Aiming Too High: When Should You Lower Your Expectations in Dating?

Is there ever an instance where you should be real with yourself and admit when someone is out of your league? Even if it hurts? We weigh in on whether you should lower your dating expectations.
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[Anas-rxhe]

Loni and Jeannie kept it all the way real 😂 I try not to allocate numbers though because it sort of dehumanises people. But there is a spectrum of what’s realistic

[monziibrownize]

Jeannie was trying SO hard to be nice that she kept stumbling over her words

[tawanamufasa]

We talk about body positivity and loving our selves.
Then we talk about rating people and wonder people are dying from getting BBL's or changing themselves drastically in order to get a ''10''

Attraction is important but ' beauty is fleeting'. Personality, drive, and attitude is more important

[dreamgrlarchive]

If you feel like you’re aiming too high, upgrade yourself. In and out. You deserve the best.

[flamelily]

If your relationship is heavily based on looks, what happens if someone gets sick or the inevitable aging? People prioritize looks instead of values. Looks don't matter for mundane day to day tasks.

[christiantoti]

Adrienne felt attacked lol. At the end, you can have all the standards you want but you fall in love with who you fall in love 🤷🏻‍♂️

[PrettieLittleLady]

Loni is so pretty! People do not give her enough credit sometimes.

[centsfreelancer]

Jeannie and Loni speaking truths. Everybody is not in everybody league goes for men and women, be realistic. Lol

[walktalk_]

Dont underestimate being confident, carrying yourself well and treating others with respect. Those qualities are super attractive on a guy (speaking as a girl). When a man carries himself with confidence and character he can be the most attractive guy in the room.

[rainbowchampagne]

jeannie is hilarious how did she say this on tv about her friend😭😭😭

[vsmystic]

When Ade said “you look at some couples and wonder how are they together” I felt like she was referring to herself. And when Loni says “there’s a reason why they are together” she’s right. In Ade’s case she’s super beautiful and people would expect her to be with a good looking man but she said it herself she doesn’t want a super good looking man that is full of himself and other girls want she wants someone with a good personality that loves loves her. Which is why she choose her husband. Not to say he’s not good looking but he’s not the typical man people would expect her to be with. But I agree with Jeannie and Loni man. People don’t need to lower their standards but they need to have realistic expectations.

[miniplants]

Am i the only one that doesn't look at someone and thinks of a number? lol i feel like the person needs to work on the fact that they see themselves as a 6/10 before going for a "8” or a “9". IMO everyone should see themselves as a 10/10. Confidence attracts people.

[srsly___uio]

Adrienne is saying all this because people used to say Adrienne was way out of Israels leauge

[microbios]

The older I get, the more I realize personality and common interests are the number one indicator of compatibility. For example, I can't stand career minded and materialistic people, and they can't stand me, regardless of mutual attractiveness.

[RanchoBellaVista]

Only immature people rate people. I'm a conventional attractive woman and I can assure you all that looks are not what makes you happy. Kindness, humor and compatibility is what's important.

[chandacaston]

If Jeannie's friend is only looking at models, who while attractive are using and ghosting, the problem isn't that she's aiming too high but that she's aiming too low. If you're attractive as all out but you don't know how to treat someone you're not a ten. Period. But I think it's ridiculous to look at people as numbers anyway.

[arianac.]

It sounds like Adrienne thinks she can relate... But some girls like "ugly" dudes because they think that dude will fawn over them

[drtash]

Looks aren't everything. Confidence & Personality is everything IMO. But for men, money helps a lot too. How you think Jay got Beyoncé?? He had the confidence, personality (and money) to get her.

[jasminvalerie]

As someone who’s never been on a date or asked out, I think just expecting the other person to be a male is about as low as I can get at this point 😅😭

[Lior]

This is the best group for The Real. Don't ever change it! Garcelle is the perfect addition.