9 Things I Wish I Knew As A Christian Bride | PART FOUR #divorce #marriage #toxicrelationships

Hey there! My name is Christal and I am here to share the lessons that I learned from a very challenging marriage and divorce. The purpose of this series is to HELP people and remind them they aren't alone in tough situations. While I am sharing from a Christian point of view, I believe wisdom can be gleaned from my lessons learned regardless of your faith status. I truly hope this helps. God bless. Love you.

[shannonstokes]

This was super brave and helpful.
Thank you for sharing.

I’m SO using, “I wish you good health and better choices.” for every problematic child of God I encounter henceforth and forevermore!

[WriterofWorlds]

I'm ngl that switch up sounds terrifying. At that point, you gotta sleep with one eye open. I see why you did what you did. I see a lot of myself in you because I also had blamed myself in a relationships when I was clearly trying to do right by them. The self-flagellation is real. We will carry the blame for something that was never our fault in the first place

[charliewhitedirector]

This whole series is such a WORD!!! It needs to be a whole curriculum in churches

[WriterofWorlds]

Wow. That was a lot. Im glad you made it through all of that.
Part of the reason why i think he switched up so fast is because he realized it was cheaper to keep her but it was too late because the damage had already been done. I know it wasnt easy to share with all you been going through. Seems like there was some psychological manipulation going on. I learned a lot from this as a man and a christian. Thnx for sharing this. I'm glad you found peace and you're better and not bitter

[WriterofWorlds]

This whole series reminds me of that good times episode where Florida wanted to get her high school diploma and James didn't want her to because he felt threatened.

She said something to the effect of "I don't want to walk ahead of you, but I don't want to walk behind you either. I want to walk beside you". Even though men are supposed to lead in some way, I think we should all lead according to our strengths as another person told me. Playing off of each other's good qualities leads to a healthier relationship I think.

[ziyoghoyengesoko]

❤ you're so strong for sharing.
I'm 32 and unmarried( never been). I run a great business and i sometimes i fear finding a partner who wouldn't allow me to bemyself entirely with them.
You're a gem❤

[HilaryFokwa]

I’m so sorry you went through that, but so happy that you made it to the other side. You are so wise! Thank you for sharing your story

[GenXfrom]

You’re helping people out there, Christal. Thank you for your openness and vulnerability ❤❤❤✝️💜

[tamarar]

I’m so happy you are out that jam. When you find your true love it will make all of this even more of a testimony than it already is and not necessarily for others, but for you. Love you sis

[emilianojaramillorodriguez]

Its so powerful to see such a funny youtuber do a video as serious as this, and honestly, I sent you my best feelings and wish you to get the most peaceful, beautiful and fulfilling known to humanity ❤

[daniellemitchell]

You are so kind. You don't badmouth your ex-husband, just speak your truth. But I can read between the lines and figure out he was a mess. You are so gracious to not expose him.God bless you. 🙏🏾

[themoralcode]

Christal is such a sweet woman. You can tell she's all for peace and light. We never really know the deeper side of people except we hear from them like this. To me she's just that lady who shares witty responses to things online.

We never also expect certain things to happen to us, we think it happens to THEM, but all meant to sharpen us to be better.

Well, give us more long form videos. Aluveeet.

[BrandonJohnson]

That last point on when you experience healing and inexplicable peace, and the marriage begins to get worse...😭😭😭

[SAmourMusic]

Thank you for your gift of wisdom and transparency. I’m so proud of you for choosing to do what was best and safe for you. 💛 Your peace of mind is important and you protected it. Sending you all the hugs and love!

[saturdayschild]

You did walk into the twilight zone. That switch up was because telling you he wanted a divorce didn’t break you like he wanted. The phone calls were his flying monkeys.

You did the right thing. That was really unstable behavior from him.

[BrandonJohnson]

Avoiding a place that was supposed to be an oasis for me...that's literally me right now. 😞

[ebonichaise]

Hey lady! Man....I was listening to this and I thought I was looking in a mirror... Out situations, although different.. have VERY similar components... Kudos to you for sharing-- I said with my divorce that I KNOW I didn't go thru all of that in vain...I know that it will be a blessing to others I reach...I too feel like you ...I do not wish my Ex ill will--- I pray nothing but blessings to him-- I did tell him that until he heals, do not bring anyone else into his sphere because it is not fair to them ...

Again, praising God for your continued And thank you for sharing.

[LouisaWatt]

Never put up with the yo-yo treatment. He says it’s over, starts moving things to send a clear message to you, tells others so that they can reinforce his message… and then he decides it’s back to normal less than 24 hours later? That guy wants to make the relationship unstable so his partner scared of saying no to any of his demands.

That’s not a relationship, that’s a power play.

[djh]

Ohh. This doesn’t sound like a Christian issue. It sounds like abuse, mental illness, & answered prayers (prayers to leave).

[toddie]

Thank you for sharing your story. That couldn't have been easy to do. Wishing you all the best in wherever life and God take you next 🙏🏾 😊💕