Why you have to stop chasing the Narcissist. The reverse hoover and reaching out to the narcissist

Why you have to stop chasing the Narcissist. The reverse hoover and reaching out to the narcissist. If you hoover yourself back into the relationship with a narcissist, you are saying you are ok with everything they have put you through.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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Click the BEACON up top for direct links. Thank you so much and lets HEAL together

[MotivationMindsetU]

ive learned through this process that even when you dont get the closure you want or deserve, you have to remember you get your closure through how disrespectful and terrible they treated you. I know there were alot of good times, but the utter disrespect and complete lack of care for my feelings outweighs all the good times. We all deserve so much more

[hissyfitz]

⭐️⭐️⭐️ CLOSURE IS SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO GIVE TO YOURSELF ⭐️⭐️⭐️

[Empatheticallyrising]

I broke no contact after 60 days yesterday and today. I am reverse hovering. I don’t know what happened to me. I broke down. He took my call very briefly and now he won’t respond. I have to get back on the saddle this video will help. He said, you disappeared and blocked me. I cried all night calling him and texting. No answer. Looking at his social media I DID NOT DO THAT FOR 60 DAYS!!! I was so proud of myself now I know I need to get control over this and Stop!!! My husband was horrible to me and I need to accept reality that he discarded me. He has a new supply. I’m thrown away . I accept it and move on.

[fruitypopwhickle]

I know his life is up without me!😂😂😂 I was everything he didn't deserve. Smart, kind, good looking, successful, ambitious, supportive, loving, loyal, fun, funny, adventurous, generous with good morals. He played himself and I'm sooo tickled by that! Chances of him finding another woman like me, are very slim. And even if he did manage to conjure up that magic trick, I don't care!!!! In fact, I'm just grateful to be free and out of that mess! When I say that everyday without him is a blessing, believe it! I'm now with the man of my dreams. A kind, caring, respectful, respectable, generous, loving, King of a man.❤ Life is

[usermcuser]

It is a waste of energy.. Keep your high vibe. Block. Move on and be happy people! You are free!!! 💯

[kellyferguson]

They don’t end anything, even if they are not talking to you. Ghost, block never look at anything and never even think of them again.
I know you want closure and understanding of what happened but they get off on believing you are still on the hook. They are heartless and cannot give you what you think you need to move on.
Know who they are and block and never look back.

[kitpitre]

So much of conversations with narcissist are the most nonsensical and it seems like anything you say gets completely lost on them and they will make you feel like you are repeating everything not just once or twice but a hundred or more, because they dont care about you or your point of view . They aren't normal so stop trying to understand them in the way you would, most people. Just bounce

[ribby]

3 years after a breakup and this video is the single real-talk that’s broken the camel’s back.. I’m deleting wickr and blocking his number. Thanks Lee. Needed to hear it

[MissReneelh]

🤦🏽‍♀️ this. Trauma bonds kept me there, never again!

[alicewonderland]

I’m ignoring him completely, so why’s he at my door every weekend 🙄… I know his hidden agenda behind it, always a method to his madness! I ain’t his back up plan anymore 🙏😂

[crystalnyla]

Learning so much … Charged me so much Your a ROCKSTAR 🤩

[DreamDope]

This literally just happened to me last week and it drove me crazy when he didn't answer my calls. I gotta get my mind right

[leomanroar]

What you saying is true, Narcs always have exes lined up or wanting them to coming back. What you are saying is great insight Lee. Hoovering always happens and they will use family and friends

[ru.m.]

This is gold, ty ty - I was about to reach out- but no not gonna do it. He was the awful person and he will be the one reaching out.

[greylizard]

OMG! YES! Thank you Lee! I used to think to myself, "If this person is so mad at me or they hate me, why can't they just block and delete me like a normal person?" If a normal person is mad at you, and you message them to apologize, chances are that at least they will reply angrily if they have a good reason to be mad at you. Narcissists sometimes act like you don't even exist to them. I felt like a ghost. I apologized for everything I could think of, took full responsibility for the smallest of offenses, absolutely no word in response. I think they knew that I had seen too much of their bad side and they had damaged me too much for it to be worthwhile for them to hoover me, but they kept me added for their own entertainment.

Lee, thanks to your other videos I was able to realize that they had been messing around on me. Something you said triggered a memory that finally made sense, when I was intimate with this person and very gently sucking on their neck only to make them feel good, they snapped at me angrily not to mark them. It seemed like such an extreme reaction but now I know they were trying to manage multiple relationships. It takes sucking pretty damn hard on someone to leave any kind of mark. They were also scrolling through their email to show me how boring their inbox was and I saw a recent email that said "Welcome to Tinder!" It was dated to around the time they had begun their discard phase with me. I believed them when they said they hadn't been with anyone back then but honestly even if they had I don't care anymore. I'm finally getting myself back.

Thank you so much for helping people by opening up your mind.

[Mandycapetown]

Hey hunny, last nights short set me straight big time. I’ve blocked him everywhere. No more hoovering. Awesome support from your followers. Thank you for just that video beautiful man

[ChannelZero]

Reverse Hoover! I just learned a new term! I have been doing that as a Codependent forever.

[thebullwhisperer]

Thank you for your help, he's definitely a full on narcissist. It's VERY CRYSTAL CLEAR.

[rossofficial]

Wow this is me. Hoovered myself. Trauma bonded and worship her like a god. Nothing is ever good enough for them. Just sat in limbo waiting for her to contact me. Mentally and physically draining

[alimccreery]

I get what you’re saying and also about the dog whistle. I’m realizing what I was doing called reactive abuse and I was hurting myself. My bad.