobbing over here, wish I had this, and will be like this to the kids that my friends and siblings will potentially have. Damn.