INFPs - 12 Rules for Life

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[StereoMyth]

Its underated how much effort you put into those videos. There is not a single word misplaced, everything is right to the point, while still being insightful. Good job mate

[StereoMyth]

I would add rule 13, be careful when you compromise logic for emotional stability.
I often find myself being capable of shifting my thoughts about a problem to feel better with myself rather than taking it as it is.
For example, you could find yourself in a dead end job that is comfortable to you, while understanding its a time sink and you should rather be working harder in something else to achieve more.
Its easy for INFP to bend their perception of any situation. It can be very helpful when you sense that you are overreacting, or that you need a different approach towards something. But on the bad side, it can create a bullshit state where you make bad decisions for yourself because you're afraid of the emotional implementations.
Its doesn't come from being humble or ignorant, its about feeling "being in zen with everything", as if its okay to be in a swamp as long as you can justify it to yourself.

[daniell]

I’ve always been rather lost in life. A square peg trying to fit in a round hole, so to speak. Ever since discovering that I am an INFP it really shed a light on my complex and often contradictory personality. I am highly self reflective and analytical but my issue is that no matter how much I reflect, it doesn’t change the fact that I have difficulty finding the motivation to act upon my reflections and create real change in my life. This ever growing sense of existential dread mixed with fits of undiagnosed depression and anxiety is an everyday battle. I feel like a walking contradiction in everything I do and at 23 years old I still have no true idea of what my future holds. The world feels like it’s crumbling around me and I’m just sitting in silence, watching it happen.

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0:0 Introduction
0:11 1.) Leverage The Outsider's Perspective.
1:02 2.) Create Things.
2:35 3.) Don't Wait For The Perfect Moment.
3:17 4.) Follow Your Heart... Unless Your Heart Is Being An Idiot.
3:46 5.) Structure, Organise And Systematise Your Life.
4:40 6.) Uniqueness Makes You Stand Out, But Similarity Allows You To Connect.
5:35 7.) Values Without Compromise Are Meaningless.
6:47 8.) Avoid Perfectionism.
7:15 9.) Follow Your Aesthetic Inclinations.
7:52 10.) Don't Always Assume Intent.
8:25 11.) Sometimes The Best Way To Help Someone Is To Stop Helping Them.
8:44 12.) Embrace The Power Of The Present Moment.

[Multitudes_]

One of my personal 'rules' is to try and use bad moods to get stuff done because, if I’m not going to enjoy my day anyway, I might as well be productive and free up more time to enjoy on better days. Exactly the kind of time when it's worth letting Te override useless feelings.

Feeding your mind with ideas, novelty, and general Ne stuff is also something I recommend doing when feeling stuck or uninspired. Getting stuck in Fi-Si mode for too long is not usually constructive. Sometimes you need some new ideas and perspectives to shake things up, create new inspirations, and open up new possibilities. Ne explorations can also really feed into the self-discovery and self-development process.

I feel like the aesthetic element of the INFP life is too seldom touched upon - it’s something I think people associate too much with Se and SFPs in particular. And I don’t know if maybe it’s a less consistent trait for INFPs, but I know it’s a huge part of my life!

I don’t think I'll ever personally lower my standards for my work or things I create, and I do think a lot of good can come out of that. For me, the way to make that sustainable is to have a quality-over-quantity approach. I reduce demands on myself not by sacrificing quality but by taking things slow and not demanding too much productivity of myself. There's also a difference between perfectionism driven by negative motivations like self-criticism or fear of inadequacy and perfectionism driven by the satisfaction of creating something good or bringing a vision to life.

But overall, this was an exceptionally accurate video. Good job!

[channingfreeman]

Reading comments, listening and trying to type out a comment. Starting the comment, then I delete it. Thinking way to far into the comment itself. Anyway, I'm very thankful for your videos, they teach me things and help me to understand myself. I am truly grateful.

[jobalak]

As an older INFP I agree with your great rules for our type, it is very hard for us in this world, I don't know if I'd survived without the help of a therapist. Rule no 5 structure and organize your life is very crucial, it helped me to reach stability in my career, I still struggle to connect with people. Thank you for your great work!

[jessiz-]

This is amazing advice that really plays to an INFP's strengths, while countering our weaknesses. Too often in the past I've found myself bogged down by small details (perfectionistic tendencies) or waiting too long to take action (also related to perfectionism). It's difficult finding that inertia when you never feel ready... but at some point, it's best to jump right in. "People are often malicious more out of ignorance than intentionality." <-- This is also a really good point to keep in mind. INFPs have a tendency to get stuck in their heads, especially when it's something we feel strongly about, and as a result, our views can become a bit skewed.
Seeing the title of this video pop up in my notifications made me smile. I've always felt like an outsider, but your videos make me feel understood 🥰 How do you do it? Thank you, Nathan 💖💖

[betulk.]

Thank you, as an INFP with general anxiety and "perfectionism sickness " your video made great points that would help me. I felt truly understood, which is something I rarely feel :(

[andrewgeorge]

Incredible mate. Saving me thousands in therapy~

[coffemuse]

This video hit a lot of pain points for me. In fact I did the stereotypical INFP thing and cried a bit. I will listen to this again a few times and try to face some of this stuff. Thanks.

[fathima]

Exceptional people skills was the only thing I couldn’t relate to as an INFP. I’ve been held back my whole life by crippling social anxiety and no one to share the intense and dark emotions I have from my childhood with..i love people and love trying to understand them but I can’t seem to connect well and make lasting relationships with them no matter how hard I try..INFP is a lonely type and these dispositions make me feel even more lonely among other INFPs

[solarisan_]

1. Happy Birthday 🎉🎂🎈🎁🎊 (I hope I didn’t get the date wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️). You may, or may not celebrate it, but I still wanted to take a moment to appreciate a day that I am sure matters greatly to those around you if not to you personally.
2. Thank you for the video. My mom (who is an INFP) is going through a challenging time and I seek ways to help and support her. I will keep your suggestions in mind 🙏🏻😇🥰✨

[VintageCR]

just number 2 alone, crating things, if that means a good meal or a short piece of a story(writing) or idk.. art, or something created in a video game gives me so much satisfaction. it doesn't have to be perfect right away but i can ponder and dream about making it perfect.

[bodine]

My reactions as an INFP:

1) Yes
2) Very Yes
3) Really good life advice
4) Why are you calling me out?
5) Yes, but also no lol. I have a bullet journal and to-do lists sort of work. I'm constantly trying organization systems and abandoning them because they feel like a prison. I literally felt less creative with time blocking, which was a big problem as a writer
6) YAAAAS. Hard learned lesson but so much yes. I remember how offended/hurt I was the first time someone called me "basic" for liking pumpkin spice, but it was silly.
7) No. I compromise too much trying to avoid conflict. This is really bad advice for an INFP.
8) yeah...yeah definitely.
9) Lmao I love this advice.
10) I don't think this is something I struggle with for now, but probably good advice.
11)
12) Oof, yeah. I am so bad at this, but I'm working on it.

A lot of these remind me of a younger me and how undeveloped I was in some areas. Very nice video <3

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[justthatguy]

Enfj here woah i never knew someone can actually be this smart like what the hell. I keep watching this guys videos and almost see all of them well the important ones

[harmantumber]

#9 is very interesting. I think I just recently started doing that and this video solidified this concept.

[AngelsAndButterflies]

I can't wait for the ESTJ one 😍
Also as a person with two close INFP friends, I can totally see this advice being helpful to them and them giving this advice

[sunshineandrain]

Speaking of organizing things, I decided to reorganize my hobby storage closet last night at 1:00 in the morning. I’ve been stressed out lately and for some reason it made me feel better. (INFP)

[halalgordonramsay]

i’ve liked each and every comments here, especially the one thanking Nathan cos he’s doing an incredible job. but i also wanna thank all of you who left very thoughtful and helpful comments, yall are also incredibly smart. you’re doing an amazing job attracting like-minded people, Nate!