6 alternatives to calling out the narcissist

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[sarakinn]

The old proverb is true, " Don't mud wrestle with a pig. You'll both get dirty but the pig likes it."

[crencottrell]

*1.) DON'T call out a narcissist as you'll always lose*
2.) Understand what it is inside you that causes you to be a narcissist magnet
3.) Only deal with narcissists as acquaintances
4.) Deal with those who understand the chaos dealing with a narc, and support you
5.) Accepting that you'll always be in a stagnant relationship with a narc
6.) Fill your time with hobbies/recreational fun

*I think I got the list paraphrased 😁*

[helenbaldwin]

I did call out my narcissist mum 2 weeks ago for the first time in 58 years. I told her off for every damned abusive thing she has ever done to me. I shouted at her and swore at her. I said it all. It felt great and I don’t regret it.
At the end she said our relationship was over forever and I thanked her from the bottom of my heart for setting me free!
Of course she has now set her flying monkey (my sister) on me but I don’t care.
This is what I needed to do. I spoke my truth. I took back my power. I took back my human rights. I am proud I stood up to her for the first time in my life.

[maryhatleymeyer]

Watching these videos is my alternative to calling out the narcissist. These videos validate my experiences, reassure me, and give guidance. No where else have I found the understanding and empathy for what I’m going through. When I seek elsewhere, it’s just a big gaslighting experience. Thank you so much, Dr. Ramani! ♥️

[NarcSurvivor]

Calling them out will only make them angry and make them smear your name. Instead know your truth and get yourself to a safe place.

[ATmothphere]

This woman is waging a bloody war on narcissists. I love her. My General, i pledge an undying loyalty to you

[AishaVonFossen]

A seventh thing I would add to this list, ESCAPE. Leave the narcissist's lair, end the relationship if you can, and never look back.

[ninamontrosse]

If you are watching to fix them, you are watching for the wrong reasons. Radical acceptance.

[t.l.]

Being around a narcissist is like trying to pet a rattlesnake...no matter how you approach, they're going to strike.

[sirmeowcelot]

Now I understand why some people go to the store for cigarettes and never come back .

[prisonerohope]

"...it's not a deep relationship. But it never was!" Another enlightening statement, imho

[msPranksterPixie]

"Their rage can make you literally [actually] sick: mentally and physically."
Please everyone heed this....
Illnesses like fibromyalgia and myofascial pain are unbearable: I wouldn't even wish them on my abusers. Lack of sleep or stress can cause/exacerbate existing health issues such as heart, POTS, immune disorders, gut problems, PTSD.

The health repercussions are very real.

[aprillove]

No contact is the best way to call out the narcissist. That and then becoming the successful person they always told you was impossible for you to do.

[sfisabbt]

I've been grey rocking for 15 years without knowing this has a name. Even when grey rocking, the barrage of micro aggression never stops but the aiming gets progressively more fuzzy. The trick is to never give a clue what hits and what doesn't.

[ruthrose]

Narcissists feed on negative energy more then positive energy.

[annaburns]

1.Don’t call them out
2. Put your energy into something else
3. Grey rocking/ Fire walling
4. Have some other sounding boards /vent in a space where you are safe and validated
5. Radical acceptance
6.Distractions

[AshaGlenn]

Friend: "Don't say narcissist, that's not nice... You're not a doctor.."
Doctor Ramani: *snap* Put them in the firewall!
Yes!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 Love you Doctor!

[funkymunky]

You can't change someone by loving them harder.

[huskymcfluff]

When my grandmother died, my mother cried. Not because she'd miss her, but because she would never be able to confront her and tell her how much she hated her. On the way to the funeral, my parents discussed with me the schedule where they would have "calling hours". I'd never heard the term before, so I asked what it was. Mom said, "It's a brief period of time, usually around two hours, where people gather and just share good memories or fond feelings about the person." Dad's quick-witted reply, which had us all laughing, was, "I wonder if they'll be able to stretch that out to two hours."

My mother's mother was a narcissist. She grew up in fear of her. Thankfully, my mother is a very strong woman with a wonderful heart, and instead of growing up to be like her mother, she grew up to be the opposite - a kind, compassionate person who is able to find genuine friendships where ever she goes. I could not be more grateful for her strength of character.

[cyndifoore]

The narcissist NEVER thinks there’s something wrong with them, it’s impossible to convince them no matter how much evidence there is.
You’re wasting your time talking to them.
They’re impossible to live with.
I got divorced and am happy and thank God every morning that he’s not here in my house with me.