Have YOU been the focus of a narcissist's DOUBLE STANDARD?

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DISCLAIMER: THIS INFORMATION IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS VIDEO DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL.

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[rapidfire]

Doctor Ramani is the biggest threat to Narcissism 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉

[carparthero]

narcissists want the authority of a king, a dictator, a ruling monarch; but the accountability of a toddler. literally and figuratively.

i walked away from a "friendship" spanning many years, by telling the toxic person "i walked away because you were too busy finding faults in me while i was too busy overlooking yours."

the surprised pikachu face reaction was hilarious and validated i made the right move.

cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[sparkygump]

"I don't care what you think but you'd BETTER care what I think!"

[jennifervanhook]

Ex narc stood me up for daytime plans we had, I waited for 4 hours then went out with friends. He showed up at my place later, raged at me for disrespecting him by going out and not waiting longer and then broke up with me. They're so OFF mentally it's frightening

[harmonizedigital.]

The problem with narcissism is not that is exists, it that it is everywhere.

[mosaicowlstudios]

I've been the focus of an entire narcissistic family system's double standards. All of us lose our cool and get a little frustrated sometimes. When the others do, they are offered immediate understanding and the circumstances are taken into account. When I do, I am a "broken, messed up freak that constantly causes problems for the rest of the family."
I finally said, "enough". I told my family that I won't be a part of their BS anymore, but that they shouldn't be surprised to see me at extended family events. And I'll be cordial and polite to them if I see them, but I'm not participating in close family gatherings with them anymore. Done.

[turnbacktime]

No, nothing will ever please them. That’s where radical acceptance and grey rock come in. Classic example. Brings home random items from grocery store. Expects me to cook them. About a year ago I found Dr. R. and I listened. And listened. Mostly with my mouth open because she so accurately describes narc dialogue. NOW: I leave the random items where they are. When he says “you don’t cook for me anymore” I say “correct” and smile. Last time he cut me off verbally and told me I’m bitter I calmly said no. I’m not bitter, I’m expressing my anger. I will not be silenced anymore. He acts like a toddler, I leave the room. He comes in complaining, I continue reading, smile to acknowledge him. I finally got my internal strength back. Sometimes I clamp my jaw so hard I think my teeth will crack but I am quiet. Learning new behavior (me not responding) is hard sometimes.

[SamuelLee-kcrh]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[Pamela-wb]

Loyalty can be dangerous. I've had to learn that.

[Farvie]

The coming in with the hug when they've just abused you. Or saying, "Love you!!" just after they've abused you on the phone and expecting you to say it back. It makes me feel feel so sick, but it's easier to reciprocate otherwise it just starts again. Thank you for explaining this. I've dealt with this my whole life and still have to deal with it with my parents. I feel like this is one of the most damaging things they do. Thank you for using the words "intrusive, gross, violating". Perfect description of how I feel.

[KRzzzzzzzz]

I’ve dealt with a narcissistic spouse for 37 years. Yes I know. Why am I. I just very very recently became aware of what I’ve been dealing with.

[alexalofi]

"My problems are your problems too. Your problems are yours alone" - my former narcissistic friend.

[MissReneeMichelle]

I've found that cognitive empathy is PERFECT for giving TO the narcissist. Save your true empathy for the people who deserve it.

[ericameyerchandelieralves]

Yup. He used to fight and shout and say the most horrible things. When I tried to explain or defend myself, he'd say to just drop it or he would have to leave the house to get peace. I'd say go then. He'd be storming off and not be heard from for over 12 hours to days. He'd then come back with some shopping and a gift. All smiles and happy go lucky. I'd be quiet, reserved but civil. He'd come in for a hug or a kiss and I'd be so confused. Always ine of two things happened. I'd just carry on like everything's fine. He wouldn't apologize or anything. Or I would still be emotionally hurt by the poison that came out of his mouth and would ask to clarify something he said and he would be off like a rocket and acting like the victim again. Complaining about how he can't just come home after a hard day and just have peace and that I'm always so grumpy and he can't talk with me as I'm sick and it's hard to say anything because I'm bi-polar. So ye. I'd always choose the 1st option. I stayed quiet, got myself sorted and when I had my ducks in a row, I left without even a glance back. People was asking why I'm so cold and heartless. 😂 I stepped out of his world into my own, so I didn't care what him and his circus monkeys thought of me. 😊

[jackiep]

My spiritual advisor called it when she said “The Relationship has always lacked reprocity “.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

I felt so disgusted being forced to hug my brother after he emotionally and psychologically abused me. It’s so messed up. My family doesn’t get it and I no longer try to get them to understand. I keep my distance from the narcissists now. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[ActiveSneakers]

Having self-determination is being disloyal to a narcissist.

[kabel]

I have adult children that are so much like this - after they spend time with their father. We’ve been divorced since 1993, on his 3rd marriage.. still blames .. blames .. blames. Entitlement! Pure & simple! They project on to me that I go through their personal things or money - my ex tapped phones, hide cams, they are the ones that project onto others when they do the very thing they blame you for ..so toxic.

[sunnirv]

Let's all give a shout out to Dr. Ramani looking adorable in her glasses and purple sweater! Purple is a beautiful color on you ❤ Thank you for everything you do for the world! We love you and we are so thankful and grateful you are in this world! ❤

[costelloandlizzievolk]

“At what point is loyalty a one sided street to self harm…” I love that as that is what my family pressures me to do, and I refuse to play that role anymore. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤