My Top 3 Argument Responses

Ever find yourself in an argument where the other person gets defensive, no matter what you say?

In this episode, I’m sharing 3 easy phrases that can help you calm things down and handle defensive behavior—even when tensions are high.

Plus, I’ll show you how small changes in your approach can turn defensive reactions into productive discussions.

These strategies will help you manage conflict, defuse defensiveness, and stay in control of any tough conversation.

[kwcdude]

I think not showing the mic is better. Without it, it felt like you are having an ACTUAL conversation with me.

Thanks n much love for your content Jefferson ❤

[ITJoe]

1. You tell them "what" you agree with. This does not mean that you agree with everything.
2. You tell them what you've learned.
3. You tell them what's been helpful.

They help to de-escalate or dampen the fire of an argument.

Thank you, Jefferson, for these nuggets of wisdom when dealing with difficult conversations. 🙂 Great content!

The audio is excellent with a microphone although I hear you well without it!

[orielwiggins]

I don't care about what you do with mic or setting as I'm here for the content and it's stellar as usual.

I agree finding ways to deescalate our keep someone from feeling defensive is very important. I've learned that you've got a lot of wisdom in this area and are eager to share it. And the way you presented your expertise here is super helpful and very practical and understandable.

Thank you so much Jefferson!

[ibelieve]

The mic doesn't make a difference to me...I'm here for the content.

[rodguttorm]

You know, I'm more than 70 years old now, and I've never heard such a clear, easy-to-understand articulation of these ideas. Thank you!

[charscarlet]

The microphone is immaterial; it's the content that stands out. God bless and thank you for this precious snd priceless advice 🙏🏻🇮🇪💖

[karenhelm]

I agree that perhaps the microphone appears big due to camera angle.
Per usual, good words of wisdom

[purplebuttafly]

Where have your teachings been all of my adult life?! THANK YOU, IMMENSELY!! 🎉

[pattitimmons]

The fact is evident that you are continuing to try and better what ever you choose to do, then you ask for our opinions and take them to heart. That is something to learn from. It is so nice to find someone that is authentic, kind and giving in todays world. Thanks Jefferson!

[Wraithpaz]

"I agree..., I have learned..., That's helpful for me to know..." Jefferson, I love the way you boil your ideas down to a triad. It's easier to remember and start using. Since I don't have the need to confront very often, it's easy to get blindsided and that's when your phrases pop into my head. And the all-important, "Let your first word be a breath." Love your stuff!

[storieslife]

I’ve followed you from the beginning on Instagram. The microphone makes you sound far away, not the intimate (not sexual) close “friend” tone you’ve always had.
You always have amazing lessons. 👏👏

[jennyb.]

I like the videos in your car, they make me feel like I'm having a casual and helpful conversation with a good friend. The big mic you used today takes away the "casual" vibe, it makes the video feel like it was planned, rehearsed. This is my opinion...I still love the content, and your calming voice.
Thank you.

[kristykeers]

I don't care if you use a microphone or don't use a microphone. I love hearing your advice.It's very good.Never had a problem understanding. You're awesome!

[sylviarogerson]

The mic is distracting. Your content is wonderful!

[dots]

I consistently learn from your content. Never found the mic to be a problem. I agree with another commenter: this mic is distracting and sound quality was better before.

[erinbelzile]

Never had a problem with the sound before. I like when it’s just you in your car having a conversation; it feels real and spontaneous. The mike takes that feeling away. I vote to ditch the mike but I get why you feel that way. 😉

[Gumby]

Jefferson, your content is the BEST! You are such an inspiration!

[KarenMcMath]

Love your content! I need to learn this so much. Not a fan of the microphone. Distracting.

[psm]

OMGOSH, please do more! I have such a difficult relationship with some family and I agree; I have contributed to the family disfunction, only due to the lack of communication skills.
You are so helpful!
I am learning! 😊

[HollyDykes-hhcl]

Microphone or not, I value your videos ❤😊