Why Being MISUNDERSTOOD Is Actually a Blessing in Disguise

Let's delve into the emotional turmoil that often accompanies misunderstandings and judgments from others. Discover effective strategies to cope with negativity and foster self-acceptance. We explore common scenarios where people may misinterpret your actions or intentions, and provide practical tips on how to navigate these challenges with confidence.

🔹 Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
1:04 Why being misunderstood hurts so much 😢
2:17 Judgement vs Discernment
5:09 How to deal with being misunderstood
5:19 Option 1
7:31 Option 2
12:35 Example 1
15:10 Example 2
17:40 When people refuse to see your growth

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[celestethompson]

I learned the hard way, some people are intentionally misunderstanding you. They don’t want to get to know you and they don’t want to like you. You just have to let them and go on about your day.

[ramenaddict]

The more authentic and human I become, the more im dehumanized.

[mc]

People usually judge me a lot for being a quiet person. They just assume I’m rude or look down to others when that is not the case. 🤷‍♀️

[lightinthedusk]

Yeah it’s a waste of time to try and clear up people misunderstanding you because don’t forget, in some cases people WANT to misunderstand you. They simply don’t want to understand who you really are. They have an image of who you are in their head (based on projections and false assumptions and judgments), and even if you tried to explain the truth to them, they wouldn’t want to hear it, because they WANT you to be that villain or whatever else in their mind. They don’t want to see the truth of who you really are. You could be the kindest, sweetest, most awesome person, but they won’t want to admit that or give you credit for it. That would probably infuriate them. They WANT to misunderstand you. The limited image they have of you in their head helps soothe their fragile ego, helps make THEM comfortable. Sad and pathetic, really

[Mystic_Paths]

Additionally, being misunderstood allows you to maintain a sense of mystery and privacy, keeping parts of yourself sacred rather than fully exposed. It can give you the freedom to stay authentic without bending to others' expectations.

[SweettoothMarie]

They know what they are doing and are trying to humble you

[Irishlass]

It's particularly stressful when the people with incorrect preconceived notions about you hold power over you and there isn't anything you can do about it because of the massive power imbalance.

[Calle.Hutch..]

Judgy and insecure people usually assume that you think the way they do. So they might take you being quiet as being rude because that’s how they would be rude. They see the worst in people because they can’t imagine anyone actually having good intentions, because they don’t have good intentions. It says so much more about them, and you don’t wanna live in their world.

[natural]

You have to understand that people want to misunderstand you or they can't understand you

Every souls have different lenses, views, beliefs, experiences, traumas and problems. They can't understand you

So free yourself of this unnecessary suffering of trying to make them understand. They'll never understand you. The sooner you accept this truth the better you saved your time

If there is someone that truly understands you, it's the exception

Also majority of people don't want to see you win. Because of envy of whatever

[AlisViolette]

being misunderstood reveals less about you and more about the person choosing to write narratives about you. personally, i used to be very judgmental and it was because i was so insecure and felt like i couldn’t be my authentic self, so it was easy to judge people in the ways i truly believed others were judging me. it’s honestly very silly and not sensible. focus on yourself, not others.

[SzechuanChickenDog]

In my experience...the one who tries to control the narrative tends to be the perpetrator. Not 100%, but in modern society, people feel the need to control what others think about the situation. Especially the guilty party ( though most of this type of person never actually thinks theyre wrong, and the validation helps sqaush the tiny bit of conscious they may have had about the situation) When this has happened to me, I do not care... I dont have to justify anything and I'm not affected by what they say because it's not true and its just them using the same type of manipulation that made me want to get away from that person at all costs...great video!

[lovelyella]

INFJ too, some are intimidated by the depth of my conversation, and I can blame myself, but I’m practicing more self compassion, I resonate with this… so true!

Gave up trying to win over people who don’t get me…. Go where the love is!! 💜

[bananagirl]

I’m constantly thinking if I’m toxic or not, because my patience with people is non existent and when they try me or stress me out I instantly tap out without explanation. I still wish them well but I just can’t stay. Did that since I’m a kid with friend groups. I would then take a alone time and then randomly found new group of people. It’s looked down upon as being someone “abandoning” people.. but I feel like the most important thing is feeling free even tho it’s gonna be painful and alone sometimes

[kokomolove]

This is sooo helpful.
Thank you.

My friend told me years ago, “Not everyone is your friend.”
Years later, I evaluated my friendships with some people who did not add value. It was hard to let go. What made me realize to drop them was they made me feel uncomfortable. I dismissed their bad behavior towards me as their having an off day. But I added all up, years of experience. They just don’t like me.
Hard to swallow this realization, bc I’m used to being liked (I’m working on being a people pleaser).

[carbondavid]

Damn, you just broke down my entire beef with me and my sister. I’ve never met someone seeming to be so set on misunderstanding me, it’s caused a lot of problem these past few years. I’m very thankful to have a wonderful therapist and mom to support me, it really can rock your whole foundation having someone misunderstand you to such an extreme level.

[DaRkPlUm]

I love the sentiment that you just get on with it if people misunderstand you, but when you misunderstood by everybody, it's a depressingly isolating experience. It's honestly where I am at in life and I just want it or myself to end at this point.

[zart]

Thank you so much for this. Most of the time, I take what I hear personally, even if they're strangers in public, thinking they're talking about me. Growing up in a house full of judgmental people really takes a toll

[SunnyLurker]

"If your thoughts don't spiral, your emotions won't spiral." *Cries in Hyperfixation & Emotional Dysregulation

[siirifaniever]

Where was this video a year ago when I needed it the most! I went through a horrible time with my previous flatmates finding out the crap they’d talked behind my back. I came to two conclusions: some people WANT to believe the worst about you and their judgements usually tell more about the person themselves. That whole incident taught me that I don’t have to take into consideration every piece of critique I get if it’s simply untrue and on top of that unreasonable. Before I would often twist the truth to fit their narrative because I couldn’t understand why people would without a carefully thought out reason say mean things, so it must have been my fault. I’m happy I learned that’s not the case. It hurts so much to find that out though

[zaidaliahmed]

6 mins in, I literally am the same. I always try and reason with people, and honestly 9/10 it does work if you communicate yourself well, but there are some people that just aren't worth it and sometimes you just don't see eye to eye which is fine, other times it's because of their own trauma or whatever projection or story they are trying to make about you to] make themselves feel better.