How to Stop Your Destructive Habits From Ruining Your Life

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[stayroxy]

love the branching out besides just "love" life. I am interested in bettering myself in general not just my "love" life. I like the idea of upward spirals.

[melodiejohnston]

I smoke. I quit once 40 years ago as a result of an abusive marriage and wanting to be "better than" my spouse at the time.
It lasted 20+ years, but I knew if I ever started again, it would be a greater challenge to quit. Remarried to the LOML 20 years later and things were great. He died from pancreatic cancer 9 years after we married. I started again (been 9 years) and I believe I know why I tell myself to continue. I am not worth it. It's me, my fault, my responsibility that I do this to myself. There hasn't been momentum for me since 2015. Nobody else is responsible or accountable.. I'll admit that I am depressed, but that's not the catalyst. Thanks for the videos, I appreciate and enjoy your delivery. I also feel comfortable enough to admit this (not verbally) to someone other than myself. You make a difference. Namaste

[randymcglothlin]

I love that you took most aspects of life, that a person may, want to change, and shared how looking at what it would take to accomplish those things in a way that has sustainability for long periods of time.
And that we need to be kind to ourselves.

[Yeodoongiiie]

binging bad foods and drinking too much and feeling like you got no control... is coping from something. it's something you developed bc it worked for you. something in your psyché liked this habit. you were trying to keep yourself safe from something... you need to look at WHY this habit came into your life. what were you protecting yourself from?
why did you gain all that weight? or why did you neglect your health? has something happened to you? or have you been stressed for too long ?
there is something underneath the habit.

[dyules]

I love that we also talk about life and not only about romantic love, because like the title of your book and this podcast says: it’s also and maybe most importantly about loving life! Thank you, I needed this one and I’m going to enjoy this. ❤❤❤

[juanmanuelesis]

I love this episode because is focused at the end on having compasion towards us. The takeaways on how to go through different areas (diets, being single/relationship, developing a new hobbie even) through a 3 Step Guide to have a long-term mindset on those areas at the end was perfect

[Elena-iunn]

This is one of the most meaningful episodes I have ever heard. Thank you for sharing your story and being authentic 🙏🏻

[vaishnavilandge]

My heart is feeling calm cool and healed after watching and hearing this❤

[vp.]

My 30 min walk its helpful, before work. Im good all day with dealing with depression after a 6 yr breakup. I struggle after i clock out from work, bc im alone at home. Working on how to fill that void. Those hrs b4 bed are the worse, my hopes and dreams feel like they are dead. Due to my age i cant start a family. I not only lost the love of my life (he cheated, i left). I lost the hopes and dreams of the family i wanted.

[DaisyPeel]

Love this one!! These things are all related, and contribute to the type of love life we'll have, in addition to the rest of the parts of our life! I particularly appreciate the commentary on not being afraid to admit that sone things are harder for you than others, and so we need more support in those areas. I actually shared this episode in a chat group about working out, with the message that staying healthy is easier for some of us naturally, and for those who it's not, it's great to acknowledge it without self judgement and find support

[milaalt]

This is so funny, my friend and I were just talking about this today. If you don't start developing new habits and routines then when a good partner comes your way you will miss it because you are stuck in the memories of your past and the habits.

[JulieElvenMusic]

Your latest videos are so extra on point and helpful, thank you so much Matthew! ❤️

[allmarknobite]

Timely episode, Matt. Thanks for your insights. 

The most important takeaway for me was the question of sustainablility. “How would ‘it’ look if I were to do it this way for the rest of my life? Is it sustainable?” And for my part, would I want it to be sustainable? That, for me, is at the crux of it. 

I could go as far as to say this is a game changer for me, especially if I can move the idea along the continuum from aspirational to practical. Yep, I'm struggling just a bit with that at mo. 😏

[lynylcullen]

Our own habits effect our relationships if they effect US individually.
All of our connections feel that trickle down.
GRATEFUL for this excellent coverage of these topics!
(Romance is only possible if you don’t feel like crap 🤣)

[MT-yxcu]

I enjoyed and learned a lot from this video. I would love to see more videos like this that don't totally center around romance, but focuses on true self improvement👍🏼

[roseanne]

Really helpful and practical. I especially like the part about what are you doing BEFORE the binge, or the unhealthy habit, etc. For some reason I never think about what led up to the behavior, just the behavior itself and then feeling very punitive towards myself because of it. Also liked the part about putting yourself in the environments that will support your new habits. Thank you!

[thelidiaedit]

I like that you talk about different things, and would love for you to talk about good habits and communication in established relationships. I’ve recently got married I’ve been really happy, and I would love this to last forever. Haven’t had the greatest example of a marriage growing up…

[danielamondschein]

What sets off a good effect of habits for me is yoga.

What sabotaged my momentum: A toxic parental figure convincing me my love for them is love while it isn't.

Thank you, Matthew, for the video, and for sharing the experiences from Africa 🙋🏼‍♀️

[viviantejada]

One of the best videos you’ve made. Thank you so much for this!

[christianemitchell]

"Intuitive Eating" (written by Tribole and Resch) is an amazing book on how to heal our relationship with food.