I tried to socialise this summer, it’s a no for me

[cherry]

Things to do outside on your own:
1. Walk/run with headphones
2. Read a book
3. Library, art gallery, museum, pools
4. Pack a picnic
5. Listen to podcast, audio book
6. Journaling- your goals, feelings, go back and read your growth
7. Learn on your phone - language, skill
8. Window shopping
9. Buy a coffee - different flavor and shop each time
10. Gym - start a new plan or body goal
11. Take selfies and vlog, share it or for yourself and look back to see your growth

Adding more:
12. Photography of new area
13. Take new route to find new things
14. Draw/sketch buildings, people
15. Outside yoga/meditation in a park
16. Relax on the beach, using headphone or book
17. Clothes and makeup try on
18. Visit food stalls
19. Pick a food - coffee, ice cream, and try the same food at different places
20. Catch train or bus to a different town
21. Share your explorations with online friends, vlog or journal so people exploring your city can also find hidden gems
22. Online review places

Edit: I'm so happy it's helpful to many people ☺ adding more:
23. Working on laptop in cafes, parks (content creation, remote job etc)
24. Vlogging for content
25. Creating faceless marketing content
26. E-scooter/skating/bike riding ❤
27. Horse riding
28. Kayak hire on beach for 1 hour
28. Walking/jogging daily goal
29. Go and get pizza, enjoy it anywhere
30. Selling crafts/baking at market (its not really solo but it's your own stand)
31. A carry-around craft like knitting a scarf, crochet you can do when bored
32. Planting seeds at community garden
33. Discover your local attractions, zoo, botanic gardens
34. Writing - reflections, poems, lyrics, thoughts
35. Watercolor/ paint portable set to make art in outdoor setting

Adding some things over this summer(southern hemisphere)

36. Hire e-bike, follow trails and tracks
37. Digital drawing on pad/tablet, learn step by step and draw things outside
38. Photography of nature, landscape, building... pick a focus/interest and photograph it consistently, insta it
39. Mindfulness - practice mindfulness in peaceful place, and what thoughts you're having alone. Stay positive ✨
40. Driving - go for a little drive, learn to drive if you don't - explore
41. Dog walking - offer walking others' dogs or get a doggy
42. Farmers Market - visit the market, enjoy local food, sell your own crafts
43. Dress up day - go out get your nails/hair/clothing haul, you don't always need a friend, just be confident
44. Language - do a lot of the above in your new target language for 2025
45. Event finder - various events you can attend alone, and if you're interested meet new friends
46. Bodyboard/boogie board ... at the beach
47. Practice confidence in spending time alone, interacting with others, your model walk 🕺💃🏽
48. Study - bring your homework or study outside of the home to a park with people, cafe or library. Upskill with free online courses if you aren't a student
49. Fishing- great hobby for spending time alone, bit of a learning curve
50. Ice skating at rink (or wherever they skate in cold countries idk)
51. 2025 goal setting in journal
52. Brekky, lunch or dinner - you will pick one and then find a place to eat out on a date with yourself
53. Book a tour

The more time you spend the more you'll get confident and growth.
Some of these are repeated and can be inside/outside


Stay safe and happy ❤

[FruityHachi]

I used to not wanna socialize because of social anxiety, but now I don't want to socialize because people are awful, selfish, narcs, lack empathy and basic manners, only wanting to use me for something

[paigerobinson]

Socialising is absolutely exhausting, being alone is the best thing I ever chose, no family, no friends, I only have a therapist and I'm the happiest I've ever been, the people I was around were constantly negative and complaining and didn't show an ounce of Gratitude for life

[madithebaristar]

so real, being a nice person feels like punishment in this world full of liars

[Kiana_nana]

Thanks for sharing this so the rest of us don’t feel alone because exactly same. I’ve been hurt way too many times and now I don’t like people and I rarely socialize. People suck. But hearing this made me feel a lot better so I know I’m not the only one. ❤️❤️

[Sl]

I used to feel that way about ppl but I realized it was how I was seeing it. When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. -Wayne Dyer

[Aishibangspecs]

i am student and i tried to socialize in school and i got friends. Now in the middle of july they all left and they all talk sh*t about me. I just can't understand why i 'came friends with 'em but i am enjoying own company right now.

AN EAGLE ALWAYS FLY ALONE AND SMALL BIRDS FLY WITH GROUPS 💗

[humanity_isFaithful_to_god]

Yesterday i saw your people pleaser topic, and it hit me hard i do a lot, i avoid making friends because of this artitude that anyone can overburden me with tons of emotion, but i started i also reading dr gabor mate thoughts, he said our behavious are normal because society is completely a toxic culture, its hard to stay positive, so better heal whichever way works for every individual

[livforluv]

1. make people feel important

- when you are talking to someone have your full attention to them. make them feel important and useful

2. practice active listening - don’t listen to respond, try to understand what they’re saying

- you have to listen to them as if they are the first people you’ve ever seen as if you’re falling in love with them

3. work on your communication skills

- you’re really good at communicating if you can explain what you want to explain to a 5 yk old

- you have to break down your words. don’t explain with big words. ones that people can understand

- you have to learn how to make your thoughts make sense to everyone so that everyone will understand

4. learn about body language

- when you’re sitting towards someone make sure you’re actually sitting towards them not to the side as well as never turn your feet away from them bc this seems like you’re not interested in them and want to leave

5. make sure your hands are visible

- people are less likely to trust you when your hands aren’t visible

6. look people in the eyes

- it shows confidence, and comfort when you’re with them

- if you can’t look them in the eyes look between the eyebrows

7. have the ability to adjust to different people and situations

- if you’re talking to a very religious person you can’t tell them the same things that you say to a non-religious person; it will not be received the same way it can arouse arguments

- if you’re in a conflict learn to adapt to the person. not everyone is the same

8. we are more attracted to people that behave like us

- we are more attracted to people that behave the same way as us

9. look for similarities and point them out

- example: if they say I love horses, say that you also love them (if you don’t like it don’t say you do love them)

- when you point similarities out they will think “oh we’re a good match”

10. mirror what people are telling to you back to them (don’t use this in a conversation too much, it’ll be obvious)

- if they say for example, I went to a farm, remember what they said and later in a conversation say oh and that thing you said how you went to a farm..

- this will make them feel like you are listening to them

11. say exactly what you mean

- saying what you mean causes less fights more understanding, etc

- say it in a nice way though don’t be hostile don’t be aggressive

12. don’t reveal everything about yourself

- the reason why people can be so mesmerizing is bc they’re mysterious

- privacy is very important, sometimes people may misinterpret you or create something fake about you

- not everyone is to be trusted. watch what you say to who you say

13. pick your battles wisely

- would you rather be right or happy

- if the argument is over something stupid don’t engage in it. you protect your energy and walk away

- if you want to talk about it, talk about it later when the person is calm

14. don’t argue in public, create scenes

- if a person comes shouting at you in public, make sure you don’t lose your emotions

- don’t say anything until they calmed down. then you say that you don’t appreciate them shouting at you in public and resolve the issue

- never let anyone catch you screaming, fighting, arguing at someone in public

15. make a daily effort to talk to people of the opposite gender

- have a small conversation with 2 people of the opposite sex whoever it is just talk to them

16. look like you love yourself

- just looking clean and groomed is enough

17. eat like you love yourself

- put good nutrients in you, drink enough, etc.

18. understand that first impression is based on your appearance

- if you look clean, people will see that you respect yourself

19. heal your traumas with hypnotherapy

- if you look lighter (all that baggage is gone from you, you will more attractive, like a vibrating light

20. remember the things people tell you

- It makes them feel heard, important

21. have a great sense of humour

- understand sarcasm and have sarcasm and humour but also if someone disrespects you don’t laugh at it and tell them you don’t like it

22. go cold when someone disrespects you

- when someone disrespects you don’t entertain them. don’t give them any of your time, energy, nothing

- especially if you tell them many times to not disrespect you, get out.

23. be unpredictable

- “Don’t talk about your goals, but show up with results”

24. practice dancing

- when a woman is more in touch with her body, she’s more confident

25. become comfortable in who you are and how unique you are

- don’t strive to be someone else or look at them like you should be them. You should be comfortable in who you are

- what you feel comfortable in what you like, etc is what also makes you mesmerizing

- this doesn’t mean you should become lazy and stop doing wtvr, strive to be the best but be comfortable in who you are

26. walk talk and act like you’re the biggest blessing on earth

- the brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and what you’re telling your brain

- when you enter a room, you bless it because of your presence

27. be confident and humble

- I don’t think I’m better than anyone, but I don’t compare myself to anyone else.

- I think I am the biggest blessing on earth but that doesn’t mean I care who is another blessing

28. do not talk bad about yourself

- if anyone is going to give me love, it’s going to be me.

- don’t be hard on yourself, don’t be mad at yourself for doing something wrong, it’s only going to make you feel worse about yourself. you know what you did wrong, learn from that and how you can get better

29. don’t be known for any addictions

- when we want to feel like we belong somewhere or have connections that we don’t have atm we start to have addictions or overdose to feel like we belong

30. change your environment and look for people to connect with

- instead of taking overdose or having a bad addiction start changing who you hang out with, what you do, where you go, what you watch, etc.

31. let people meet you at your level

- do not go down for people, you will pay for doing that

- they should look at you to strive and see you as inspiration, going down with them is no good where you were is amazing they should meet you at your level and continue being friends or not at all

[emllurenews]

“I really dont wanna go outside now, this is the outfit” 😂😂 such a mood

[ReinaSanchez]

I feel you sis hahah!! I just want to read and be at home! I only go out for a walk in nature and to the beach. I moved to a very small town with less people. I used to feel exhausted when I lived in Madrid.

[alishkaduwadi]

She is so relatable. Liz never stop being you💖🙏

[twinkincarnate]

working remotely is a blessing but also tricky because i physically have to force myself to go outside each time, because it is so overwhelming for me, but i typically end up enjoying it when i do!! you’re not alone girlie❤

[jasminjamshi]

Ur motivation made me so better tysm mgbu❤❤

[AndreyaWryght]

Lol the minutes you said, I don't like people and I don't to go outside....I just 😂😂. It's crazy how many of us feel like this now. Thank you for sharing I feel better knowing I'm not the only one x

[Aisahahmahm]

I genuinely love her from da bottom of mah heart 💎🫶🏾

[jeannettesmith]

You could make the simplest outfit look extravagant 💕 keep slaying

[thomasstegner]

I love observing social settings but it’s something about minding my own business that feels great

[dietcokenclout]

Same queen, same. Just stay in your castle until people know how to deal with you. Trust 👑 💅🏾💎🔮🔥🐍🌙💖

[SoniaSansouna]

i can totally relate... social anxiety is a thing. and you are achiving alot still.