How Complaining Rewires Your Brain To Be Anxious And Depressed

// Studies have shown that complaining physically rewires your brain.
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Productivity is simply Inputs/Outputs. Social media requires a lot of inputs, and I do not believe the outputs are worth it. You won't find me on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin or anywhere else.

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complaining, stoicism, neuroscience, study, science, anxiety, depression

[abread]

Oh man I wish I had friends like Andrew in my life to talk I would have never been lonely and depressed, Btw man love your vids :)

[relaxdaily]

What a wonderfully well rounded exploration of the topic, without artificial lengths, without leaving out important aspects, Andrew. You got this one extremely well done. Thank you! I rarely see such truth coming from anyone, or any organization. Thank you for making the world a better place!

[josephhall]

I feel sometimes I take my youtubers for granted. Thank you for your hard work and time to make these videos.

[jaxx-inspiregrowcreate]

The reverse approach is gratitude, rewiring your brain to be positive and happy

[TheDhammaHub]

Complaining about things all the time usually pushes the responsibility away from you. If it's not you who is responsible, nothing can be done about it and you are "at the mercy" of others. That an unhealthy mindset that leads to suffering :/

[MrLoverboy]

I love this idea. Being selective of what we choose to complain about but also how often and the number of times we will allow for it. Its like having an emotional allowance.

[Lumors]

I REALLY like how you go ahead and take a nuanced view, and not just push the hardcore popular ideas that "Complaining is toxic, kick out all the complainers from your life" and so on! Keep it up!

I feel the need to vent when stress really overwhelms me. I can go into an intense negative spiral, maybe cry too, everything is the worst... but as soon as I talk out everything, I calm down and I can focus on the positive sides, the solutions again. However, I know it can be tolling for a friend to listen, so I'm trying my best to deal with my need to vent without pushing it on the nearest unfortunate person.

[erfhoy]

Great conclusion bro. But what the people (like aurelius) meant by "don't complain" is, don't ever get stuck in to complaining-MODE. As in do not let it control you. And also, I do think there's a big difference between complaining and recognizing a problem (that you are particularly unhappy about). Sometimes complaining about something can actually help you to get something of your chest. But, if you don't feel that release afterwards, that relief, than it didn't work and you should just cut it off there and stop complaining. Because otherwise you are gonna get stuck in that complaining and THAT is the real problem, because THEN you get in to that negative spiral and stop seeing solutions, positive things, etc.

[samchandler]

Great video. I completely agree - and I think this speaks to a broader trend in our culture of pathologising all negative emotion - stress, anger, resentment, criticism etc. These emotions are obviously volatile and dangerous when they exist in excess, but the attitude of absolute positivity or stoic indifference may not be the best approach to them.

Basically, what we resist persists. If I try and suppress or avoid all negative emotions within myself, they will manifest themselves in highly destructive ways. That's why complaining can sometimes be cathartic and healthy. More so though, I think we need to adopt (as individuals and as a culture) an attitude towards negative emotions that is accepting, curious, and proactive. They should be treated as natural parts of life, not to be avoided or feared, but to be explored and contended with.

Every experience has the ability to teach us something, and in many ways negative experiences have more to tell us than positive ones - depending on how they are handled. Feelings like anxiety, sadness, , anger etc should be treated not as a mortal threat or an unwelcome intruder, but rather as a slighlty melodramatic old friend that you invite in, hear out, and then lightly tease. No need to take them too seriously after all!

[nicomal]

@7:35 There are no negative emotions, all emotions have a purpose.

[pivotal-ai]

This hit home. I am an extremest and my strategy to this has been to shame complaining and similar for stress and any health habits.

[johnathangulley]

Yeah, that makes sense and I agree with that. Sometimes people just want to be heard and that is the best solution and by being heard, often times the problems vanish.

[danielgrogan-celestialcons]

Dear Reader, I hope you have a blessed day full of light and laughter!

[fearonlygod]

I used to live in deep negativity state.. Miserable... Always complaining about what I don't have and ignoring what I have... Then one of my friends forced me to be positive and grateful in life or else she wouldn't talk to me... And I swear my life changed for the better...i started to think positive....The same situation as was before but I was functioning better and I slowly started to be more productive... Your mindset does matter.... Now I realise it was all in my head that was pulling me back...

[miavirtuosa]

Ok so I watched a few videos of yours this year, thought you were a nice looking and emotionally smart fella.
Today I decided to subscribe because even though I knew everything you said except three things that resonated with me (and I feel that that's a rare occurrence at 24 in 2020);
-seek satisfaction and not pleasure(I was doing the opposite I now realize),
-the goal is not to complain as little as possible, and
-complaining is a signal from the body.

Thank you for that😌

[SantanaBanana]

I like to think of why I should be grateful whenever I find that I am starting to complain.

[Aisired]

I can honestly relate to this. I had come to hate my job and I felt like I was reaching my breaking point. So I kind of 'complained' about it to a friend. He simply told me to just endure and to not think too much about it. To me, that was some kind of toxic positivity. I didn't expect him to give me any solution. I was just expressing how I really felt. I just wanted to be heard. His response did make me feel even worse. I felt like he wasn't really listening to me. He wasn't really empathizing with me. He acted like my problem was not really that big of a deal. So, there was this part of that kind of lost trust in him. I ended up addressing the issue all on my own and then I got myself a new job that I'm happier with. Point is I took myself complaining about my old job as a sign that I wasn't where I was supposed to be. Therefore, I needed to acknowledge that I was in a bad place and figure my way out of it.

[PUAlum]

It was a long-ish listen. But i'm NOT complaining! Helpful words of wisdom from a winsome young man! Thank you.

[bwing]

Your ability to articulate ideas in a calm manor is why you’re one of my favorite YouTubers.

[giannemarie]

THIS is what I needed to hear. Schools been two times tougher, and my classmates have been complaining A LOT which is completely valid. But I tried to avoid complaining incessantly and just kept pushing forward. This video is definitely ingraining it in my head.