How To Be Less Talkative | CHATTERBOX PSYCHOLOGY

HOW TO BE LESS TALKATIVE | CHATTERBOX PSYCHOLOGY \ In this video I share effective ways for how to be less talkative. First I delve into the psychology of why you are a chatterbox, and then I share my top 3 ways for how to talk less when you're with friends or meeting strangers.

Reason why you talk too much, I find people who can't stop talking are either ONE of two types of people: people struggling with anxiety and issues of being overly nervous. OR people who have self-esteem complexes. Often these types of people brag a lot, or overexaggerate stories, and quickly turn the topic of the conversation back to the subject of them.

Now, I don't want you to feel bad if you feel like you are ANY of these two types of people. It happens, maybe you had a shitty childhood and your parents never gave you authentic attention, or maybe you're just more genetically prone to being anxious. The majority of people have some level of these type of disorders.

The best way to remedy BOTH of these issues (being overly anxious or having a low self-esteem) is to work on your confidence and work on being alone with your thoughts in solitude.

You NEED to be alone WITHOUT your phone, and being distracted. You NEED to learn to deal with your negative thoughts and emotions. There are countless methods and ways to handle negative emotions in a healthy way. There's journaling, there's meditation, there's what's called "shadow work" these are techniques for how to deal with the dark aspects of your psyche. There is the Katie Bryron technique for how to deal with limited or negative beliefs about yourself and your life. It doesn't really matter what method you, what matters is you find one that works for you and you can be consistent about it. Work on that aspect of yourself everyday. It's the EVERYDAY part that's important. Personally, I prefer meditation. Just sitting down, in silence with NOTHING but my mind. Letting my thoughts flow, observing them, questioning whether my thoughts and beliefs are true. Observing my thought patterns.

Next is your confidence. The BEST ways to BOOST your confidence is to invest in your health and your skills. Have a strong body. Work out, sleep well, eat well. You will automatically FEEL GOOD. You will have more energy and motivation. Then work on your craft. There is something you're good at, WORK on it. Master your craft, develop yourself. Push yourself, you will get stronger. Challenge yourself, embrace what's hard. The more you embrace what's hard in order to grow the easier your life will get.

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[amirahsufian]

Got anxiety = talk too much = people feel annoyed at you = more anxiety 🙂

[viru-]

I'm so glad that you mentioned anxiety. I've been dealing with social anxiety for most of my life and every day I regret how much I talk. It's nice to know that my feelings are validated haha

[Kjk]

I study psychology and you are right, people that didn't receive love and attention from their parents do talk more.

[oletamary]

i talk a lot because i have a really bad memory and so forget when ive already said something to someone before. then everyone just tells me to shut up so... i needed this video

[bkezszt]

I spent less than 24 hrs with a new friend and she rejected me because I talk too much. Really unfortunate because I really like her, but this is why I’m here today. Anxiety and low self esteem definitely contribute to incessant chatter. Being rejected doesn’t help the self esteem aspect.

[amirahsufian]

My friend: I’m jealous you are so confident and talkative
Me: I’m jealous that you can control your speech. I regret every word. Be greatful you are silent 😒

[Enheritance]

I definitely have anxiety and I find myself talking a lot. I also, had low self esteem as well. So I think I’m both. I was always ignored and stayed silent when I was younger while people always shut me down and that issue really hurt me. I wish I was loved more.

[Taylorstanek]

I’m an only child. I just talk so much because I don’t get to socialize at home with anyone

[cd_zr]

THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING ANXIETY!!!! I hate how people think, “Oh, anxiety means that you are quiet and reserved and never talk and shy, ” NO, there is NOT just one type of anxiety and anxiety can be in many forms and shapes, and I feel like people need to be more educated on that.

[meganyates]

this is completely me wow. i needed this video. i’ve been called out a bunch for being too talkative and this all makes sense

[marilynbradley]

I talk a lot because I actually think that people are interested in what I'm saying. I tried to be conscious of it for the sake of others and I usually let them do the talking if that is what they want to do. I just interject every now and then.

[tasnubaahasan]

This video perfectly describes me in almost every way. Somewhere in middle school and in high school, I talked unnecessarily. After a few years in college I have realized that it is okay to enjoy the silence and that I shouldn't feel the need to talk if I don't need to.

[ianeta]

Social anxieties doesn’t only mean you have trouble being around other people, or you feel nervous about talking to other people. It can also result in Tallinn too much which is what I struggle with a lot. Thank you for mentioning that, because it makes it feel like people understand.

[charlita]

Yup she nailed it. Those are both of the reasons I use to talk to much.

[stephaniegonzalez]

I feel like that i talk too much ans its hard to stop

[chalaniwasala]

I literally searched how to be less talkative coz I felt like my anxiety makes me so talkative and it made others so uncomfortable and annoyed and it made me so sad and I cried…and thank you for sharing this video

[nalaa]

I talk A LOT but I learned to master it over the years. I let the person talk first and hold myself back many times to not overshare and talk too much. I don't fill any silence forcefully and just let the conversation flow naturally, letting the person lead. Still very hard sometimes but I try to stay positive

[stephaniegonzalez]

I feel like my childhood turn me into this

[mandy]

Thank you. So glad I found this. My kids are the one who pointed out to me for talking too much. I thought maybe it was because they dont need me any more but it could be because of not getting enough attention when I was a kid.

[clairelove]

Omg I love you this helped me so much. You are exactly what I needed!!! You are amazing thank you for being you and helping me get out of my depression.