Why be trans?

[Trixie_Lavender]

"You're just trans for the attention." I can assure you, Karen, my shy butt wants anything but attention

[HorsesCowsWELSHGOATS]

I’m genderfluid, so the whole “convince myself I’m cis” thing runs through my mind every single time I’m feeling femme

[tuberculosisterrence]

“Hello yes I would like less rights and worse pockets please”

[SomeGalNamedEve]

"Why be trans?"
I'm thinking the exact same thing. Who the hell would _want_ to be put through all this? I'm just trying to live my life the best I can with all the crap that inherently comes with being trans, and as if all that isn't bad enough, people are wishing me dead for it.

[FrozEnbyWolf]

The irony is that before I came out, I did find myself envious of trans influencers and the trans people I know. I felt like being trans would answer so many questions in my life and give me a clearer path forward, as opposed to feeling stuck in a rut for the rest of my life. I admired trans people for their courage and creativity, and how they stood up in defiance of social norms and hierarchies. And now that I'm out, I still do.

[imarandomperson]

The fact that I can't even look at or hear my deadname without feeling genuine mental dread is not a choice, at least I don't think it is 💀

[silversleeper]

I think of this every time someone says being LGBTQ+ is a “fad.” Like there are so many easier bandwagons to jump on, if I just wanted to be trendy I’d go drop my lifesavings on a Stanley cup or something

[jostorys]

When impostor sydrome kicks hard and I tell my boyfriend, he'll start calling me "his little girl" or "princess" until I cringe too hard and tell him to shut up and switch back lmao

[glenngriffon]

"What made you choose to be trans?"
"What made you choose to be born white?"
"I didn't choose, i was born this way."
"Great, so now you understand why I'm trans then."

[autumn_k]

I still get this trope that being trans is a way of escaping the stigma of being gay (from people who have no clue what my sexual orientation actually is).

I love it because it really highlights the lack of thought put into their worldview. Like, 'hey, to escape this venomous snake pit, let me just drag myself uphill though a minefield by my tongue and slip into the safety and comforting warmth of a pool of lava."

It's just a lateral move from stigma to stigma (only with a heck ton of extra steps for many of us).

[laurelgardner]

People will say "clout."



Don't get me wrong, a lot of people are supportive and it's nice, but no, it does not outweigh the bullshit. What outweighs the bullshit is not having to live with dysphoria and incongruence anymore.

[fyrefighter]

Such truth. When I was in my doubting stage, I read something that said “list the reasons why you’re cis”… and it was history after that.

[stinkylittleguy]

Hey Jamie! This short came up on my shorts feed right as I'm contemplating how to tell my mom I am trans at a dinner. I think this reasoning is both sound for unsure eggs, but also people that may think being trans is a choice. (my mom for one)
Just wanted you to know your videos have helped me find who I am and give me the courage to allow others to see me as the human I've come to love. Thank you 🧡🏳️‍⚧️

[SatsukiChiruka]

My mom found the binders I secretly bought a few months ago and she started saying the same thing, telling me I wasn't trans because I wasn't ever telling her I was as a child, and she keeps denying it and tries to convince me I'm cis and my thought is, why would I want to pretend to be cis and wanna kill myself instead of be authentically trans and happier than ever?

[ShegrasiRegalis]

I don't think I ever went through the denial phase. I knew who I was before I knew trans healthcare was an option. The only thing stopping me was my parents firm belief that I was their perfect child. I let myself sink into depression and suicidal thoughts at 7 years old because I wanted them to be happy more than I wanted to be alive.

At 27 years old I came out to my partner, siblings, and PCP. My life has become infinitely better. For the first time in my life, depression and anxiety disappeared. The dizzy spells and fatigue faded away. I'm finally able to put on healthy weight and can lift things more than 20lbs. I moved up in management because my job performance improved; top marks in everything.

The only downside? Shoulder achne and trolls asking me what the definition for "woman" is. 😂

To me, the trade off is worth it. I can easily imagine how useless living would feel if I never came out, or if I came out but was rejected by family and friends that I trusted. I was dying slowly. Rotting away from the inside out. And now that I finally have the cure, trolls online are trying to say I should go back to being sick because it's "natural".

I no longer consider those opinions worth taking seriously. Now, I just point and laugh. 😂

[imnotsuspiciousshh]

My doubtful thoughts about "what if I'm just pretending to be trans because it's trendy?" died quickly after I realized I HATE people who say that being trans is "trendy"

[Reversesymmetry]

I was in denial for a long time too. After I had accepted I was trans I ready Elliot Page’s memoir and he makes a comment that’s something to the effect of “I felt like if I practiced enough eventually I’d be good as being a girl” as if being a girl was something of a skill or sport and I just wasn’t good at it and… yeah no, that solidified my trans experience.

[AzazelGrimshadow]

Yeah because being forced to go to a priest, having an exorcism preformed on me and then excommunicated by family when that didn't work is what i wanted right? 😂

[tarablyinspired]

When I was 14, a teacher explained that if it was legitimately a choice, wouldn't most people choose to be straight over being gay with how the world treats them? That made so much sense to me at the time and I don't get how fully grown adults can't grasp this concept yet.

[SawBSketch]

"Being trans is a choice!"

If it was, I sure as hell would choose to not even consider it as a possibility, but here my genderfluid ass is hopping between pocket dimensions.