5 Things You Should Know About Dating a Divorced Guy

5 Things You Should Know About Dating a Divorced Guy

This video is all about dating divorced men. Now I happen to be a man, but I'm not divorced. Man, I wish I knew someone who is an expert on divorce.

Adam, I'm your mother. I'm a divorce attorney.

Yes, it's true for those of you who don't know my mother and the adultery is a divorce attorney. So we decide to put our heads together to talk more about this particular topic and the five things that you need to know about dating a divorced guy. Keep watching.

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No one is that he might be a little bit dishonest about why the divorce happened in the first place.

Divorces can get very ugly, and many people don't even want to talk about how the divorce happened. But you need to know something about how it happened.

Now look this isn't going to be like the first-date conversation, but as you start progressing in the relationship getting into that six months to a year, it's important for you to know what happened because of this one concept. History repeats itself. All right so you need to start getting a little bit of an understanding of what happened in that divorce and whether he's learned from that experience.

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Number two is realizing that his ex is probably going to be a part of his life moving forward.

This is especially true if there are children involved. It is essential that you begin to understand the dynamics of the relationship between the children and you and the ex-spouse. It may be necessary in some situations to meet the ex-spouse so that you can begin to bridge a relationship regarding the children.

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Another thing you should know about dating a divorced man is that marriage might be the last thing on his mind right now.

A divorce can be very traumatic, and in some cases, people are not ready until a certain period passes. You never know how long it is. So be patient.

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Number four is he could be jaded about relationships altogether.
Sometimes the divorce makes it very difficult to trust, and the person might be only seeing the worst in everybody around him for quite a while.

And look this can be tricky because sometimes we bring past relationships to our new relationships. And he might go into this so jaded that he assumes you're as bad as his ex. So you need to prove him wrong, and you need to start building that trust as well throughout the process as he needs to be open to a new relationship as well. So be patient throughout all of this and realize that it could take a little time.

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Finally, number five is that he could really be an excellent match for you. Just because someone's divorced doesn't mean that they're flawed or damaged.

Sometimes a divorce just happens, and in fact, relationship experience can be a good thing. So long as he's learned every single step of the way he could be a fantastic match for you moving forward. Be sensitive to your own needs as well as his needs. It's very, very important to keep in mind that you count as well as his needs.

There are five things that you should know if you're dating and divorce man. I'd love to hear from you. Have you ever dated a divorced guy? Leave a comment right there below and don't forget to like comment subscribe to this channel everything because we'd love to hear from you.

[angelfriend]

This is very ironic: you help people get together, your mother helps people get separated! Thanks for the great advice!!

[CatEyedGoddess]

I am 42, never been married, no kids . I dated 2 divorced guys, one with kids, one without. One of the worse mistakes I have ever made. Both of these guys were all messed up. The one with no kids was divorced for over 5 years and was still hung up. The other one just played with my head and emotions. Thank God I never got married!

[eugenielee]

I'm dating a divorce man at the moment. I find him to be all that a woman needs. He's one of those gentlemen who didn't bring their previous baggage into our relationship. I'm grateful for his love.

[TheTropics]

The only men in my age pool (50+) are divorced and jaded! Most if them either have not dealt with their ex wife issues, or they only want casual sex, or they have such an emotional wall up from the past, they run if they start getting too emotionally close. It's very discouraging. 😢

[ShelleyG]

I dated one. We went on one date only and talked for about 3 months. He was rushing all the steps and was attempting to wife me up almost immediately. Red flag 🚩

[suchandradebnath]

Yes I dated a divorce guy.. and I am really happy to having him in my life. He is a great man. He always pampered me like a queen, support my every decision, too much care about me and my career, always want to know my opinion thoughts etc, he handling my anger issues and mood swings also.. and at the end he love me unconditionally. I'm really lucky to having him in my life as my future partner ..

[beautifulstranger]

Don’t date a divorced man who is just got out or in process. It takes longer for men to recover emotionally. Usually about a couple of years or so. I always ask how long he had been divorced, if it’s less than that, I am out. I don’t want to get myself involved in a such drama.

[NikD]

Dating a divorced guy?! LOL!!! It's been my experience that the ones with children (even in college) have zero time to date. Between work, having the kids on the weekends and the ex wife still pulling the strings esp. when it's our 1 day a week date night, they want to date but can't. I really really really liked him but I was the 5th wheel and the ex wife still had all the control and power. Example: Thursdays was our day, we were getting ready for a little hot and heavy and boom the phone rings. The ex wife demanded he come over and pick their daughter up to take her to soccer practice. The ex wife works from home and could have done it herself. But, him being a great dad, zipped it up and did as he was told. So, I had to move on back to being single and looking with a note to NEVER DATE A MAN WITH KIDS AND AN EX WIFE.

[donnachong]

Great advice! More videos with your mom. What a great team! I dated a divorced man but he had a dismissive avoidant attachment style blowing hot and cold. Watch for red flags and guard your time carefully!

[Skorpia]

I have a few guy friends that got divorced. They jumped into other girls. Literally. No time alone to process and heal. They were all traumatized and just wanted sex. I knew it was gonna backfire on them. They even tried to get with ME😳 i was disgusted. They weren't thinking straight and I was appalled they didn't care about how I was going to be affected. They were strictly friendzoned. I saw too much. I was turned all the way off.

[Chydova]

I have met a divorced man (no children) who is interested in me. He seems very kind and have great values and I feel a sense of peace
But with all the comments below, now I don't know if I'm doing the right thing...

[ashleygriffin]

No one ever talks about divorce and kids when it comes to dating/relationships. I have been wanting and hoping, for so long, that someone would start the conversation. Thanks so much. I hope to see more on this topic.

[barbieshs]

Something I would add, you'll be 2nd priority and must be ok with it.

[LoveDianeBE]

Thank you so much for this video. I’m divorced and I don’t know how I will ever be in another relationship. I was married for 9 years. I’m 34y/o and think I’m still kind of young. But learning so I don’t repeat any past mistakes. Keep these divorces videos coming please.

[stellae]

I’m in the middle of a divorce. We have been separated for several years. He’s 43, his girlfriend is 27. He began dating her immediately. He needed to fill that void. He has always kept her at arms length. She’s safe he says. Yes safe because he doesn’t care very deeply about her & if he lost her, he wouldn’t be that hurt. Yet he keeps her around & she has recently moved in with him. I would never tell her this but he has told me several times that he doesn’t really care about her. He said he needs someone to care about him. Ladies out there reading this...if you date a divorced man, make sure he has taken the time to process the breakup. Especially if it also meant ending a family. He will absolutely be willing to slide you into that role yet you could possibly be disposable to him if he hasn’t done his work. I haven’t dated a ton, though I have dated a bit. Being 42 I obviously date divorced men. It is quite difficult mainly because divorced men in their 40’s hermit! We can’t find you. What do you do after work or on the weekends? When you’re ready, where do we meet you?

[kibuladesire]

No. 6, When Both you're divorced, you have your passed baggage, you don't focus on your partner being perfect you just act in a perfect way, because you both have experience of what ruined your relationships. Otherwise it was good to see a mum and a son in this video. Many thanks.

[amandastickney]

I have dated several divorced men. The only drawback is that I have come across men that don't like the fact that I am trying to personally grow, so it never works out. I know I'll find the right guy when they are happy with me constantly trying to learn.

[alimabaca]

Yup, I dated two divorcees. Both very angry. One went on-and-on about his ex. After a while, I jokingly called him Cinderfella. I found out he was an alcoholic who disappeared out if my life. The second one was abuser, player who still disrespects women (baggage).

[santamaria]

Dated one. He turned out be a playerrr

[DesertEdgeLegal]

No thanks! If he is divorced and has a toxic ex in his life or small children still at home, that's a hard pass. I'm not interested in proving anything to a man ... it's a woman's world now and it's not all about men and what they want anymore.