learning to love again.

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[chlofiDBD]

If you chase butterflies, they’ll fly away; but if you be still and patient you will find that many butterflies will land upon your steadiness

[bainmoosh]

bro went on a date outside of his comfort zone AND FILMED IT. so proud of you, keep strong.

[kaizen_]

This is literally the quote, “if you spend your time chasing butterflies, they'll fly away. if you spend your time making a beautiful garden the butterflies will come to you. and if they don't come, then you still have that beautiful garden.”

[DoodleBricks]

"I have so much love to give for someone, but that someone isn't there yet, and that's really frustrating." I felt that very deeply, and honestly made me tear up, because that is EXACTLY, nearly word for word, what I say and how I feel. It's hard. really hard. But I agree, you just have to let it come naturally, despite how hard it may be. I have to keep reminding myself of that.

This was an absolutely beautiful video with powerful messages. Thank you, so much for this. I really needed to hear that. 🧡

[juniorcarpenter]

I just discovered this channel 15 minutes ago and I was really shocked at how amazing this video is. The choice of music, the storytelling, the date itself, the ideas, everything about this video is amazing i kow you hear this a lot but you're truly one of the most underrated youtubers in this platform i hope you get the recognition you desrve

[Noah-jigk]

I wish I had a friend like you in my life

[sarahfranzoi]

gosh what a lovely video. it's so human to want to love and be loved. the desire for a deep and meaningful romantic love that brings stability and connection, and makes you feel seen and understood can be so overwhelming and frustrating when you feel like youre ready but its nowhere to be found. brads advice hits so different, , pour that love you have into yourself and the people around you, and it will only help you to foster healthier and more grounded relationships in the future. 💛💛💛 healing takes time, be patient and kind to yourself. sending so much love <3

[shapeshifta]

i love you so much in a platonic way. the way you just go around trying to spread positivity, you really inspire me dude

[ash]

I've spent the last year or so looking for romance after avoiding it for years. To me it's not even about finding the right person it's about feeling that attraction, comfort and love towards a person. As much as platonic love is so so so fulfilling, I still feel this little void of loneliness. Brad put it best "I have so much love to give for someone and that someone isn't there yet, and that's really frustrating". I think I'm beginning to realise all the ways I've been forcing myself into loving someone just to satiate that frustration. From settling for people who make me feel just enough to think about our potential to forcing myself into liking someone just because they meet my standards, as much as those experiences took a lot out of me emotionally and mentally it helped me realise that I need more time and that there's nothing wrong with that.

Thank you for this video, it was cathartic and comforting to watch.I hope we all find love that fills our hearts and makes life more beautiful.

[samiakhan]

I’ve intentionally not allowed myself to feel something for someone in like the last 4 years and for the most time I’ve been content with it until recently

[daytonlong]

i’ve felt this way before, you just have to let it happen, your friends are right, let yourself heal, let yourself be upset for a bit, another relationship will come to you, it’s all apart of life; i thought i would never find anyone n i didn’t really feel good without being drunk or high. we have our whole lives to experience romance don’t let one relationship ruin it and yourself

[MrZampo]

I used to have a crushes like every year and always falling for someone and then it really struck to me how unhealthy that was for me

I spent like id say almost a whole year without feeling even a single bit attraction towards anyone I was so focused on my career at the time, but now after all that I'm in my most healthiest relationship ever. Trust me guys it gets better after realizing u don't really need anyone unless they are that right person for you

[OfficialAwkbe]

Haven't been in a relationship or allowed myself to fall for anybody for 10 years, so I basically have no dating experience. Part of me regrets distancing myself due to past trauma, but during that time I also allowed myself to heal a lot of scars I had from past experiences and I became a better person for it. Self-love is so important, and now I'm in a much healthier mindset than I was years ago. I'm happier, more successful, and comfortable. Being alone can be really difficult and lonely sometimes - especially when friends around you date, get married, and have kids - but it's also really freeing and has it's benefits. In the end I think this experience will really benefit me and help me to become a better partner for whomever happens to walk into my life.

[vincyagain]

I’m so happy for you simon. It’s not easy trying to find courage to love again. Im so glad you did this and came to this conclusion. It’s better to love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. You are a whole person who deserves love and care even when you’re single. I hope you can do a lot of self care and adventures to make more memories alone. I think your person, when they come along will love your adventure stories!!

[mxurene]

You are right, those things are part of the process; waiting, feeling shame, confusion, being in denial, etc etc. you are in the process and it reminds me of what I tell people, how being confused, being impatient, frustrated are parts of the process; of finding out. there is someone thinking and waiting for you. Even if they don’t know you yet but think of the person that’s like you, that still counts!! we will continue to wait with you so please don’t give up even if it’s tempting to. endure being frustrated when being patient because I wouldn’t want you to sacrifice what you really want. Take care, Simon!!

[DavidDiaz-zrhv]

I really admire the courage for this content, normally people will not share about their personal lives and share learnings on them.

My last relationship was 3 years ago, and it was a tough break up. For the last years I started to focus more in myself and I am really proud of the results, but obviously there are still times in which loneliness hits (and hits hard). Similar to you, I was pretty scared of not being able to find someone who fulfills my “romantic fairytale” expectations and I was worried about it asking to myself “would I ever feel the butterflies in my stomach again?”

I really enjoy being in love, mostly because I can be who I am meant to be, and as painful as it may sound there will be times that you will feel alone and with no love regardless of how many people surround you. This last year I became aware of something: I can be in love with my friends, family, places, dogs, memories and with myself, and nowadays I can really say that I do not need to establish a relationship with any girl to be what I am meant to be.

This were 3 harsh years, I have never spoken about this with anyone, I learned to love again by myself and I am very proud on how this resulted, because now I’ve met a girl; would she be the one? I do not know. I only know that I am happy when she is around and this might be the beginning of an even better story. So, with all that I have learned and the maturity that I have constituted, I will not back down. Because you shouldn’t fear love; because you should embrace and enjoy it as long as it lasts.

I never knew the time when I was going to say this but I think I am into someone, and better yet, she is into me. So wish me luck. I am very excited on what is to come with her. I stopped waiting for someone to appear a long time ago, so stop waiting and start loving each moment you live. Life will give you what you deserve.

Send you love fam 🫶
Thank you for this video.

[Juliak]

i think i had a realization watching this. ive never been in a relaitonship. i sometimes crave love and someone to share experiences with and to love. but a lot of those things i could do by myself, loving myself. like going on cute dates and spending more time outside doing spontaneous things. i dont need to wait for someone to start living that life.

[egyptian]

oh man, it's crazy how last night I had a conversation about this exact thing. although I've experienced deep love (in a friendship sense) I have not yet experienced romantic love. I was feeling upset with myself for that reason because the way I feel has nothing to do with the people around me, but everything to do with myself. basically the advice I received was the same as this video. let go of the expectation that you "should" feel a certain way right now and just embrace it; learn to love yourself by being as authentic to you as possible; and be patient because healing, discovering, and learning takes time. so to anyone who has taken the time to read this comment, I hope that we all find what we're looking for someday 🤍 thanks Simon for this video

[nguissalythiaw]

Wow, Brad seems so loving, kind, and wise! I hope everyone has / finds a Brad in their life! <3

[cubdays]

Falling in love is one of the most beautiful human experiences. Ill never forget the first time I knew I was in love. At the time I was young and didn't understand it but falling in love the second time made me realize the feeling more. You have to accept it with open arms in order to understand, feel, and cherish it. Thank you for this video.