How to communicate effectively with a narcissist. #narcissism #narcissists #narcissist

[brainbomb.]

Communicating effectively with a narcissist is like standing with one foot on the seat of a unicycle, on top of a moving bus.

[chrissytina]

I absolutely love that you use scriptures to paint an accurate understanding. Very well said, God has told me this "don't cast your pearls before swine".

[georgerothenberger]

It’s called “ grey rock “. Minimal responses … bare minimum.

[ceceliadavis]

In my experience it is not worth it to keep trying for a relationship with a narc. Their style of communicating is a puzzle. So little time; so many games! Trying to understand them is too much work until you start researching and discover quite simply he's a jerk.

[kaytihodan-stqp]

Damn. That pearl before swine verse hits hard. How effective

[SkrewYouHippie]

I love the scriptural backing! Super helpful.

[gj]

Most amazing way I've seen regarding how to deal with such. Love the Biblical backing!!! Thank you

[invisibly]

My most effective mode of communication is written.

When I try to talk in person I get run in circles. Anytime I make my point it gets ignored and another topic gets brought up. When they do admit they were in the wrong, somehow it's my fault that they were in the wrong, or I'm a terrible person because they addmited that they were wrong but I didn't talk about any flaws of mine and things I should change about myself. Despite the topic being something they did that hurt me or caused issues for us.

[keithreese]

It seems like everyone who talks about the narcissist, say the same things. No one seems to get to the root of it, the CORE of it. I think the question is: what is it that you want to have and / or share with this person? That may be the question. Such a relationship with this personality isn't rewarding or fulfilling UNLESS you love drama; being manipulated by a technique that you didn't see coming; ZERO communication skills; ZERO passion, drive, motivation, or direction; someone with zero sense of responsibility; addictive personality; non supportive; lacks compassion (gets along better with animals than humans); you'll always ALWAYS be the one blamed for EVERYTHING; lacks consideration; pouts and has tantrums like a child (in fact, no matter one's age, they are an immature child inwardly); secretive / sneaky; no sense of loyalty in a relationship; is a liar; lazy; medical problems more than others; no sense of urgency or emergency; and (the list goes on), has nothing to contribute to YOUR life. You may even say to yourself: man, this person has zero redeemable qualities. Can you save them or help them? No; they're perfect... it's YOU (they will say) who has the issue. They're comfortable and content with what they are and HOW they are. What can you have or share with them? You want sex and more sex, that's what they offer. No amount of your love, care, being sensitive to their needs can reach them and that damaged level that they're running from and are resisting facing, and (good as your intentions may be) you CANNOT... Cannot save them. It's as if a section of their brain itself is shut off, dead, indifferent, and fear won't allow them to face themselves at such a deep level. Whatever it is that you could possibly have with such a personality trait like this, at best its partial and it's all about them and never you. You are only important so long as you support or you are there for them to use in some form or fashion. Your time is running out, and you do not even see it coming. More will be coming later in greater detail. I think such a mind / brain isn't capable of awareness... something is shut down. Let's go into that next time. Because I think help is available (if we care to help); it's the getting around their level of resistance, fear, running away from it, and not just repeating what other people are saying about. What is the cure as it were, if at all. Let's find out.

[lynnlicastro]

He does talk on and on and on, loving to hear his own words. Iv learned to keep backing up until he gets tired! Thanks for bibl

[SavingPrivateBob]

Trying to reconnect with my brother, a big-time narcissist, after an extremely abusive childhood. I've overcome a lot of my victimised feelings, become an incredibly strong man. I know I'm probably making a mistake trying to face him again, but I know when he's challenged he quivers. I'd rather not do that, but I might have to. I always remember that bible passage by the way

[janebraun]

I notice they don't like email, they don't want a lot written where they have to keep their written word, but they change a lot. Also they are a jumble of emotion, that they just can't effectively reason with you any way you try with them. Sad.

[monabarber]

The less You say, the better ! They will use anything against You ! They have to have Complete Drama or their not happy 😅

[MT-ekte]

especially at work.... set professional boundaries

[elkadosh]

If you have to interact with a narc best to have evidence based such as text or email, correspondence or taped convo. Written is best, it maintains distance and it's on your time.

[jb]

Ironically she presumes the narcissist is a man but statistically narcissism is more common in women.

[Paula-wgtw]

I am married to a narcissist. Some one said I should repent and ask the lord to remove the soul tie because you gave the demons legal ground when you came in agreement with the narcissist when you married them and your children is this true.

[victoriapalferez-siri]

Honestly I feel like that about lots of people.

[ronieGirl]

I loved just texting. I got everything out and he couldn't and usually wouldn't reply to it. Well until we was arguing and he would pick something I said to bring up. Even though "he never read them long as texts" I knew he had to know what I wrote and works read every word!

[cayotelives]

Do things your way and the time settings .they will hate it.