SHE’S WIFE MATERIAL BUT HER LONG TERM BOYFRIEND STILL WON’T MARRY HER

This is a woman that has both of her parents in her life. In fact her parents are married to this day and have been together her whole life. She was raised in an environment that she wants to have for her self. Both of them have no kids and she is ready to have her own family, but her dream has been put on hold due to her man not showing any interest.

She wrote me, because she wanted me to tell her how to make her man marry her, but unfortunately that's something that he has to want to do on his own. My advice to a woman in this situation is simple. Never give a man an ultimatum, especially when it comes to marriage. You want your man to marry you because he actually wants to. You deserve to have the type of relationship you want! So if the man you're with doesn't want that, you should find a man that does. It's that simple. Never try to force a man into doing something like this if he's not ready for it. That will turn out bad for you.

"But I love him."

I know that it's not easy to walk away from somebody that you truly love, but hear me out...

Alot of men will never marry you if they don't feel that they have to. I know I just said that you shouldn't force a man to marry you and I do mean that. But what I'm talking about is not the same thing. Your problem is likely tied to the fact that you've been acting like a wife already and your man believes that there is no need to marry you. He knows that you love him and he thinks that you will never leave him. So he feels like the ball is in his court. Therefore he is going to move at the pace he wants to and there really is no guarantee that he will ever pop the question.

What will make a man think that he needs to marry you in a timely manner?

Letting him know what you want in the beginning, show him how much of an asset you are, and show him that you are the type of woman that will walk away if you're not happy. No hard feelings at all. You're just the type of woman that knows what she wants and will not settle for anything less. If you're really as good of a woman as you believe you are and you have that type of attitude, you are far more likely to end up with a ring on your finger.

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[Cpre]

This is why our grandmother's told us don't give boyfriends wife privileges. There's no shortage of women out here willing to play wife or house. Recognize your value and move on, like he said. But do it for you, not him.

[michealdarden]

Alot of women have wifey written all over their forehead, some men just can't read. BOOM 🔥 🔥 🔥

[felishapittman]

Ladies stop auditioning for the position. Know your worth. It's not easy being single in today's times but your peace is worth the wait.

[personallynicki]

I left my ex AFTER 11yrs for the same reason. He brought a ring when I left thinking that would get me back. I was dating several men. They showed me how much I was too content! I didn’t have to cook or clean for them. Gave up no cookie! Well 13months later I was married and pregnant. 4mos after my 1st child were pregnant again lol my ex definitely wasn’t hitting NOTHING!

Btw I moved out and left him with all the furniture. Got my own new everything bc I planned my leave for 6-8months. Didn’t let him see me. Eventually changed my number. Changed my car. Made sure I was hard to find because men like to kill women like us. Our absence make them go crazy cause they KNOW THEY WILL NEVER FIND ANOTHER US.

Move on ladies.

[SomewhereInTheMaidenverse]

Don’t shack up with a guy who won’t marry you.

[CMo-ymed]

I’m at the point where I’d rather be single and lonely than to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value my time.

[noirfit]

As a woman who has loved a man like this, it’s so hard to walk away. But it’s necessary for your peace of mind.

[laurentracey]

You gave very sound advice. If a man wants to marry a woman, he won't waste time. If you have to beg, make any ultimatums or compromise any way. Then leave because he really doesn't want to with *you*.

[nenew]

I never understood what's the point of PLAYING wife instead of BEING a wife. Smh

[Luckimee]

She cooks, cleans, and caters to her man...First mistake 😅🤣

[sweetlove]

If a man is interested in you he’ll ask you out, if he wants you he will marry you.

[destinybeingfulfilledbyhis]

Do not go back until a marriage date is set and do not move back in together until after the marriage.

[gdisprint]

Thank you for this message. A relative let a so called “love of her life” waste her time for 6 long years. Their relationship ended and he moved on marrying the new woman within a year of courting, bought a house together and everything. She never got over it. Fast forward 23 years later, age 54 still unmarried and no kids, she still thinks he’s still the love of her life contact and end up hooking up with him, he’s still married but tells her he’s separated, gets her on her back, dumps her then go back to his wife. It’s a mess. 54 years old and still being lied to and getting played by grown boys.

[countrylay_d]

I know several women in this position..with men 5, 10 years. Good women having kid, holding up their men and the guys saying ' they looking on still to see if she's worthy of marriage.' wife without marriage! That's what these women settle for. Come on women, have more respect for yourselves.

[clevagaines]

"Good men don't beg for what they deserve" - this is a WORD.

[msgonsalves]

The longest relationship I’ve been in was 2.5 yrs. I broke it off but he did not want me to go so he would verbally & emotionally abuse me to try & control me. So I planned in advance to disappear. The apartment was in my name only; ended the lease. The car is mine; repossessed it. I have 2 jobs plus school refund checks & tax returns; no way to depend on him, HA!🤣 Changed my #, blocked him on all social media platforms, & moved to my parents house.

I made SURE he couldn’t find me OR have me back. I’m enjoying my freedom, I get to date men on my level, get to hang with my friends & travel. Finishing school and working for a high end company. No kids.

[usonjecheonga]

Dont bring all that if you dont marry me I will do this talk....let him see you emotionally walk he ain't giving you that ring..simply put...he dont think you deserve it...so give the space to the woman he will give the ring to and move on...these are the type of men who marry someone in two weeks and you wonder why...dont force a man to marry you

[LUX_]

Point blank. It doesn't take a man YEARS to know if YOU'RE the ONE! While you're serving as a PLACEHOLDER for a man who doesn't WANT YOU, it only DELAYS your opportunity to meet the man that does want you! With that said, ladies, never ever underestimate the value of SOLITUDE and PEACE!

[es]

I literally just found you today, and watched a bunch of your videos. 23 minutes ago you posted this. A few weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years because he can't give me a straight answer on marriage & kids. I get it- he's not ready. I have compassion for him. It is just such a coincidence you posted this today. God's timing I guess!