Why You Can't Get Over Your Toxic Job

You left your toxic job, and you thought once you left you'd be over it. Sure maybe it would take a few weeks to decompress from all the stress it put you through - but it's been months (maybe even years) and you're still suffering. You're always on edge, waiting for the other shoe to drop. You're hypervigiliant and spot toxic workplace signs everywhere. And you're miserable. You've given it time. You've shared your toxic job story. And now you're educating yourself about toxic workplaces because you think if you intellectualize your experience you'll be able to move past it. But you're wrong. There are three reasons why you cannot get over your toxic job, which I'm going to explain in this video.

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Post-Toxic Job Syndrome is not an actual, professionally recognized medical or psychological diagnosis. It is strictly intended for entertainment and educational purposes. Recommendations included in this video is to aid in your toxic job recovery are not offered by a doctor, are generalized, and are not individual for your unique circumstance, so they may not apply to everyone and should not be taken as medical advice. All responsibilities lie with the individual and not Capdeca Solutions, LLC. The aftereffects of a toxic job can be serious. Please contact your medical provider if you have concerns about your mental and/or physical health as a result of a toxic work experience.

[Jennifer-mydm]

Over ten years ago, I was gaslighted by a truly toxic boss and the head of HR. I'm now working for a vastly superior company, making more money, and my boss and coworkers are amazing. But I'm still so pissed off over the way I was treated at that other job. The PTSD is real.

[colejohnson]

Isolation is such a great word to describe it. When we feel like we are on an island, we may start questioning if something is “wrong” or “off” with us. Self-trust can start diminishing real quick.

[timgibney]

I am still paranoid at my present job that I am about to get fired or setup. I was not like this and my confidence has never recovered from 10 years ago. It is still hurting my career years later

[DancingThroughLifexoxo]

I found myself wondering why I miss my old job when I hated most of it, and why I still think about it when things are good. It's true, it's much more boring and simple, and it almost feels unsettling

[nancykay]

I had to leave yet another toxic job two weeks ago after many shouting matches with my micromanaging boss that raised my blood pressure.
I ended up having to drive myself to the ER the next day with shortness of breath, very high blood pressure and dizziness.
While the ER doc and nurses were giving me an EKG and meds in an IV line, I was still very upset and going on about all that led up to this.
A nurse then came back in and told me I had to stop or I wouldn’t be able to calm down enough to be released.
It was a real wake up call!

[PurplePinkRed]

All of this is so accurate! I'd also add that many of us have had toxic or abusive childhoods and are replaying our roles in the workplace. Once you start unpacking your trauma, you are less likely to tolerate toxicity.

[radishfever]

It took me twenty years to recover from my toxic job. My biggest regret is not leaving sooner.

[AnnaFhaumnuaypol]

This is too accurate.. it trashes my confidence and really increases my anxiety to the point that I dont want to go back to work anymore. When I read job descriptions, it makes me sick. It's so bad that I would apply just for the sake of "achieving" something for the day and when HR really does reach out, I purposely dont pick up my phone and/or not answer my email. It's a struggle everyday of having to be an adult and finally having to choose something...

[saraf]

Hi from a survivor of several toxic jobs...I think looking back that the desperation to put the other toxic job behind and start a new one is that you just take whatever without looking too hard at it or asking too many questions, like rinsing your mouth with a strong mouthwash or gasoline to try to remove a bad toxic aftertaste..

[darthxellaa]

Great topic. Toxic environments condition you to expect the worst. When you make it to a positive environment, sometimes we fear the worst.

[jeremybuchanon]

I had two toxic jobs in a row. Each one took me about a year to get over.

Now I just think of myself as a temp worker. It's pretty liberating.

[Billn]

I left my job 2 months ago. I've had a couple interviews for another job. I had another interview yesterday. It looks more hopeful than the previous one. Hopefully I'm working by next week sometime. They said they were going to email me the "hiring package", to fill out.

[earthsteward]

If you have ever had a toxic job, you will need help getting over it or you will be scarred for life. I've had several toxic jobs and I have given up on having fulfilling job unless I work as an entrepreneur and sometimes I just want to move to a log cabin in the middle of the woods, far from any other human.

I worked with people who I thought were friends who then conned me into working for free for a month. There was manager who would make mistakes and then put the blame on me. I still shudder when I think of a manager who would come to my desk about once a week with his fists clenched to his side and his shoulders flexed like he was ready for a fight. Even though I was a good worker, he would still do it at least once a week. I am so angry at myself that I didn't complain or just leave. This manager would be super nice other times and I couldn't deal with the dichotomy in my mind.

[LatinaChef]

Yup, left one bad work place for another. Now, struggling to find a job.

[Al-rnqy]

Awesome video, Jennifer. I'm glad we have people like you talking about this subject and teaching us how to cope with it. Dealing with toxic jobs isn't something you learn in school, college, or even something your parents can prepare you for.

We're often thrown into jobs like these, then expected to "figure it out" for ourselves. But your channel is doing a great job helping us to deal with a topic we were never taught otherwise. Thank you career bestie!😊

[becklee]

This video called me tf out 😅 Watching tons of videos n reading tons of comments/stories to find the validation I needed from what happened to me. No one in my life could understand my experience, and while it's been over a year and I'm starting to experience new/different toxicities in my new workplace, keeping informed through social media and in tune with my emotions has me acting much more carefully this time around. The one thing I gained from my toxic job was to never be taken advantage of like that again. Social media helps me cope in the meantime 😂

[lisabagdonjones]

I spènt five years in a really toxic work environment hoping it would get better. Sometimes the toxicity level would drain only to come back with a vengeance. And yeah, once I quit, I unknowingly jumped into another toxic job. I didn't let that last beyond two months. Wth is wrong with employers?

[christophetreboutte]

That's everywhere. But that's not a reason to give up. Most of the management are not trained or qualified to be managers, they take the money but avoid taking responsibility and blame others. Setting up boundaries between you and your life and your job is essential. You can only worry about what you control and can change. If your are well paid your life is conditioned by your job otherwise your are abused to do more than you are paid for.

[MORGANFREEMANVOICE]

I actually like my new CSR job and my boss says I am doing a good job. My supervisor and coworkers are toxic and gossipers. So I know they gossip about me. I go above and beyond but I am not stressed. I just work and if they fire me they fire me.

[Chipotle]

I felt desperate and took the first job I could get in order to leave a toxic job. My current job is much better as far as how people treat me & speak to me, but we're overworked, understaffed, and underpaid. I'm afraid to leave though. Afraid to end up in a job that's as toxic as, or even more toxic than, my previous one.