Status: How to Win by being a Pathetic Loser

How do you take advantage of status?
This video is a guest post, a typical WIL video is coming up soon.

[Deanriley]

I was taught when young in my profession by a wise head of the organization that when anyone came in angry and wanting some sort of satisfaction (higher or lower in status, doesn’t matter) ask them, “What is it you want me to do?” That appears to give them the power and nearly always deflates the situation; in my experience the person usually is flabbergasted and can’t really answer. They’ve come ready to battle, but if you take away the grounds for battle it changes the dynamic; you are then perceived as accommodating and reasonable, so no need to battle. I never changed what I was doing or planned to do, but the person felt heard.

[Devinfrbs]

Treating everyone as high status even if they're displaying low status oddly also raises yours in the eyes around you usually. Humans are weird.
It's like "He's so high status that he doesn't have to care".

[cathalsurfs]

The trick to winning an interview, is to not need the job.

[Sitaaraa]

My husband taught me this super invaluable skill when we got married. He's a nuclear scientist and dresses like a bum for this exact same reason. He won't answer when my Asian relatives ask him what he does for a living, and it drives his parents nuts that he won't flaunt his achievements. Thanks so much for putting the whole thing into words!! I shared the video with my hubby :)

[WhatIveLearned]

Note: If you’re already a Winner, becoming a Pathetic Loser is not recommended. | | This video is a guest post by a good friend of mine - if you enjoyed this then go and sub to his channel for when he puts out the next video!

[obi-wankenobi]

I knew a Korean War vet who was captured by enemy at Chosen, all other prisoners were killed. They put him in a pit, so he started acting like a dog, barking and crawling around. Instead of killing him, the N Koreans put him in a leash and made him their pet. He was eventually transferred to prison camp and released. Amazing guy

[JohnMoseley]

Some cops once said they were going to arrest me because they'd seen me give the finger to a car driver while I was cycling. I'm not sure how I worked this out, but I went into an act of being abjectly, almost tearfully apologetic, assuring them this wasn't the sort of thing I'd usually do, pleading etc. They laughed and sent me on my way. It was a power game for them, and it amazed me that their desire for status had made them so easily played.

[kamikeserpentail]

You're not supposed to admit to aiming for low status.

But being written off as a non-threat is exactly what a ninja wants.

[celecirion]

the easiest way to lower someone's status is to put DJ in front of his name,

[Papada]

"It is dangerous to be the tallest tree, because it will be the first one to get cut down."

[TheMegaGamingWizard]

"How to win by being a pathetic loser."
Me: Go on...im listening.

[GuRuGeorge]

in the company that I work at my "leaders" are almost "too kind" which often makes me invest more than I should. But it has become a very beneficial cycle for all of us. We do more work than we should and they treat us better and better (not just financially), which in turn ups productivity again and so forth. So far it doesn't seem to have a limit. The company has grown multiple 100% in the last 12 months alone. It's fascinating what can happen if everyone realizes that they are steering the same boat

[momdalmutairi]

I think in general, the more comfortable you look or feel (because it’s difficult to act like you’re comfortable) the higher your status .
Feeling comfortable in a situation, place, meeting etc..comes from experience . So the more experienced you are the more comfortable you feel and you tend to have a higher status

[exposedpath]

I used to live with this dude that played fortnite quite a bit, and he eventually became the best in our house. His constant gloating became annoying so I started to say something like - "Max is the best fortnite player in the house. Everyone, give him a round of applause". Literally after that conversation, we never heard him gloat again because, his status had been lowered by universal recognition of that achievement. Im glad to find a video that kind of explains it so well.

[soapmode]

Seeking status is to ask the world to make you happy. Instead lower your stress and find peace by slowing down, meditating, and connecting within. A person who is calm and loves themselves will effortlessly garner the respect of others, other than the insane.

[constantinotiniacos]

The wise one lows himself to the position of the person he is speaking with, this sign of detachment means also a very low level of running cortisol. It means I don't care, I am at peace and with nothing to lose. Maybe that's why it feels to the watcher as if the person is invulnerable, and is a curious fact that this fearless state Lao Tzu calls being "inmortal".

[ogito]

Self-deprecating joke about how low my status is in real life aimed at producing approval from internet strangers.

[augustgreig]

I always interpreted that "Godfather" scene as the Dom being offended that the guy would offer him money on the day of his daughters wedding when he should know that the Don can not refuse a favor on that day. He should have realized that he was invited there for a reason. He should have understood how the mafia operates, that they have a culture, and offering him money was almost vulgar.

The Don obviously wanted the guy as a "friend", and you have to understand what a "friend". It's someone who will cooperate with the mob for anything they ask, and in turn, they will protect him from other criminals and may even involve him in some money making racquet. If he had took the money, that'd b the end of it. But by being his "friend" and doing him a "favor", he will now owe the Don a favor in return, which coul be anything, and he will be unable to refuse.

That's just my take on it. Don was welding his status rather effectively.

[JoHn-gilb]

Trying to become more powerful by acting high status is like trying to become rich by buying expensive things lol

[soultekkamusic]

I love how the we all end up at the same status as dead