Understanding ADHD 🤯 #adhdbrain #neurodivergent #adhd

[_Potato_Salad]

Two brains working against eachother is a perfect description. I swear one half of the brain takes over at any random moment in the day

[kotzreiz]

I have ADHD and autism... I sometimes think I have 10 brains working against each other

[rainfallen]

As an ADHDer, you hit the nail on the head! This is my daily life. Especially the crisis bit.

I cannot begin to tell you how often I'm the rock of comfort and peacekeeper when friends are in crisis mode, but I will flip my lid when I encounter the smallest of inconveniences and get immediately overstimulated

[pinstripesuitandheels]

Before I knew ADHD could be so invasive, I used to say I wish I had a personal assistant for adulting.

[jeniferdankyi]

i’m sitting here, crying, listening to this. I have an appointment coming up for testing. I’ve always thought I was just a crazy, mess of a person for no reason. then my son got diagnosed four months ago, my eyes were open to the inattentive side of ADHD

[theryuyami]

This is a perfect description of what goes on with me all the time. I literally could not have put it better myself.

[alirak]

For "hate structure but can't function without it" the best way I found is FLEXIBLE schedule. Like, you have one, you'll get nice things following it, but it also wouldn't ruin your life if you miss a day or two or need to take a longer break bc brain decides to shut down or some such. It's also centered on necessary things like "this hour is food and the next four is whichever, work or hobbies, but you gotta swap them for the after lunch". So you still got freedom to not trigger "I have to do it so now I can't" but things get done anyway and you can get your choice of pleasurable stimulation as you need it.

[peterclarke]

Trying to understand myself as an ADHDer, I always think back to the jobs I was happiest in, and they were ALWAYS the jobs where I had a simple set of tasks, like "move these vast amounts of various things from these pallets to their respective shelves in this warehouse" but I was not told HOW to do it or what order to do it in, and nobody was looking over my shoulder telling me I was doing it wrong.

I instantly turned those jobs into a game called "speed and efficiency." my role was to work out the quickest, most energy-efficient way to achieve a simple but monumental task, and I LOVED it.

I had structure, but not so much that it stifled my creativity, I had instant reward gratification because I could SEE the shelves filling and the pallets emptying, and I had a time limit to race against, with nothing to distract me unless, glory be, we had ANOTHER DELIVERY, which I didn't interpret as more work, I interpreted as progressing to level two 😂

My boss could never understand why I always approached my work with a big grin on my face, and finished my shift with a BIGGER grin, but my boss realised I was ridiculously happy and was smashing the heck out of my tasks, so he'd just leave me to it.

It's been my life's mission to find another job like that, because I've only ever been as happy when I've got my nose stuck into a pile of history books, and academia is a tough gig to crack into and it requires more effort and towing the line more than I'm willing to give.

[lilyblossom]

I never thought about it like being two brains working against each other, but honestly? Accurate

[PlanataTime]

Nicely put. The only difference for me is that I can clean & do it well but I’m an all or nothing kind of person that often lacks motivation to clean properly as it can be overwhelming so I do nothing even though I hate mess & clutter. 😫😒
On another note, it must be wonderful to have such an understanding NT partner.

[TheBetterAdultProject]

Would love to see some videos from Rich talking about how you take care of your needs as a partner of someone with ADHD. The way you're supportive is absolutely amazing, but how do you navigate what you need? I think it would be super helpful for partners of people with ADHD. Afterall, its not just about catering to those with ADHD, but making sure you are both getting what you need, which is a challenge in any relationship. Thanks for all your great videos!

[MichalaMartin]

OMG this is how I describe my brain. I'm constantly telling my fiance that my brain and I are constantly in conflict!! I also tell people that the thoughts in my brain are basically a snow globe that never settles.

[mommat]

THANK I've literally just had this EXACT same conversation with my Mum!! I can't thank you enough for confirming these things! You and Rox are amazing and have helped me understand myself more in 1 year than I could figure out in 50. I just adore you both! Thank you again and again, a thousand You🫂💜🫶

[angelasfixations]

This is my favorite of the growing number of ADHD channels because they really embrace it and understand it. I feel like most others are either just funny relatable things or a bunch of ideas on how to "fix" or "force" yourself to function to society's parameters better. Rich and Rox just accepted it and figured out how to make life work *with* ADHD.

[AidansCars]

You hit the nail directly on the head. I'm constantly fighting with myself and it makes me lose so much motivation

[eveningjaguar]

convinced. CONVINCED. At this point there’s nothing I can deny. I’ve even been directly told, in person, by someone with ADHD, “Yeah you’ve got ADHD.”
The executive dysfunction, the hyperfocusing on the “wrong” things, the worst memory unless it’s weird unimportant info, being either restless or exhausted no in between, EVERYTHING.

It does NOT help that I am in college 🧍 The workload drives me insane. Finishing up my second freshman semester and it just makes sense that I have ADHD. That *that* is what has been throwing my life at a narrow pole and hoping to hit it

[woodcats]

Spot on!! Any advice for the hating-structure thing? I've got untreated ADHD and no proper support so I'm grateful for any advice. People keep trying to organise me and telling me I need routines, but I get a sort of crazy claustrophobia as soon as I feel any hint of being stuck in a routine (seriously, giving me a routine is like putting a cat in a basket to take it to the vet). (Also, thank you both soooo much for all your brilliant videos!).

[gingerleamcwow]

Sometimes I watch your shorts and will laugh my butt off at the hilarity that ensues with you guys. And sometimes I bawl like a baby because it feels like you're the first and only 2 people on the planet who understands me. I'd love tips on what to do if you're stuggling but haven't gotten an official diagnosis yet. Phone anxiety plus intense fear of doctors keeps me from setting up appointments and I have no idea how to make that first step for getting treatment. I'm so afraid that I'll be looked at suspiciously and everyone will think I'm "doctor shopping" or something. It's the most irrational thought I've every had to deal with but I don't know how to get past it 😢

[bonnacon]

The two brain comment is exactly right, which is why we need to recruit other brains to serve, or at least augment, ours, like plugging in an external hard drive. This is why body doubling works too - someone else is holding the space for you so you can work in it.

[haeleysundin]

“It’s like they have 2 brains working against each other.”
😭😭😭 I got diagnosed at 6 and now at 30 I’m learning to put the words to my symptoms and experiences. Thank you so much for your videos. Watching them has brought me the most validation I’ve ever felt in my life. ADHD is NOT a choice and it’s NOT something I can snap out of. The things that might be an annoyance or inconvenience for you are trenches for me to fall in and climb out of every day just TRYING to function in the same world as everyone else